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I think morally speaking, yes it can be bad depending on the reason. If your partner is a abuser and beater, then yes, it is imperative that you leave and find someone better. I think the morality is questioned when you start talking about things like leaving your partner because someone has blue eyes and your partner as brown, or someone makes $100K and your partner only makes $60K. These things I mentioned, really are arbitrary on a grand scale and leaving someone for these reasons questions your morality in my view.
u If you are in a committed relationship, why are you spending time with another potential candidate?
It's all about you being happy. Because if you're not happy your partner is not going to be happy either. You say the situation in a relationship you have right now is good but if it was that good you wouldn't be exploring other opportunities. So either he feels more for you than what you do for him or you think the grass on the other side of the fence is greener. If you want to pursue the other guy dumped the current one because it's just going to end up being a total train wreck if you don't. Good luck to you
I dont get this question. If the relationship is good, everything is fine , and you loved that person, why would you leave? Why would you even bother considering/entertaining the idea. I get that its "someone better", but how do you know that?
The grass isn't always greener on the other side - its green where you water it. So instead of looking elsewhere why dont you focus on the relationship now, that you're in. I don't know - it just seems like common sense to me
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I wonder why many people would say NO, don't leave your partner.
First, let me clear that I am assuming by "better" you aren't talking about physical or any other shallow characteristics which can fade anyway.
So, if for example you don't get along with your fitness regimes or for a more serious matter, your career outlook, or a certain aspect of their personality and if you see better pros in the other person that you think you should be with, then why not.
But you should keep this in mind, that maybe the "better" person has flaws too which you don't know of yet and maybe even worse flaws or maybe you have certain traits which they would consider as flaws and are unknown to them at this stage.
But considering you have weighed out all of these possibilities and you still see that person to be better than there would be less disappointment for both of you if you leave your current relationship to be with the other person.
Because I think being in a relationship and liking someone else is worse.
Whatever decision you take, do it respectfully though. Respect the person you are with currently with and be empathetic towards them and their emotions too.
Secondly, I am assuming that you have had a talk on commitment with your current partner and what it means to both of you. For some people it is 2 years/3 Years/ no such time period/ as long as it is fun/ only one partner/ open with a primary partner etc. Depending on what understanding you have with your partner, you make your decision. But I wouldn't leave someone for example with whom I have a commitment of 3yrs or marriage even. That is ethically wrong unless it is a mutual decision or based on abuse or something of that sort.
There will always be someone out there who is “better” in some way. Better looking, better in bed, better personality etc. A lot of people, particularly young people tend to live in fear of settling for less. There is a difference between settling and committing. Settling is basically resigning to your situation because you believe it’s as good as it will get. Committing is making the decision to stay when things aren’t perfect and working through communication to make both parties in the relationship the happiest they can be. If you find yourself becoming attracted to other people than your partner that’s totally normal and will pass. However if you are obsessing over this new interest and putting your energy into them, then you are not holding up your end of the relationship and it is unfair to your partner. I’d recommend that before you make any decision as to whether or not to stay with your current partner you should try reinvesting that energy into your relationship and build on what you already have. Address what needs of yours that are not being met with respect, and if there is no change after some time then yes it’s time to go. One more thing: most men have already been left for someone “better” and can spot it happening from a mile away. Don’t cheapen yourself by lining up a plan B just to ease your own insecurities. Stick it out until you know it won’t work, and if it doesn’t you’ll at least know you tried.
How is the new person better? Maybe if you explained that it would help people understand why you’d give up a perfectly good relationship. But, to answer your question, things/people always seem great at first.. so if you’re leaving a long time partner for a new person.. it’s not a very wise decision. Tbh I hope he finds someone better.
You should for sure get to know the person before you break the others heart, and there's not much forgiveness in the world for people who always want better, new relationship will have new problems, and I'm kind of thinking you don't love them at all if you're beginning to really contemplate it at the sight of someone "better" especially if you see them as "better", if its not too deep into the relationship, its kind of ok to because you don't have to love your lover in the same intensity, but if it is then still do it but you need to really think about if you love someone in the next relationship before you break someone else's heart
Thats called "chaining".
Personally I feel it usually reflects pretty badly on a person. It shows they don't commit to a relationship earnistly, and frankly lining up your next one while still in your previous relationship is frankly little different from an affair.
Never the less it seemes pretty common and modertely socially acceptable for women, and to be brutally honest, if someone is inclined to and doesn't, the relationship they are in probably has its days numbered anyway. That person has bassically emotionally cheated, and will either do it again, or will begin to resent the person they stayed with when they could have had "better".
