For example, a girl and boy who have been friends for such a long time and then fall for one another rather than a girl or boy off the street. You know one another better than anyone and even your dislikes. So is it true that friends make the best relationships?
I'm order to have a serious relationship you must be friends, but friends comes in two ways, platonic and emotional, friends will are platonic, it's true that the relationship is much more open, unhindered, due to no emotional or romantic ties, so the interaction is more genuine, without objection, but once it becomes more personal intimate everything changes, and the one open happy to lucky default becomes more serious and at times suffocate both of you, on paper behind best of friends with opposite sex looks like it can be a great serious relationship, but when intimacy is injected then the whole dynamics changes, becomes more possessive, controlling in way, and to a point estranged, you really don't know a person until feelings develope so it can be a great relationship transitioning from platonic to intimacy and personally I have yet to do anyone I know, succeed at it, in the end wind up as best friends in one instance it didn't end good at all, jealousy that had never showed itself appeared it if nowhere once they became intimate and it ended very ugly is all I will say but if you truly believe it can work all one can do is give it a go and be yourself
Yeah but why are you guys just friends to begin with though? I do agree but the thing is, I've been FRIENDZONED in the past and it did hurt. But I guess like if one can learn NOT to be selfish and watch your "Friend" that you like more than a friend, or that you are sexually attracted to, have sex with someone else, develop feelings for someone else, eventually MARRY that other person and then have CHILDREN with that other person.. or even complain about the their significant other to you, then yes, it can most probably work. But you gotta put your wants/needs/feeling aside for your friend to be happy. However, there's also a chance they just like you as a friend and then when you reveal your feelings to them, it CAN get awkward. Maybe they don't see you in the same way you see them. Maybe to him/her you're a 2/10 in looks, but yeah, a lot of people, when they get older, they WILL fall in love with their friend so it IS confusing, but yeah, I agree..
It takes maturity though and putting your feelings aside if in case it DOESN'T work out. I think it is better than dating off the bat and then breaking up and never having anything to do with the person ever again (like my ex did), or being DEDUCED to "just being friends" after you've been physically, sexually and emotionally intimate with them! It's ego busting to say the least.
My Ex and I was best of friends in our teenage years and our early 20s. We grew apart and wanted different things in the end, now it's been 5 months since and although it was painful I look back on what we had it was beautiful but we was still due to grow into who we are destined to be and unfortunately that meant we was destined not to be together. Friends can make a good relationship or even the best relationship or even the only serious relationship you can have in life but like most things in life it may not always last.
That is the beat way to do it. This one girl I had known forever but didn't really hang out till right after graduation. So we were just friends for like 5 years and I asked her out to dinner. Not actually an official date and not a fancy place either. Just a little corner diner.
We went back to my house to watch a movie and just naturally started cuddling during the movie. After it ended we went for the hug goodbye and it just slipped right out. And she said yes.
We did eventually split but we were together for quite a while.
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I've never dated one of my friends or seriously thought about it, so I can't say from personal experience or even anecdotes.
In my opinion they do make the best relationships because you know this person in and out. You've probably been through a lot together which makes the bond much easier to connect and have lots emotional intimacy which will only make the physical intimacy stronger.
Now this is not the case for every person, but I found it to be the case for me and my boyfriend. We were friends for many years before getting together and I feel our emotional intimacy and bond is so strong because of it. Which of course makes the physical intimacy strong as well.
Yes, and no. It's true that good friends often make the best couples, because you guys have already been through thick and thin together, you guys already know each other's likes and dislikes, and you know what the other person's faults are and how to look past them. But again, only if you two already have some romantic chemistry between each other and your relationship isn't like a brother and sister's.
On the flipside, however, it's usually advised not to date your friends unless you really love each other already, because a break up with them can hurt even more because you're not only losing a loved one, but also a friend
I feel that friends do make the best relationships. Reason being, is this because everyone wants to become friends before relationship. And if you're already friends, and you can already tolerate each other, then you're going to make the best relationship. Or a pretty damn good one because you already know the person. Now you can be romantically involved with them in a much deeper level. You can even be romantically involved with them just as friends with no expectations of anything more. But that can be changed at any point in time
Definitely they can make a good couple !!
Although most of the people think that it may ruin their friendship and everything will be over. But it's not the way it actually goes.
If your bond is strong enough and you both really seem to understand each other then definitely best friends can make a good couple.
Also if your counterpart doesn't feel the same for you as you feel, then they will let you know what they actually feel for you.
From my personal experience I can say that if you really love your best friend let him/her know about your feelings. Pour it all out in front of them as nobody will understand you better than your bestie!!
Even if you get rejected, it's not about feeling bad or acting weirdly after this. It's just that there is someone more special and deserving is waiting for you.
I tried it once. I wasn't super interested (she asked me out; I told her if we take it slow, I was up for giving it a try). But once we started dating, she got super possessive. And super intense. Clingy. It was not fun. Didn't really last. The relationship, which was abusive in many ways, was not worth trying to "fix." I decided on a clean break, because she could be VERY manipulative, and I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't try to manipulate us into another (unhealthy) relationship, so I just needed to stay away from her completely.
