I’ve never really been much of a romantic affectionate person in my life I don’t know why I just haven’t. I like having sex as intimacy but apart from that I’m not an affectionate person really much I can come across as not interested. I don’t know what deep trauma has caused that lol.
I’ve known this guy for 5 months and usually I’m very comfortable and open but for some reason I’m not? It’s really awkward as we’re having a baby together as he got me pregnant the second time seeing him and we both decided to keep it so I feel like everything is rushed? Is it normal I feel awkward to speak to him about moving in together, we’re literally going to move in together and we’ve known each other this short so it just feels awkward sometimes and forced as I wouldn’t usually move in with someone until like at least 1 year.
Or even talking about the baby I just get awkward sometimes because I feel like it’s going to overwhelm him since it’s so rushed into? Or even speaking to him about important things I just get scared of his reaction because I don’t know him properly to even predict him? I even feel awkward inviting him to scans because I just feel like this relationship has rushed so soon. Is this an indicator I don’t love him or would this be seen as normal to you guys since the fact it’s so rushed and we’re literally having a baby barley knowing each other.
Honestly sometimes I just feel so scared to communicate my needs and important things to do with the baby situation because It’s just so rushed? It takes me a whole few days to even get the guts sometimes to ask him a serious question to do with the baby since usually when two people have a baby they’re married or it’s planned.
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It's natural to feel nervous or awkward when it comes to communicating with your partner, especially if you are in a new and uncertain situation like having a baby together. It's important to remember that communication is key in any relationship, and that open and honest communication can help build trust and understanding between you and your partner.
It's understandable that you may feel overwhelmed or anxious about moving in together or discussing important issues related to the baby, but it's important to approach these conversations with your partner in a calm and respectful manner.
Consider taking things slow and discussing your concerns and expectations with your partner. Be honest about your feelings and needs, and be prepared to listen to your partner's perspective as well.
Remember that it's okay to take the time you need to adjust to this new situation, and to seek the help of a therapist or counselor if you need additional support in navigating this challenging time.
It's also important to prioritize your own well-being and to take care of yourself during this time. Make sure to practice self-care and to seek the help of a trusted friend or family member if you need support or guidance.