Can I do anything to save my relationship?

[Anonymous]

I had an argument with my boyfriend, he was honest but I kept asking him over and over again and made him feel like I didn’t believe him. He said he wanted to end the relationship because of this. I know he is a trustworthy person but I have serious trust issues from childhood. And I’m trying to overcome it. I never reflected this to him except for this topic. He had a lot of bad things happen to him in his previous relationship because of trust issues (she was very very toxic). He said "I'm afraid of turning into a toxic relationship, trust issue is a big problem and it can happen again at any moment." The respect between us never broke down but I'm sad that he gave up so quickly. I've self awareness, I'm trying to heal and I'd expect him to hold my hand during this process instead of giving up so quickly. What should I do in this situation? Sorry for my English by the way I'm not a native speaker

Updates

1 y

Up

Updates

1 y

+1

[Daniela1982]

Sometimes you just have to pack it up and move on. Issues like this will probably play peek-a-boo now and then and you will be fighting it every step of the way. He has already packed up his kit it seems. You may as well do the same as you can't make a silk purse out of a sow's ear, or force anyone to do anything they don't want to do.

[Asker]

You're right but it hurts. He was the nicest guy I've ever met and ruining the relationship with my trust issues make me feel guilty

[biabyblue9]

If you already tried then he is not for you, you can find another person that's for you. But remember, you don't have to be in a relationship, you have to learn to be with yourself.
Send you a big hug and I hope you feel better

[Asker]

Thank you a lot ❤

[BoopBoopBeep]

"he was honest but I kept asking him over and over again and made him feel like I didn’t believe him"

Sorry, I'd be done with you as well. That's irritating "AF" as the kids say now a days.

Best of luck to you next time around.

[Asker]

I know my fault and I didn't do it to irritate him. It was just something I couldn't help at that moment. And I think if he wanted me enough he wouldn't leave at the first mistake I made

[BoopBoopBeep]

I hear you, but from a guy's standpoint, that's just emotionally exhausting, and the chances of it being a one-time thing aren't good enough to rolling those dice again. The most important thing to a great many of us is peace at home, you provided the complete opposite of that.

"He wouldn't leave at the first mistake I made" applies when you knock over the cake me made for his mom's birthday. What you did is going to instantly think "nope don't want a lifetime of this drama."

[bededazzle]

he has his issues. trying to convince someone who has their mind set is usually a bad idea. i think you should give him space and he can reach out if he changes his mind. sorry

[Staximus]

You need to be up front about your trust issues and why you have them if you expect a guy to deal with them and not just leave

[Asker]

I've told him that it's about childhood

[Staximus]

Yeah but did you tell him before or after you subjected him to your trust issues?

[Asker]

After

[Asker]

But I couldn't say it all of a sudden