This seems to be theme today on here.
If you are even entertaining the thought of another person, then there is a problem in your relationship.
How do you know they are better? When you first get to know someone, everything seems lovely. Its only after spending lots of time with them that you really get to know them, so what you see as being a better person could in fact be awful and you will have ruined a relationship that was solid just to find out.
The saying the grass is always greener on the other side fits this well.
Nope. So you are saying you see someone better than your boyfriend? And that if its ok to leave your parner or to get to KNOW the other person. That means you dont know the other person. And its better based on looks. I dont care about that. I won't leave my partner no matter what. So are you asking if I would leave my boyfriend just because someone i dont even know? Nope. I wouldn't. . after that. I wouldn't want to know the other person while being in a relationship because that would be cheating. (Because You (I ) would wanted to dump your boyfriend for that guy).
Its a total shit.
We all deserve someone who really wants us. If you are still comparing then it’s clear you don’t really want your guy. Let him go so someone else can love him right.
So you propse emotional cheating to test the waters. You either like someone or you don't. What you descri e reminds me of people who can't be alone so they take the first person that comes along and then window shop. Always looking for an upgrade. In my opinion they would be better served to be alone and upgrade themselves until the right person comes along. The old saying, "You lose them how you got them.", comes to mind. Any woman that is in a relationship but pusuesing me is a red flag. She'd do the same to me in a heartbeat if we started dating. Just break up with the guy if he doesn't make you happy.
How would you know someone is better unless you have spent a great deal of time with him? It takes quite a while to get to know someone in great enough detail to know if they are worth keeping or not. And how could you spend a lot of time with this other guy and not your boyfriend? Either you don't know this other guy all that well or you were giving up on your boyfriend already.
That being said, regret is one of the worst feelings you can have. Choose carefully.
If you're not happy and love someone else, yes break it off. So that person can be with someone who really loves and cherishes them. That partner will heal in time, it may take months or years but they will move on. But don't stay if you don't really love them or want to be with them. You are only hurting them and yourself. You and that partner will be miserable.
There's a phenomenon that too many choices lead to dissatisfaction. Constantly looking for someone better just makes the looker ultimately unsatisfied with any decision that they make. So even the act of comparison leads to unhappiness regardless of whether or not you ever leave the person who you are with.
So what if the person your with doesn’t treat you right, practically ignores you, makes you feel like your pretty much single anyway. But then someone else starts treating you like your his entire world. Makes you feel happier than you have done in years! Is it acceptable to leave the other guy then? Because I think it is
You should never stay with someone who isn't right for you, or someone that you're not happy with. If you're even looking in the first place, that should be your first clue.
But if you're so unhappy, then why did you stick around so long to begin with?
Sounds to me like you're in it for the wrong reasons. A relationship isn't supposed to be some magic cure all that makes you happy.
Depends upon HOW your present partner treats you. If they're 'clueless' and continue to treat you as a 'given' despite you having both funded their possible allure and openly spoken of your feeling being taken for granted. Seems its time for you EACH to seek 'greener pastures'...
NEITHER of you is getting any younger; especially if there are no juvenile offspring in common as a concern. He/she is devolved to a mere in-house 'room mate' NOT a companion/lover.
How exactly can you know if someone else is better without spending too much time with them?
Either you are just looking at surface traits in which case you are shallow if you want to leave your partner based on those alone. Or you're already cheating in your partner by spending suspiciously too much time with that "better" option. In the latter case, you might as well do your partner a solid and break up already - you don't deserve them.
of course not. if this is what you think of them, you should definitely leave, cause you don't value this person. you'd only be doing them a favor since they deserve to be with someone who fully appreciates them :) so it's better to find that out sooner than later
Stay with your current partner while you get to know the other person. If over time you feel that you have more in common and have a better connection with with the other person, then it's fine to leave to leave your current partner. You only live once and your happiness is important 😆
If your thinking your partner is not good enough and are thinking about others you might as well lust end it no one wants to be the spare tire... if you dont know the other person well than why even bother and talking to another person behind your partners back is kinda fucked up. If your talking with the intent to possibly leave your current partner you shouldn't be in a relationship with that person.
Wtf? Of course you don't stay with them while you scope out your other options! You keep your eyes to yourself and be LOYAL, or you leave them if you're not gonna be good to them. And you don't at all sound like you deserve them right now. The grass is always greener on the other side but you're not meant to act upon it! But if you insist on leaving, do it ASAP amd don't waste anymore of the poor guy's time
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