How would you feel if your partner was a secret agent sent to keep tabs on you?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

This might sounds like the plot of a B-movie, but it happened for real in Germany - during the Cold War, the East German Stasi (Ministerium für Staatssicherheit, the secret services) often sent agents to romance possible dissidents and keep tabs on them.

Sometimes they even got married and had children together. After German reunification, and those things came to light, many outcomes happened - some people already knew their partner was a Stasi agent, they either confessed to them or genuinely fell in love with them so they falsified their reports.

Other got divorced, and the Stasi agents got sued and even tried for criminal charges. Other people still don't know about their wife or husband actually being a spy.

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My opinion - first all I would want to know if her feelings for me were sincere or at least became sincere over time.
A period of separation would be inevitable, but I would be open to listen to her reasons and explanations.

Eventually, if her feelings were genuine, I would forgive her.
However, if she doesn't have any feeling and just went on with our relationship to settle, I would probably divorce her and sue her employers - not her - for damages and even rape, since every time we

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4 mo

had sex was based on a lie and a consent I wouldn't have given had I known the truth.
Regarding our children, if she really loves them, regardless of her feelings towards me, I would work on a co-parenting relationship and wouldn't separate them from their mother.

[smne35]

Wasn't just East Germans at the time, most every country was doing this with exceptions of China, see in the East and West it really was a game, sure got got caught sitting in one of the other country you most likely will be executed or held for prisoner exchange, the US and Soviets regularly went deep under the ice caps and played their game of cat and mouse trying to tag each other testing new equipment, was normal just a game, but Chinese didn't see it that way to them it was for keeps winner takes all, and in reality the Russians fear them , there's always fighting going on along the borders with Russia and China, and India and Chinese soldiers along the Indian borders with China, anyway their choice usually a top scientist or high ranking diplomat or even another spy would be targeted and surveyed for months or years going so far as to get married have kids spend a good part of their lives together and one day one or the other would just vanish, most likely recalled back to their home country or arrested and never heard from again, they didn't just stop at government officials, the Russians were good at causing civil unrest, Ross especially with minority groups, most if not all riots that have occurred have been staged, the police attacks during Obama's well I'll only say when you see a riot taking form it's staged and not always by outside intervention, most of the East Germans Stasi were former Nazis, S. S. Officers, who actually will lets put it this way, truth is Putin did the right thing with Ukraine that's relevant but anyway, why the Russian used them there former Nazis, but what is not known is that it was those same former Nazis who were really the ones behind unification of East and West Germany as they saw it, splitting their fatherland in half was like an abomination and they couldn't stand for that, Stalin should have known better than to use any former Germans, but J. Stall as he goes by behind closed doors, want the most I'll only say what he lacks in picking up on the obvious he made up for being ruthless, he was funny as hell had a good sense of humor, J. Stall ever look at some Russian art from his time that's how he signed them, so anyway yeah the cold war was basically just a really expensive game at the time America knew Russia was not as strong as they claimed and stretched it out as long as they could untill the US got it's pay back for what occurred in Vietnam, which that war was not what was told to everyone, anyway, when the Soviets went into Afghanistan in late 1970, s America got it's revenge and soon after the cold war ended not as it is commonly known but for sake of history let it remain so

[CalmUntilAbused]

At this point... I wouldn't be surprised, though as I don't yet have a partner, it would be extremely hard to plant one on me. Honestly, if a woman I don't yet know tried to butter up to me, saying it would be fishy is an understatement. Especially given my mediocre looks and not-really-superior earnings. And if I found it out after some time... There's only one way to deal with enemy spies, but I would get banned if I stated it explicitly. Also, spies have no feelings, so I would believe no excuses. Though saying that I would feel hurt would be an overstatement. It would simply be one more thing in my life that did not go to plan. Even at my current age, it's slowly starting to get boring, honestly.

[HappyWoman34]

I’m working in the community sector. My biggest secret is I suffer from severe depression and anxiety and can’t work full time. Heck, that’s not even a secret to most people. Second thing they could learn is my top secret birthday gift mission for my oldest friend’s visit to Australia. Hmmm…why did she order the blue dressing gown, instead of the grey one? Is another question that they’d need to uncover. Questions that need answers.

[smne35]

Depression no one should ever experience this just the fact that you wake each day is reason enough to be happy, Idon't know what the cause of it is for you but try to find something each day to bring a smile to your face or put one one someone else's, to over come anxiety start small and slowly overcome it, your in control of you and never allow yourself to be led by any kind of fear, not saying start sky diving but meditate and you will overcome this, you know I used to be so damn shy, then one day I woke and just said so what if I make a mistake who directed and shit cares what anyone think of me and I just tired that it the window and never went to look for it again go l took baby steps to over come it but we all have l some kind of quirks, so be who you really are always

[Anonymous]

This actually happens in the United States because my sister is in a relationship with an undercover fed. I know who he is and I seen him arrest people before. I kept my mouth shut when he proposed to her lol

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

She doesn't know he's a federal agent?

