How do I respond politely to my husband's mother calling me a dumb bitch all the time?

[Anonymous]

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My husband doesn't know she calls me this.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

Good Lord, that's rude. I would probably avoid her or simply not reply. Perhaps you can try to prove her wrong (Although most people don't like to be proven wrong,)

it would seem your husband should take a step in and defend you as well

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

Per your update, perhaps he should be made aware. I'm pretty sure my wife would tell me if my mom ever called her anything remotely close to a bitch.

[Hulk_kitty]

You should say in an assertive manner? Please don't talk to me like that!

Or

Are you having having bad day? smile with a stare and walk away.

But also its unacceptable that your husband allows her mum to speak to you like that. Regardless that it is his mum, doesn't mean he can't say something to her.

[Hulk_kitty]

People are rude to you, and continue to be rude to you, if you let them get away with it. I have realised we are not much different from the animal world, if you show weakness, can't stand up for yourself. other people will treat you like dirt. Same as the animal world, if you are not strong and don't stand your ground, all the animals will have you for dinner.
Fear = weakness in the human and animal world.
Good friend told me many years ago, Jim grows some balls, and stand up for yourself. It hit me hard, and now I do. I don't care if they don't like me for it.

[Hulk_kitty]

I think its better to be, disliked for standing for yourself, than to be liked and disrespected like a chump.

[Hulk_kitty]

Well you should say something to him, its unacceptable behaviour.

[HelpfulWoman]

cut her off. your husband should be setting a boundary for her or he's someone to divorce.

PSA: YOU DO NOT NEED TO PUT UP WITH "FAMILY" WHO DO NOT APPRECIATE YOU.

[Asker]

My husband doesn't know.

[HelpfulWoman]

he should.

[Asker]

I don't want to destroy their relationship.

[HelpfulWoman]

then you're being a dumbass frankly.
So either get fucking over this dumb shit and tell him and assert your boundaries with HIS support to his mother.
Or shut the fuck up and take it.

[Anonymous]

Oh wow. Just tell her not to speak to you like that and tell your husband

[BourbonAndBacon]

If she's calling you a dumb bitch then you do not have any obligation to respond to her politely. Your husband needs to know

[exitseven]

Don't reply Wait her out. Odds are she will die first. Maybe you have input in her nursing home too

[Ironic_Method]

You... haven't told him? You say "all the time", but can't communicate to your husband?

[boggboss]

Why is she free to call u this all the time

[Asker]

She thinks I'm stupid.

[boggboss]

So if u called her a cunt whenever u saw her it would be fine?

[boggboss]

So why have u never told him

[Asker]

Because my husband will go off on her and it will cause tension between them. I don't want to ruin their relationship.

[boggboss]

Sorry your being a idiot u are attempting to protect the mum from her own behaviour would your husband want you to be keeping it a secret

[HelpfulWoman]

LITERALLY.
But hey asker, where's the "you sound like me mil" to boggboss? Or are you not only a dumbass, but a weird sexist one?
Fucking troll at this point

[bededazzle]

there is no need to be polite

[bededazzle]

i would say be calm but very very strong and assertive

[Anonymous]

No she shouldn't call u that
Tell ur husband

[Asker]

I don't want to tell him. It'll destroy his relationship with his mom.

[Opinion Owner]

No u will never do