Have you ever left your partner because you felt he/she is not happy with you?

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BullShark · Accepted Answer

Took me a while to understand this, but yes. I have. After stringing my first girlfriend along for five years, refusing to accept that she really was bad for me, I finally gave up on us and decided to cut her off.

We had our ups and downs, sure we all do, but she was getting to be exceedingly abusive, nonchalant about her actions, openly admitted to liking other guys while being with me, and refused to elaborate (so don't come on here blaming me and saying "oh you should have communicated better" as if I didn't). Some people just don't want to talk because they don't want to face the truth and they're simply looking to avoid confrontation.

So after a rude awakening and catching her with someone else, I finally decided to cut her off three years ago. It was painful, but it was for the best, and I was beyond damaged by that time, to the point my existing relationships were getting affected.

We met each other again recently in October when we saw one another at a mutual friend's wedding, and I found out she was already seeing someone new now and that she's happy. She asked me if we could meet up some day and catch up, but I politely refused the offer. She was taken aback as she isn't used to hearing no, and a part of me ached as well, but it's for the best

TalkWithoutSpeaking · Accepted Answer

I haven't done this. But I could see where it comes from. I've never experienced feeling that she is not happy with me as such. Perhaps at times I felt like I might be boring and then worry if she thought I was boring, but then with good communication, it came to the light and resulted in being just a paranoid thought of mine.

The feeling of not being enough is very common. It's insecurity at its best. One of the main goals in a relationship, I think at least, is to be able to speak freely about these things.

electromagnetic · Accepted Answer

I have. Not because I didn’t think they were happy but because I felt we were pretending. I couldn’t get myself to admit that over time it wasn’t going to work out because I knew my family would lose their mind.
Sometimes, I wish I didn’t but we’re both happy in our relationships and occasionally hang out with our social circle.
The love for each other will always be there though.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

Not the situation I've ever experienced.

There could be many reasons on my side... but if he is not happy it should be his call, not mine. I can't decide for him how happy he is and if current situation is solvable to him.

I personally would like to know why he feels unhappy and what we can do to improve our relationship. But as I said, it's not my experience.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes, I was with a girl that was very negative and miserable constantly, she had severe anxiety and depression to the point I couldn’t handle it anymore , I was pretty
Much a walking punching bag , I had to end it and move on for my sanity

AviatorTom · Answer

No, most of the time, she left because she was unhappy with herself.

Bubbles934 · Answer

No but I do feel like I should at times. I have 2 kids and we both work our asses off to have everything. The work gets to him at times and the kids aren’t his (even though he loves them). He’s depressed in his job but he can’t change as it’s the only job he could get where he earns enough. I keep telling him he should be enjoying his life and he can do all the things we’d like to do like travel etc but he refuses.

sawno · Answer

One partner wanted to do that out of insecurity despite me being very happy with her, made her promise that she'd never do that and leave that choice up to me. I promised in return i'd leave her if I wasn't happy with her so she could trust me in my honesty that I wanted to stay. I stayed.

smne35 · Answer

No I'm all my relationships, I was open communication was open honest, expressed or thoughts freely unobjectionably, I was the one who usually broke it off even were were getting too close, it was a weird time for me was doing so much, I wanted a relationship but for reasons I know understand I didn't want to get too close to anyone at that time in my life

Natasha2024 · Answer

Yesss mainly because if i was the one for them, they would be happy but it also depends like are they not happy with you because u did something or is it because they're just generally not happy with you.

Screenwriter · Answer

This would be a primary reason to exit a relationship. And because they aren't happy with you, how can you be happy with them? It has to go both ways.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Yes I did leave a partner once because she acted like she was not happy with me. However in this instance she was gaslighting and I determined that she was a toxic person.

Coolcow245 · Answer

Why would I do that? If I’m not apart of it then no I don’t want them to be happy. They can only be happy with me. I want them to be miserable in my absence.

noohair · Answer

Happyness is and internal emotion. You can't make someone else happy. You have to allow yourself to be happy.

NathanDavis · Answer

no, no reasons to

_no_one_ · Answer

I kinda want to but i don't think i can

Luméa · Answer

Nope I did not felt something like that

CovetedDUCHESS · Answer

No, that's up to them to leave

sheikalana · Answer

Nah I never felt that.

Litoidiotalltalk · Answer

Yes and I can’t wait to Again be sucks

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

NOPE

Akam93 · Answer

Nope

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