What do you think about online relationships? Can they work?

[cherriibly]

Can online relationships work?

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5 mo

I think real life relationships make more sense than online👀

[Greedier]

By experience... No, they usually don't.

I'm not saying it's impossible, but it's unlikely. And if you both love far away from each other, the success of it relationship becomes even more unlikely.

Meeting people online is more like a fantasy. You can never know who someone rlly is online, after all, you're not rlly seeing them in 3D.

Users can impersonate any persona online and you'll ever only know as much as they let you know about them.

Well, unless you do meet up with them irl and get to know them in person.

However, when you meet someone online there's usually always a distance factor which contributes to unsuccessful online relationships.

Besides, people that rely on apps and internet to find someone are usually only there because they can't find someone irl or because they're bored, so most of them will leave you as soon as they find someone irl that they like and lives closer to them.

Ofc though, it doesn't mean all online relationships don't work out but a handful of them are just a waste of time.

I guess, the sooner you meet up with them irl, the better your chances will be.

*You'd still have to take safety measures seriously though, specially for the first meeting

[Sirenboobzilla]

I've never been in one. I think that, while there are of course exceptions, it doesn't generally work. Physical intimacy is an essential part of a relationship. Not just sex, but things like hand holding, hugs, kisses, etc. There's a physical aspect that connects couples that I simply cannot fathom existing through an online relationship.

This isnof course assuming that the entire relationship from the start has existed online.

[Finchie40]

Yes , as long as you both choose
Each other and make it work , I married my online friend that I thought I would never meet in person , her and I were just friends for a long time before we officially met each other , We met in a chat room and became chat buddies , when we first officially met each other we fell in love and got married and made 3 beautiful children together we were married for 15 years , we are separated now , but we are still friends and I still love her for being the mother of our children , so yes online relationships can work

[cherriibly]

Wow 🥹

[Finchie40]

The key to any relationship is honesty , and respect and trust , when you find that with someone keep them by you as much as possible

[cherriibly]

Tbh, I did not expect that, marriage, wow I am surprised, yes you are right 😊☺️

[Finchie40]

I was 18 years old when I met her online , the good old American online days when internet was slow as shit and more innocent compared to how it is today , Her and I were just friends that stayed in touch for like 4 years until we finally met , when her and I met we both felt like we knew each other and fell on love. The only thing I did t know about her was knowing she had mental illness that I had no clue how to handle when she had episodes , pretty much why her and I are where we are at today , she suffers from anxiety and depression and PTSD , and OCD , it was one of the hardest relationships I ever been in. So my advice to you is to check his medicine cabinet before you get serious with him lol

[cherriibly]

Oh wow, I think she should say that she has mental issues

[Finchie40]

You are correct , she suffers from anxiety and depression and PTsD , it wasn’t normal what so ever

[cherriibly]

Yess,

[myloveforuisinfinte]

What's the point of separation then? lol

[Finchie40]

@myloveforuisinfinite To keep my sanity , her mental illness got worse and worse through the years , it was not easy to handle what so ever , Picture being in a relationship with Dr Jekyll Mr Hyde. Being loved and wanted for a short period of Time , then being treated like total shit and hated and belittled and criticized , out of no where , leaving you with a constant question mark on your head at all times , not knowing if they are speaking the truth or the mental illness is talking , It’s not normal what so ever , She would also have episodes where she would argue and fight with me and say evil shit and leave , not knowing where she was going and not knowing if she was coming back . It was a toxic relationship. I felt no peace and happiness , my final straw was when I busted her meeting a co worker at a hotel , that’s when I threw in the towel and ended it with her , She claims she wasn’t cheating on me , I just shook my head and told her it’s over because I knew she was talking
Out her ass , and her coworker tan like a little bitch because he knew he was wrong , cuz he was married as well. So I don’t tolerate shit like that what so ever. She has been trying to get me back ever since I can’t give her my heart fully again , so we are mutual for the kids sake , I don’t hate her , I just don’t trust her , she forgets a lot of things she does and doesn’t remember a lot of things she does , it’s sad to be honest , I just can’t handle it anymore

[RoseySarah]

Nice way to meet but very bad long distance.

The longer your apart the higher the chances are for a break up or something happening to end it.

Basically how dating apps are meant to be used. Meet online talk a few weeks plan a meet up and get together or stop.

If your together then regular meet ups. Completely ldr are fantasy without a goal!

