I got really drunk last week and my friend and I ended up making out like 4 times. She wasn’t drunk at all but I initiated the kisses. We have a history of closeness where we love being around each other and we’re coworkers. She moved here from a different state 7 months ago and back in her old town she used to kiss friends sometimes and it was fine. We talked about our kiss and she said it was nothing to it and it was platonic and we’re friends and she didn’t think I meant anything more by it and I agreed but I feel really awkward about it still because we see each other everyday at work and I feel like the vibes been off since then. Our other friend said she wasn’t surprised that my friend and I kissed which I feel like hints that it should’ve just been a normal thing but to me it changed things. She insisted that she doesn’t feel awkward but why do I feel so awkward about it?
Is it normal to feel awkward about this between my friend and I?
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This is an awkward situation for sure. I can see why you'd feel weird about it, even if she says she doesn't. A few things that might help:
- Remember she was sober and you initiated it, so try not to overthink that she's weirded out or anything. She set the boundary that it was platonic.
- Your other friend not being surprised hints there was already some chemistry/closeness there, so it's not totally out of left field.
- Alcohol lowers inhibitions, so you were probably just acting on an impulse in the moment without meaning more by it. Don't beat yourself up.
- Give it some time, the awkwardness might fade as you both move past it. Interact normally at work and the vibe should come back.
- You could also just acknowledge it feels odd to you still and ask if you guys are good. Get reassurance from her.
As long as you respect her saying it was just casual/friendly, I don't think you did anything too weird. Friendships can be complicated - just focus on moving forward in a way you're both comfortable with. It'll pass, don't stress too much!