I liked her family though, they were pretty cool.
I'm sorry, but I can't say I fully agree with this. Don't get me wrong, On one hand, it can happen that way yes. But on the other hand, when a woman and a man become good friends, and one of them begins to develop feelings for that best friend of theirs,... in a realistic sense, I'm sorry that either may or most likely not end up that way. Considering if a guy develops feelings for his female friend, but she just merely thinks of him as a best friend/brother, that guy is locked in the friendzone, and she won't consider him as a romantic partner.
In some cases, the woman would change her mind and make her male best friend her romantic partner, but that's a very low percentage that would ever happen.
Yes, I even prefer that because I feel emotionally safer with them. I sometimes find that the process of dating is like being in a job interview; it's kinda unnatural. So I prefer a friendship first so the foundation is built on genuine respect and trust. Then I can move easily to a romance with that person.
What if you "bit the bullet" and you told them your feelings and they tell you that they do not feel the same way and only see you as a friend and nothing more. Would you still want to be around them if that were the case? That happend to me and I felt hurt and frustrated because then, he would be complaining about women that he liked, to ME. I was basically FRIENDZONED and stuck there. So there IS that as well..
I agree that the best relationship is with people we know very well before we start the relationship, but I'm not convinced we have to be friends. We can become friends during a relationship, and this should happen if we want the relationship to last long
Depending on the sign. Yes it’s good. BUT you have to be compatible. Been there done that. It’s very important to know the sign you are compatible with. I learned this after divorce. I study astrology and I now know how to deal with people according to their sign and also who to stay away from😉
I don't believe in that stuff. You are basing who you should hate based on superstition.
Yeah and the earth is flat too!
In an ideal world this is how it should be. If you become friends with someone first you get to know the real them. And the feelings come later.
But that’s not how it works 90% of the time. What usually happens is one person has feelings and the other person doesn’t. Then you are in a very awkward and heart breaking situation.
This is why I learned a very long time ago it’s never a good idea to become “friends” first with a woman I feel attracted to.
No. I have dated friends in the past. I am no longer friends with any of them. Too messy. Despite this, I need to form an emotional attachment before I date someone. I struggle to do that sometimes. So happy my partner and I just get each other lol
No, they don't. Friendships only lead to relationships when the woman ages out of the cock carousel and grudgingly settles for the beta make who has spent years orbiting her in the friend-zone. She then resents him for not being like the hot alpha guys she fucked in her prime and either treats him like shit, cheats, or leaves him.
I don't think women age out of the cock carousel as you would say unless they just want to or have been treated like total shit by every cock out there including me because yeah I'm an asshole I'm a dude it happens. They hit their prime later than we do and they can fuck as long and as late in life as they want to fuck.
@SimplyPut their prime is their 20's, sure they get dicked down their whole life but doing so just makes them broken whores who will die alone.
@SimplyPut if you want to simp for old hags I can't stop you, just know you come off as a pathetic loser.
I'm not simping for anyone. I was merely replying to your first message that was so ignorant I'm guessing you're probably a virgin still and your parents did not teach you any manners or respect whatsoever. But you are allowed to have your opinion no matter how uneducated and unwarranted it is. If that makes me a pathetic loser for respecting women of all ages and not using words like whore and slut (which are just total bullshit words made up by sexually frustrated fucktards like you and they want to label people that just have fun basically because what they have sex oh my God) I'm sure you're extremely happy being totally miserable so no more words for you it's not worth it.
@SimplyPut male feminists like yourself are a fucking disgrace.
Well little insecure small dick bastards like you that have to try to hold a woman down and stand on her throat or fucking just worthless air wasters. I bet your mama smacks the fuck out of your dad everyday for not getting his dick out of her before he came and made you. Is that what the matter is did your mom beat your dad in front of you and that you hate women or is it just because you're a small dick idiot that can't get laid. Probably ain't never even worried about giving a woman an orgasm have you as long as you get yours if you ever have been even around a woman you don't care if they get theirs. You're a fucking disgrace to human kind not just males.
@SimplyPut you obviously didn't have a dad or had a weak one. You are the textbook definition of bitch-made.
I take this a different way with friendship is already the best relationship. You don't need romance to be involved to have a healthy, life giving, supportive, emotionally intimate, platonic relationship. I would agree that friendship is important to have in a romantic relationship, but friendship is also enough in and of itself, it does not need to lead to anything "more".
Well not really. If your woman friend wanted to be someone's wife and a mother, well... it will be a mismatch.. unless you can agree to marry and have babies with her..
Just because she wants to be a wife and a mother didn't mean she wants to be my wife. We can be friends regardless and have a strong healthy friendship with emotional intimacy, where we support and are open and vulnerable with each other. Society's idea that your entire emotional burden would be carried by you and one other person in a romantic partner is harmful and press too much on a single person. When that is down out over several friendships it allows all of us to be better versions of ourselves
It really depends. The issue with this thinking is that someone might treat you amazingly in a friendship, but they could act totally different in a relationship. I would say there’s a 50-50 chance that things will work out with a close friend compared to someone off the street. Me personally, I don’t date my friends though, because I wouldn’t really want to risk ruining a good friendship that I might have.
