Do you think you should hide your quirkiness or embrace it?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I think we should embrace it, wouldn’t it be boring if everyone was the same?

[blueonblack22]

There are different kinds of “quirkiness” that are more socially palatable then others:

Here are some interesting quirks:

• Goofball/comical quirkiness.
• “Cool” weird quirkiness. You see this in artists and entertainers

Then there are unattractive quirks:

• Annoying and obnoxious quirkiness. Lack of self control is a turn off to a lot of people for obvious reasons.
• “Bad” weird quirkiness. People being bad communicators especially in romantic situations. People who stare too long at people they find attractive, etc.

Personally I only care if someone is:

• Independent: They don’t need someone to handhold them or worse financially support them.
• Law Abiding: this is obvious but some people think it’s okay to riot for “the reason”. If you do that you are a peace of shit no matter what your political beliefs are.
• Self Accountable: everybody at some point is going to say and do something harmful, unfair and stupid to someone. They may not realize it at the time. However when they do, do they own up to it or do you try to justify it to protect your ego.

So just as long as your quirks don’t involve being dependent, breaking the law or directly harming other people the go ahead and embrace your quirks. But also ask yourself how much your quirks are impacting your own life.

I personally had to come to deep grips with a few of my own in recent years. They are still there but I have them under better control now. It had improved both my interpersonal and romantic life ever sense I owned up to them.

[dynamicyandere]

I think it’s definitely good to embrace the quirky side of ourselves. Otherwise, we’d all end up becoming lifeless boring automatons. It doesn’t mean that we should do away with all else. But, if we want to live our lives as our authentic selves, not simply living the life other people want us to live, we should express all the facets of our personality, including our quirky side. ✨

[dynamicyandere]

But of course, there’s a time and place or everything. We just need to make sure we provide that time and space to express ourselves. 🙂

[dynamicyandere]

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[wolfcat87]

Absolutely embrace it. I remember when "weird" was supposed to be a bad word. But, in high school I got a kick out of proudly telling everyone ho weird I was. Fitting in has never been a priority, and it works for me. I'm going to borrow most of my answer from another question to elaborate,

"99% of the time I'm running around acting like a bratty kiddo. Super immature, but it's a choice. I fuss, play dress up, whine, goof off, play on playgrounds, sing and dance around, tell dumb jokes, etc. There's no rule book saying I have to behave in any way except what makes me happy. I'm certainly not going to put on a mask and act out a stereotypical adult just because I'm supposed to for some unspoken reason. That would be a waste of my life.

When it comes to business, finance, education, some hobbies, making sure my responsibilities are handled, etc. I act way more mature and obsessive than most people, like an elderly woman with a lifetime of experience. Which is probably why I married a man who is an old soul as well. We bonded over old black and white shows like The Andy Griffith Show and I Love Lucy. He's way more into old westerns like John Wayne stuff though.

Been like this my whole life. Either hanging with old people or babies. I don't think I've ever been one to act "normal"."

So, yeah, call me quirky, weird, eccentric, bizarre, etc. all day every day. I already know and love it!

[mandyfire98]

I have always embraced my weirdness and how different I am from "normal" people.

[Wallythewalrus2]

I’m the same way. I do think it’s easier to be a little weird when you’re sexy like us.

[mandyfire98]

Hahaha

[AviatorTom]

We should embrace our uniqueness. It's what makes each of us an individual.

[Avicenna]

Probably embrace it, people will figure it out anyway

[sawno]

I embrace it if it aligns with who I wish to be and the situation at hand.
I hide it when it makes sense to hide it, different situations allow different aspects of my personality to shine. But I don't compromise on who I am.

For example here on GAG I like to share my more controversial side, I share controversial opinions that I am not going to share as a community manager or as an employee at work.

I also can freely talk about my kinks and sex here, while under my usual usernames I of course keep it private.

[SeymourBill420]

You should definitely embrace it if they are healthy. And not immature. Quirks can be good in bad things. I mean it could be one of your quirks not to put it fresh roll of toilet paper on the toilet paper roll when you use the last square. That is definitely not a good quirk. But, if it's like how your eyes look when you laugh and smile, then that could be a good quirk. If your laugh is cute funny whatever. That could be a good quirk. So if it's a good work then you should definitely embrace them. If it's a bad work then you should hide them. Basically pay attention to people if they smile at one of your quirks then they're good quirks if they rolled her eyes to one of your quirks, then you should pick up on that and not do it and realize that it's a bad quirks.

[Guido]

Embrace some and hide some. Depending in the quirks and who you are with. With some people you can be yourself and other times you have an image to portray.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Of course, I am not always quirky. I act professional in professional settings.

[Lliam]

I absolutely agree with you, LaFemme. I really like quirkiness as long as it is authentic. It makes people unique, interesting and fun.
The only problem arises when people who try to be quirky are just copying sub-culture fashion trends.

[HawkPerception]

I've been me unfiltered my entire life. People hate me or love me for it, but I can't exactly change my personality like actors can. I'm pretty impulsive too. Been trying to change that for a while, but... no success 😂

[MasseurDeMojo]

If I did not embrace that which makes me different; I would probably use my mind. I hate being put in a box!!!