[cherriibly]

Yep you are right

[RoseySarah]

Thanks for your liking 😌

[Paris13]

I Once Married a Muslim out in Egypt and even Lived Out There for Awhile. I had Another LDR Relationship from Here, Dear, But I Broke It Off. Yes, It CAN Work But Takes Effort On Both Parts. xxoo

[OlderAndWiser]

How do you define "online relationship." Many people define that as simply meeting someone on a dating app or other online social media.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I don’t believe in online relationships, If I can’t touch him and enjoy having him by my side, what kind of relationship is that?

That’s a torture instead of pleasure.

[cherriibly]

Fr, i agree

[AviatorTom]

Yes, online relationships can work, but eventually you have to meet.

[RingOfFire]

Initially meeting someone online and then dating them in person. Sure, nothing wrong with that. It's as good a way to meet someone as any.

But "online relationships" as in an ongoing relationship where you have never met someone and only talk with them online. No, I don't think that is a good way to invest your feelings. Even after you meet someone in person you can't really get to know them until you spend a lot of time together. When it's all online, there is so much missing that there is really no way to get to know them on a human to human level. It's really just a fantasy, not a real relationship.

So no, I don't think long term online only relationships are a good way to spend your feelings. You may be investing in something that is completely different than what you think it is.

[RingOfFire]

"I think real life relationships make more sense than online" 👍

[rosemilk]

this is just my opinion, but i don't think online relationships are even real relationships. the most you can do is text or talk on the phone. you are missing out on a TON of things that actually make a relationship a relationship. so i don't personally think they work

[LoveWorkingOut]

I think its hard to trust people in real life. On intrrnet it would be harder.

So how can u be sure that girl or guy only talk to you?

Even on this site, they can message any people and tell u you are the only one they message, just as an example

[cherriibly]

Yep i agree

[LoveWorkingOut]

Thanks:)

[cherriibly]

U are welcome

[LoveWorkingOut]

Kibar kız

[SphynxUK]

Online relationships aren’t relationships unless you have contact in person.
You never know someone truly unless you spend time in their company.

Long distance relationships can work because both parties make the effort to meet as regularly as time and money allow.

[Joshydavid25]

Real life relationships definitely make more sense than online, but I do believe long distance relationships can work, but only for a certain time.. Gotta meet up sooner than later.. And having it continuously be online/long distance ain't the way either.

[iFarted]

I know of a couple from here. I think they're still going strong. The last time I spoke to one of them they were together for 4 years and visited each others countries a few times.

I think it just takes a lot of effort, trust and good communication.

[etsylo]

currently in one and have been with the same one for years. he's such a great guy, i swear. i love him.

i believe they can work if both of you are compatible, have proper communication (try to at least) and if you're willing to have patience knowing you're distant. a LOT of trust is involved too and i know it can be hard.
it's possible to make it work!!

[Truthatanycost]

Have you ever met?

[etsylo]

Not yet, but since we're both old enough to, we are meant to meet soon early next year. We've talked about it <3

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Not into it. If you mean long distance relationship through the internet, that seems impractical and a waste of time unless they will be together within 6 months to 1 year to get their things together, otherwise they are just wasting their time.

[cherriibly]

Yes and sometimes they say lies to each other because it's online

[Amara_09]

They work but personally for me, since I don’t do relationships but if I am going to see them for a little longer then why not?


We can surprise each other whenever so I don’t mind talking online or FaceTime

[blueonblack22]

How often do you see guys asking this question? It’s seriously sad (and even horrifying) how many women are content with virtual attention.

A “virtual” relationship is not a relationship. It’s nothing.

[ChicoFromThe305]

If both people are in the same page with it then yea, that's just the most complicated part tho, it's finding that specific compability

[cherriibly]

Yes and I think loyalty is also important because some people easily lie to their lovers because it's online , like for example he or she is fat but say like:I am fit 😩

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea online dating has a lot of complications and even if you are the perfect person for online dating, what are the odds that the other person is too right? 🙃

[sawno]

I had an amazing one, would have worked if we could transition to in person earlier but the circumstances didn't allow it. Make sure you have a realistic get together plan that doesn't take to long.

[NathanDavis]

not something I have tried myself before... so I can't say much about it, other than I know they would not work for me...

I need the true closeness, and want it too

[syncheart]

In my 21 years of experience. The answer has been no. But it could be because I have every personality disorder in the book. Or it might be because they always lived so far away that we couldn't take it offline.