Is It Okay To Leave Your Partner Because They've Became Depressing?

[Anonymous]

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Please don't guilt trip me, people

[elduderinosupreme]

Not everyone is emotionally equipped to handle a partner that is mentally ill. I have had the experience with family that being around mentally ill or persons with addictive personalities are not something I will deal with. If someone refuses to help themselves you're doing more harm to yourself by sticking around.

[slatyb]

You can leave at any time for any reason. You don’t owe anyone months of your life. If you are done, then break up and unwind things as amiably as you can. If you think your partner won’t handle it well, then protect yourself.

[TremorJay]

When you say partner, are you married or not? It makes a difference to me, because I see dating as the trial period. You've not made any vows because you're still learning about this person.

If you *are* just dating, I would recommend you leave. You're basically asking for permission here, and you've already got one foot out the door. You should not choose to stay because of abstract moral obligation.

You stay because you care and you trust the other person will find and accept the help they need to get better. It's a sacrifice to stay and you get to make that decision. There is no right or wrong.

However, if you're married, you likely made a vow to stay by your partners side through sickness and in health. I still wouldn't say you're forced to stay, but those are serious words and it's pretty foolish and fucked up to not take them seriously. There's a clear right and wrong in that situation.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Absolutely.

You have to look out for your own mental health. If your partner isn't taking care of themselves or their mental health, and it begins to negatively affect you, you have every right to leave.

I left my ex in part due to that, and I levelled an ultimatum on my current partner when he stopped taking his mental health management seriously.

Since the ultimatum, he attends therapy more regularly, went back on his medication, and has greatly improved. He's started doing better at work, has lost weight, and began working towards his career goals again.

But if he hadn't gotten his act together, I would have left him.

Mental health isn't something to neglect.

Even if it's just bad fit, though, you are always okay to leave. Hell, even if you're just bored, it's okay to leave (you might regret it though).

Always look out for yourself. You can't make someone else (who loves you) happy if you're not happy yourself.

[MindYourEyes]

It depends. Sometimes I’f the other person is severely depressed or where they both use drugs and feed off each other and drag each other Down negatively then probably best to leave. But kind of sad to abandon your partner. There’s always ups n down in life. If you love them then you’ll be there to help them come back up

[Derekk]

If you don't love them anymore, the best decision is to leave. For both parties' sake. If they become depressing for a week and you walk out with no communication or attempt to address the problem, it may mean you didn't love them that much to begin with.

We need a bit more context.

[Pj1981]

Sure if you really don't care about them anyway. In that case you should do what you feel is right for you. If you care about the person it might be a very cruel act. It depends on how they treat you ad well I guess.

[Account]

It is okay. Sometimes you need to protect yourself, look after yourself and put yourself as a priority. I know it is harsh, but it is the truth.

[KWill90]

Yes. A partnership is a two way street. If you're not married, you can leave at any time if you're not feeling fulfilled and happy. If a friend made you feel depressed all the time, would you want to spend time with them? Probably not.

[Ninjazzed]

Don’t let someone’s bad vibes rub off on you. If you need to then don’t hesitate. Your happiness matters too.

[exitseven]

Dating is basically a way to audition people who may be potential mates. Everyone has criteria that they follow and if a person is depressing it could be a deal breaker. People break up for all kinds of reasons. It sucks but it's life.

[natured]

NO IT's NOT OK, that makes you a very weak and wack person

[Asker]

Okay?

[natured]

And it means that you never loved the person from the get go

[Asker]

Now you're attacking me

[Nikki_02]

If you try help them they refuse your help. If they get into heavy out of control drinking dangerous drugs I think so. Being a drunk and drug addict , smoking cigarettes, and bad hygiene for me is deal breaker.

[Wetfet]

I lost partners due to my depression. I dont blame them for leaving. I wasn't mentally stable and they deserve to be happy. Unfortunately i couldnt do that for them.

[jeffryrobertbabb]

I have been severely depressed. My girlfriend stuck by me, I will be forever grateful.

[Feelicks]

Oh yes as soon as someone becomes a downer you should just abandon them completely. That's a great way to live your life that surely won't result in others doing the same with you.

[Anonymous]

Is It Okay To Leave Your Partner Because They've Became a coldhearted useless piece of shit who doesn't know what committment is if it struck her in the face and who will leave at the first sight of trouble? christ lady don't get involved with anyone you're to immature to be in an adult relationship if you plan on screwing off the first moment trouble happens

[Opinion Owner]

not guilt tripping when it's the fucking truth about you being a coldhearted emotionless piece of shit

[UnknownGagsUser]

They need so much care and support during the depression state why are you being so selfish leaving him?

[FilmGuy93]

I guess it depends on how long they've been that way

[anylolone]

What ever reason you have for leaving a partner is ok.
Just understand that this is true for all people, and that it might tatter one's image depending on the reason.

[JennBITx]

Depends. Did you cause it? If you leave are you going to give them any emotional support?

[dragoblack]

No. It's only ok if you give them support, but they don't do anything to work on the issue themselves.