I got back together with my boyfriend but I have very bad anxiety now, has this happend to you? how can I fix it?

[osoli]

We broke up because of many little silly things when we weren’t together I was very sad but not anxious. Now that we are back together I’m not happy anymore and I get very anxious around him. Is this normal? I love him but I can’t even sleep lately.

[AmandaYVR]

Not enough information.

Could be because of:

• Your need for a sense of control. He's put a monkey-wrench into your life again.
• You're worried about losing him.
• You lack understanding of yourself and communication skills. (As evidenced by your lack of relevant information here).
• You have Generalized Anxiety, and now having him back in your life, you are more accountable for your actions and patterns of avoidance.
• Don't be so afraid. You need to discuss your feelings with him. Communicate, communicate, communicate.

[osoli]

I honestly belief it’s the understanding of my self and my communication skills. How do I fix that?

[AmandaYVR]

Perhaps being around him challenges your self of self. But he is supportive, and wants you to feel better about yourself, and it creates cognitive dissonance in you, with you not being able to decide who is more right about you - you or him.

Just let him love you. Your confidence will grow over time. Confidence comes from trying things, making effort, and either succeeding or at least commending yourself for the effort. Eventually you will become better at things, such as communication.

There is a lot of free advice online nowadays. I'd stay away from TikTok-type 'experts' and find some real experts, who understand this stuff.
Such as the wonderful, Esther Perel.
https://www.youtube.com/@estherperel

Everyone has to learn about life, themselves, others; and we can become better! Have faith in yourself. And when in doubt, give yourself some credit for the effort you put out to keep trying.

[osoli]

Thank you so much! This was very helpful and sweet! Wishing you the best 😘

[AmandaYVR]

You're most welcome. 👌

[DreamCrescent]

I’m sorry, girlie but is it possible you got back with him because that’s your comfort zone and you were too afraid to take the risk and be on your own?

your anxiety may be telling you something. how do you feel when he isn’t around? relief? because that’s not right

[Danny_dan92]

Then you clearly aren’t compatible