Is It Okay To Leave Your Partner Because They've Became Depressing?

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elduderinosupreme · Accepted Answer

Not everyone is emotionally equipped to handle a partner that is mentally ill. I have had the experience with family that being around mentally ill or persons with addictive personalities are not something I will deal with. If someone refuses to help themselves you're doing more harm to yourself by sticking around.

slatyb · Accepted Answer

You can leave at any time for any reason. You don’t owe anyone months of your life. If you are done, then break up and unwind things as amiably as you can. If you think your partner won’t handle it well, then protect yourself.

TremorJay · Answer

When you say partner, are you married or not? It makes a difference to me, because I see dating as the trial period. You've not made any vows because you're still learning about this person.

If you *are* just dating, I would recommend you leave. You're basically asking for permission here, and you've already got one foot out the door. You should not choose to stay because of abstract moral obligation.

You stay because you care and you trust the other person will find and accept the help they need to get better. It's a sacrifice to stay and you get to make that decision. There is no right or wrong.

However, if you're married, you likely made a vow to stay by your partners side through sickness and in health. I still wouldn't say you're forced to stay, but those are serious words and it's pretty foolish and fucked up to not take them seriously. There's a clear right and wrong in that situation.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Absolutely.

You have to look out for your own mental health. If your partner isn't taking care of themselves or their mental health, and it begins to negatively affect you, you have every right to leave.

I left my ex in part due to that, and I levelled an ultimatum on my current partner when he stopped taking his mental health management seriously.

Since the ultimatum, he attends therapy more regularly, went back on his medication, and has greatly improved. He's started doing better at work, has lost weight, and began working towards his career goals again.

But if he hadn't gotten his act together, I would have left him.

Mental health isn't something to neglect.

Even if it's just bad fit, though, you are always okay to leave. Hell, even if you're just bored, it's okay to leave (you might regret it though).

Always look out for yourself. You can't make someone else (who loves you) happy if you're not happy yourself.

MindYourEyes · Answer

It depends. Sometimes I’f the other person is severely depressed or where they both use drugs and feed off each other and drag each other Down negatively then probably best to leave. But kind of sad to abandon your partner. There’s always ups n down in life. If you love them then you’ll be there to help them come back up

Derekk · Answer

If you don't love them anymore, the best decision is to leave. For both parties' sake. If they become depressing for a week and you walk out with no communication or attempt to address the problem, it may mean you didn't love them that much to begin with.

We need a bit more context.

Pj1981 · Answer

Sure if you really don't care about them anyway. In that case you should do what you feel is right for you. If you care about the person it might be a very cruel act. It depends on how they treat you ad well I guess.

Account · Answer

It is okay. Sometimes you need to protect yourself, look after yourself and put yourself as a priority. I know it is harsh, but it is the truth.

KWill90 · Answer

Yes. A partnership is a two way street. If you're not married, you can leave at any time if you're not feeling fulfilled and happy. If a friend made you feel depressed all the time, would you want to spend time with them? Probably not.

Ninjazzed · Answer

Don’t let someone’s bad vibes rub off on you. If you need to then don’t hesitate. Your happiness matters too.

exitseven · Answer

Dating is basically a way to audition people who may be potential mates. Everyone has criteria that they follow and if a person is depressing it could be a deal breaker. People break up for all kinds of reasons. It sucks but it's life.

natured · Answer

NO IT's NOT OK, that makes you a very weak and wack person

Nikki_02 · Answer

If you try help them they refuse your help. If they get into heavy out of control drinking dangerous drugs I think so. Being a drunk and drug addict , smoking cigarettes, and bad hygiene for me is deal breaker.

Feelicks · Answer

Oh yes as soon as someone becomes a downer you should just abandon them completely. That's a great way to live your life that surely won't result in others doing the same with you.

Wetfet · Answer

I lost partners due to my depression. I dont blame them for leaving. I wasn't mentally stable and they deserve to be happy. Unfortunately i couldnt do that for them.

jeffryrobertbabb · Answer

I have been severely depressed. My girlfriend stuck by me, I will be forever grateful.

Anonymous · Answer

Is It Okay To Leave Your Partner Because They've Became a coldhearted useless piece of shit who doesn't know what committment is if it struck her in the face and who will leave at the first sight of trouble? christ lady don't get involved with anyone you're to immature to be in an adult relationship if you plan on screwing off the first moment trouble happens

UnknownGagsUser · Answer

They need so much care and support during the depression state why are you being so selfish leaving him?

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I guess it depends on how long they've been that way

anylolone · Answer

What ever reason you have for leaving a partner is ok. Just understand that this is true for all people, and that it might tatter one's image depending on the reason.

JennBITx · Answer

Depends. Did you cause it? If you leave are you going to give them any emotional support?

dragoblack · Answer

No. It's only ok if you give them support, but they don't do anything to work on the issue themselves.

Hanmakev · Answer

Yes but that’s the equivalent of leaving my girlfriend because she got raped it’s selfish asl to leave them in their time of need but you can I think your a piece of dogsht but you can

Yaharro · Answer

Are you going to Stop helping your best friend in his hard time big "NO"

rienna888 · Answer

Umm do you still love them? If you do theen you should stay or you might regret it.

Anonymous · Answer

If you have a partner and they become depressed, you're probably gonna be doing them a favor by leaving.

MrJMM · Answer

No. Fucking try to help them not just leave it would be even more depressing to them. Fuck.

fred_durst · Answer

Please don't guilt trip you? okay just leave him , he is real asshole

Anonymous · Answer

That means the love was fake. Or it wasn't even love. How unsurprising.

Slim57 · Answer

Do you mean became depressed or they're making you depressed?

Shy_Steve · Answer

It's okay to leave your partner full stop.

cute_kitty12 · Answer

No, in my opinion it is absolutely not okay

Alyssa11 · Answer

Yeah

Anonymous · Answer

no... why aren't you trying to help them?

Fuentes · Answer

Its ok to leave for any reason

siseñor · Answer

IS THAT FAYE?

Adam_West · Answer

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Privateacc · Answer

Why not try too help hiim first

Anonymous · Answer

It would show that you never really loved them..

pink_and_inlove · Answer

Can you explain how?

Sketti2021 · Answer

Mayhaps

REDHOTLINE · Answer

No I am not selfish

heartelectra__ · Answer

no its not

Anonymous · Answer

Isn't that greedy?

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