Yes, and those last longer. Generally you fall in love with the real person if you're friends before dating. They're not acting in the way they think you like to get you to date them. They enjoy spending time with you even when there isn't a romantic setting. That is why I love my girlfriend so much. We love being together, even when the situation has no romantic or sexual setting. She's an amazing friend despite being my girlfriend.
Yes for me. My boyfriend used to be my friend. After a year of being friends with him I slowly started to have feelings for him. When I want to confessed to him, I'm actually a little afraid because it might ruined my friendship.. but guess what? he also has feelings for me… it’s feels so good to be with someone who we can actually be our true self 😊
Well you're lucky it worked out for you, but for me, it didn't work. I stayed in the friendzone... therefore I had no choice but to move on..
First of all a boy and girl can never be friends. Love or lust appears someday. That’s why cases of cheating usually seen in society. So it’s always better to just covert your friendship into relationship over time instead of dating someone else. because eventually both know each other more then anyone else. We all are humans and every humans tends to like the person subconsciously he or she spends most of the time in comfort zone.
Can never be friends? Thats wrong
Nope. It’s true that a boy and a girl can never be just friends. If they are saying this then they are just pretending. Male and female are not evolutionized by nature to be friends with opposite gender because eventually feeling erupt one day if we stay with a person for a long time. It’s same like having love feelings with our mom dad and siblings. But spending time with a biologically different person then you increase feeling of lust as well because you don’t have blood relation with that person so it increases the spark between both persons. People don’t accept that but but they usually have or been into physical contact with their opposite gender besties. Because they r the one who hold them in good and bad time without judging them. It’s give the comforts and safety zone which is ideal for sexual feeling to happen. Alright I can’t explain for then that. If you still don’t get it. Then leave it on the world it will teach you one day.
I agree with the above. I've sexualized my guyfriend so much he can probably telepathically FEEL that lol.. Hey, if they got a working you know what and I got a working you know what, then hey lol.. in fact, we almost, my friend and I... at a weak time when I was trying to get over my other ex... damn, oh damn lol.
I think it probably would but I'm not sure. I've just got together with my friend so I guess I'll find out in time.
Defiantly because before me and my boyfriend became a couple we were best friends for like 7 years and I was already happy when were friends but now that we're dating I'm even happier
Awww 🥰
I would say no, thought it would be then got with a my best friend Charlotte a few years back and even tho we broke up simply because we thought it would be best to stay friends. as we didn’t want to ever fall out and not have each other in our lives, we found it impossible to not make things awkward when ever we was out
Yes and No.
Yes because this person knows you so well
No because a relationship is very complicated and cannot be predicted based on a very successful friendship
Disagree ,
I think you need that check and balance , not just the affirmation of a " friend " , part of the deal is the difference.
Hah, but friends also move away before relationships even start, lol. 😂🤣😭 41 going on 42 and still never dated for one reason or another... and I do indeed hate being single.
More often, yes. But not all the time… I think it just depends on the individuals and how serious they are together.
Maybe, but I wouldn’t know. I never had any strong emotions towards any male friends!
u Not always. Compatibility in friendship does not guarantee romantic or sexual compatibility. It can go either way.
No - Friendship often lasts longer than a relationship. Looking back, I wouldn't swap a friendship for a relationship today
I think it can because they already know and trust each other. I'm sure sex could complicate it but it could also make for some wonderful fun and orgasms.
It does prevent unrealistic expectations if you have known someone for a long time.
It depends on which boy or girl do they like 👍
no but each type has different benefits so friends not better
Sigh... the things we do for love, a? I just got back from a wedding of a good friend where as bridesmaid number 4, I spent $900 on a plane ticket, $815 on hotel accomodations for the week, about $200 on food/grocery for...
It's true you should adventure to become the best of friends during the coarse of your relationship.. there is an advantage to that for sure..
I have mail and femail friends and no sex at all good friends but the ones I had sex with nw gone
Sadly, I pushed away all of my female friends during puberty.
Stop preying on your friend. it's weird and no she doesn't like you
Yes they do. I have been married to a very good friend for over 30 years. We knew everything g about each other when we started dating.
I think the important thing here is the chemistry. Chemistry is what makes a relationship healthy
Sometimes but usually friends are just that. Friend's
Yes it does. I mean you know a lot about the person so it turns out beautiful
Its better to start off as friends because then you can get to know each other better and then the relation ship might last longer that way.
it happens, best, friends become wives, or husbands❤️
It absolutely is true. most of the times :-)
No, I feel like it would be awkward to do certain things
I think so. Because two friends know each other's likes and dislikes in some things.
I think that's true some of the time, but not all the time.
3verybody doesn't have the same experience
no, not always
That's not a belief most women share.
My experience says YES
It would totally depend on the people
Good unless it breaks badly the very bad
I agree friends first
I totally agree with that
I really wouldn’t risk it
1001%
It can. It can also be train wreck.
For some people maybe.
I don't know. Never tried
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