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It's not bad. But what would be bad is staying with your partner while figuring out if this other person is worth breaking up with your partner for. You'd be stringing along two people in a scenario like that. It's not fair to your partner that you're with them just out of convenience. So either you want to be with them or you don't. And if you're constantly looking for someone better, then that tells me you don't want to be with them.
Ideally it wouldn't be right but at the end of the day, DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY! If the grass is greener on the other side then by all means go check it out.
The consideration for leaving your current partner for something better only shows that you may be "settling for less" as good as this partner may be they just may not be the one for you
All the best
If you are unhappy with your relationship to the point of moving on, you should break up before you move on. Definitely get to know the new person before jumping into a new relationship. Don’t cheat, it’s a crappy move.
Don’t string someone along just because you like the attention they give.
There's no way to know, if a partner is better or worse, if you are not fully committed. Our perception that our internal dialogue doesn't effect those around us is patently false. We all pick up on subtle cues. Be the best partner you can be, and stop focusing on what you think you could have better.
Your partner will reflect your effort and/or lack thereof.
Everything about this isn't icky.
or you should stay with your current partner and get to know the other person better before leaving
This is called monkey branching. Only fools do this and they are usually regret leaving.
That you escrube it as a better opportunity decries the mentality of a user. Only users think this way.
It's not wrong at all. All of these people telling you otherwise are wrong. If you're not happy in a relationship, you end it. If you feel as if you'd be happier with someone else, that's what you do. Leaving someone for someone else is better than cheating.
First question is why you are in such situation. You are in situation when you are not happy somewhere in existing relationship. You don't want to work it out to make it better? So in that case yes, leave it gracefully but will this search for better end with this new one. Or problem lies somewhere else which may be you.
It's good. If you feel you are settling and if they are with someone who doesn't really think they are that special it good on both accounts for the two to split.
Who wants to settle?
Who wants to be with someone who isn't that into them?
You did everyone a favor. They'd be glad too on one level if they knew that is really what one thought about them as a mate.
I say it is an asshole move to do especially if the relationship is good.
If you really love your current partner and the relationship really is good i recommend not destroying it for someone you think is a better option at the moment because if the other option ends up as not so much better in the end you will have to live with a bad decision and regrets.
Better? and how do you know the other person is better? this just looks like "grass is greener" syndrome.
If the person considers leaving a relationship with a loving partner is because she's not in love with him, so is best to leave and give him the opportunity to find someone who really loves him.
While everyone seems to blame the person for leaving his/her ' love', I, who was the one being left, would actually prefer my partner breaking up with me as soon as he finds more pleasure to be other women.
I was disappointed that he still wanted to explore his options, when we were in a committed relationship. But his feeling can change and that's normal. If he can't commit any more, I'd rather end it , instead of being cheated on.
The grass is never greener on the other side of the fence. and if you jump over it, it may seem greener, but then the same shit that made you jump the fence always returns. So careful, and DONT cheat! that is just whorish behavior and you not only break you mans heart, you will crush his soul.
Such a sad description. Who is better than other? On what? Who decides that.
In my opinion if you start to question your partner, then you should probably better to leave them. Because when you are with someone he should be best at your eyes.
All women are hypergamous.
Hypergamy:
Evolutionary Psychology theory on the instinctual desire of humans of the female sex to discard a current mate when the opportunity arises to latch onto a subsequent mate of higher status due to the hindbrain impetus to find a male with the best ability to provide for her offspring (already spawned or yet-to-be spawned) regardless of investments and commitments made to a current mate.
And men aren't? just curious
@Alifa No..
In other words, your reptile mind (perhaps, lower-self) suggests that it's the best option. Of course, this begs the question, what does the reptile mind of a male say? Treat women like birthing chambers? How should that inform ones romantic decisions in a modern society, not run purely on basal instincts. I suspect that it's difficult if not impossible to maintain one in the presence of the other.
Short answer. Don't be a creep. Use the higher brain function and empathy afforded by evolution to be more than an animal, maybe?
I don't blame them since most of the men are dumb anyway. on average females are smarter out of 100 female at least 20 of them are smart out of 100 males less than 10.
Guys follow what they see, they are very easy to play with, they are like a toy.
Put a white blond girl with bikini in front of them. they sell their house for one night with her.
@BraveRecreation I KNOW RIGHT, men do have other good qualities but there is a certain kind of smartness which they lack. lel
@Alifa as always said a smart man controls the females and females control other males it might sound sad but that's how it works most of the strip clubs exactly doing that.
People can cry about it, it won't change a thing.
If you have a chance with a better partner I would take it. just be smart and see how secure is it to be with him.
@BraveRecreation Totally agree, when people ask me what I think about strippers, tbh I find them to be very powerful women coz the men that call them names are infact the foolish ones who pay them well.
@Alifa Exactly they are biggers fishes toys.
No, it's not okey. If you are actively looking for new opportunities" (really, you had to use that word?) or concidering a "replacement" or "upgrade" then you are most likely not in love and in a relationship for wrong reasons. If you feel this way I would advice you to get familiar with the term "hypergamy" that explains what you are currently going through.
"Is it bad?" I dunno, I mean if you're feeling it with a new person as opposed to the old, what's the difference between that and when you first met the old partner? Isn't it the same thing? People are allowed to follow their feelings; there's no point in a couple being unhappy just because one half isn't really into the idea, right?
If you no longer love your partner then leave them! dont cheat on them and make the situation worse and dont stay with them just so you dont upset them its not fair and can cause a lot of damage. It certainly is not ok to get to know another potential partner (if thats your looking to do) while you are with somebody else. Just be open and honest leave if you are not happy.
I can tell you your the type of person that will always want someone better, its actually a part of your brain that is dominant. Just like how some people always want new clothes or car even tho there's nothing wrong with their old one. So even if you get with someone better, eventually you will want someone better again.
Yes, it is bad. You need to sort out why you feel the way you do. When you're in a relationship you're a part of that person. Leave them if they don't satisfy your needs and are unwilling to help you meet those needs. Then, after taking some time for yourself, to figure out who you are alone, consider a new partner.
Worse than bad, it's taking a huge risk that has no return path, only potential regrets b/c I believe the best is in our own backyards and perceptions of better are BS equals to politics and popularity