[Opinion Owner]

No lol not at all you should see the stuff he be doing and what’s crazy is she’s a retired Air Force mp

[Opinion Owner]

I’m former law enforcement myself and it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out why he’s with her lol

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

He's going to arrest her?

[Opinion Owner]

I always knew she was gonna go to prison someday because her and my mom live a life filled with crookedness lol I actually told her this once too

[OlderAndWiser]

I joke about my fiancee being a Chinese spy but maybe I should reconsider all of this!

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Maybe ask her!

[OlderAndWiser]

I already asked and she denied it.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

That's a spy would say...
(Just joking of course)

[Altheavas]

I laughed to hard at this 😂😂😂

[OlderAndWiser]

@Sun_Kim-Ai My thoughts, exactly!

[AviatorTom]

She could keep tabs on me all she wants. I have nothing to hide. Talk about a plain vanilla rule follower... that's me. I haven't even had a parking ticket in 20 years.

[coachTanthony]

If she is good in bed than I will pretend I don't know lol

[RebelinSteel]

Something similar happens like this (or did until recent data breach) in Northern Ireland. People serving with PSNI (Police Service Northern Ireland) have family, including wives, husbands, children, parents, aunts and uncles that thought they were doing some random work, such as local government etc, now know the person is a serving member of PSNI. The impact of the breach is fairly staggering.

https://www.politico.eu/article/northern-ireland-police-data-breach-psni-blunder/

[jshm2]

It happened in the UK and USA too.

The UK case was pretty well covered in the press. as the "Jim Boyling case". there were many others but most are still national security.

https://www.theguardian.com/uk/2011/jan/19/undercover-policeman-married-activist-spy#:~:text=Jim%20Boyling%2C%20a%20policeman%20known,an%20activist%20and%20had%20children.

[AmeerX]

Yeah with beauty like Those Slavs or Scandinavians I might end up honey trapped. I know if I fell for a secret agent I would not leave her. She is mine and I would kill anyone who tried to take my babe away from me 🤪. Of course, it's real life and nothing like that happens here in my part of country because they just have people detained and frankly I am not even attracted to girls here

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Maybe I could fall for a Scandinavian, but a Slav no way. They are beautiful but you can see the evilness in their eyes.

[AmeerX]

Slav Women are top of the pyramid. Not a single evil one I ever talked to. I am penpals with a middle aged woman. She is so caring like a mother 👍.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

I'm glad you are doing well with her.
Maybe I'm prejudiced, I used to like them up until a couple of years ago.

[AmeerX]

I am not with her 😅. We are penfriends and she is married happily

[OfDeath]

I would ask why it was necessary for them to suck my dick in order to ascertain whether or not I was a dissident. And did that do in their report?

like: “At about 11pm, after he got out of the shower, I sucked his dick and swallowed his load. There was no admission of dissent on his behalf during this activity”

or: “On Friday evening after a few drinks, he fucked me doggy style and took a long time to cum because of the alcohol and had to fuck me in the ass. No incendiary rhetoric toward the nazi party”

lol

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

I think I would be honored, and I would wonder what they know about me, that I don't know about myself! I don't know my biological father, so maybe I have some sort of superpower that has yet to be unleashed!

[sawno]

This is why I'm glad I didn't enter politics or any other prominent position. It would make me insanely paranoid any date or partner is setting me up. I'd be devastated.

[jaskin777]

That would be awesome
I wouldn't mind
As long as he loved me for who I am and didn't use his job against me
Then it cool

But if he used his job against me and said well why I'm with u is to keep tabs on u
Then I wouldn't be ok

[Agape93]

First off, that would be impressive as hell. Secondly that won't go well

[Kabluie]

You mean like the movie Total Recall? Where she was seeing the bad guy on the side, and he remembered he had a girlfriend before being implanted. Good times.

[IslaTheWitch]

I would be flattered and thrilled!! But I prefer the way Mr. & Mrs. Smith portrayed this kind of situation :D

[LiamJHayden]

Well I am pretty dedicated in my libertarianism, so it might not be a shock if some wannabe totalitarian decided I was threat, but what a waste time, energy, and money. I vote for small government (my candidates always lose), but pay my taxes and follow the rules.

[Joshydavid25]

Damn that's some crazy historical facts.. LOL.. Nice.. I would probably feel hurt though.. Like I couldn't trust her anymore.. Cause.. Damn..

[Joshydavid25]

Your update is spot on!..

[wiltingrosepetal]

Shocked and pretty enthralled. Maybe consider I was living in the Truman show

[magiusX26]

i am a very private person, nothing to hide but still want my privacy actually private. so such a case with me would not end up well at all.

[Fireguy17]

she would be bored shitless after a couple of weeks.
Nothing new to report here, as usual.

[Forceinhand]

I'd honestly find it cool. I'm important enough to keep tabs on like that? Nice. Then again a bit betrayed as well.

[Jamie05rhs]

It would be a Mr. and Mrs. Smith situation. I would find out, and I would play along while gathering counterintelligence.

[Jamie05rhs]

I agree with your update.