Everyone needs to embrace the quirky; learn to live with it, and let it flow at the right times. We all have value in our uniqueness, let it show!!

[RandomUser1000]

I think it depends on the circumstances.

Say if you are meeting new people and don't know who they are, then maybe tone it down.

Like if you meet someone and find out they are a very judgmental person, then maybe not be so open with them.

But generally, yeah.
Embrace your quirkiness, especially if you are with people who you can trust and who loves you even if you are a little weird.

[Screenwriter]

It's according to the time and place.

At work, you have to play this by ear. If it's a more casual situation, you have to decide how much of yourself is appropriate to reveal.

When people know you well, it's usually fine to be more natural.

[Nikki1989]

You have to embrace it. That is healthy.

[robhazelnut]

Quirkiness exists. I'd rather accept it than try to not see it. Indeed, sameness would be shapeless, massless and voidless. It cannot exist. Existence is interesting 🙂

[RebelinSteel]

It’s who you are, it helps define you, so embrace it. Hiding the real you can be hard and every now and then it would pop out.

[Sour-rose]

Embrace it for certain. I've learned that not being me will definitely make me blacker than I already am... until i'm a walking corpse.

[IslaTheWitch]

If i hid it, it would mean I was embarrassed or something...

nah... you will have to deal with me and all my quirkinesses :P

[KostasKouvalis]

Love your attitude!😉

[LiamJHayden]

I do not hide it because I do not want friends or lovers who love me for someone I am not.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

That’s right. I think the same.

[Jessica405]

Embrace it! It is what may attract your future partner.

[sawno]

For me this was incredibly true, I did things by accident just by being myself that ended up being major reasons she was with me.

[Jessica405]

@sawno So pleased it worked for you.

[WrinkleBrain]

I try to hide it. Mostly because anytime I've showed my "quirks" to people, I've received negative reactions.

[NamerOfStars]

The Irish have a proverb: "An rud is anamh is iontach"- what is strange is wonderful. I think that about sums it up.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I'd never hide a part of what makes me vibrant.

[LadyKitty]

Embrace it! Don't hide it! Be free to be yourself!

[Simslover92]

The older I get the more I embrace it at least to people I'm comfortable with.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Embrace quirkiness 100% Plus, what's considered normal anyway?

[Astarlessnightsky]

Embrace it, its not healthy to hide and pretend you are someone else.

[JacobJordan]

Depends on the quirkiness. Some things are better left unsaid.

[smne35]

Never hide who you really are. We all have some kind of quirks you know with us about us. No one is perfect and if someone can't accept you as you are, you don't need to be around that person anyway we never hide who you are

[love_conquers_lust]

Embrace. Share it the most with those who appreciate it.

[GregorSamsa]

I've never hidden myself. How other people react to me is a on them.

[IrishStewed]

Seems everyone is expressing themselves a little too much these days with everyone being either woke or Karens. Sometimes being too quirky can be a liability.

[KostasKouvalis]

Embrace it in some situations, hide it in others. This is the wisest.

[slatyb]

Embrace it as long as you are considerate of others. If you don't let someone really know you, you will never feel truly love. Quirks make people interesting.

[Forceinhand]

Or let's just be ourselves without a need to put a cliché label on it to feel special.

[SphynxUK]

Quirky. How many times have I heard that in my life! My daughter too. Well yeah, our quirk is called ASD lol.

[SunnyRS]

Embrace it.
What's the point of hiding it and not living freely?

[KrakenAttackin]

I guess it depends on how obtuse tour quirks are.

[fuddly]

I think hide

I mean if your meeting new people you want to make a good impression and fit in

[NathanDavis]

I wouldn't even know how to hide it... lol

[Phoenix98]

You should always embrace it but you know at the same time ease people into it you don't wanna throw all your quickyness at em at once.

[82lynx]

Embrace it. I’m ignored almost entirely anyway so I’ve got flip all to lose.

[exitseven]

I often embrace it. People don't know what to think.

[OddBeMe]

Depends where you are. Invested in marriages, yep. My wife still hasn’t figured me out.

Secured your reputation at work? Go for it.

[boobliker]

it's all down to where and when it's a problem!

[BoopBoopBeep]

Relish it. F the haters.

[Gemmaholly]

You should definitely embrace it. Your quirkiness is what makes you and there's only one of you in the whole world.

[Grond21]

Embrace it! Absolutely

[Wise4myage]

I say embrace it!

[loveslongnails]

Wouldn't that depend on the quirk? LOL

[serious_miss419]

Were able to hide it? Oopsy!

[Sparkie460]

I let it shine brightly like the sun

[Jemini_Crocket]

Embrace it because it's a part of you. :)

[msc545]

Embrace it of course!

[strateguy632]

in scool hide it, at job be yourself

[Flatmanlewis]

100% embrace it.

[Staximus]

That depends

[MissBoogus]

I embrace it

[Charliefretz329]

Completely embrace yourself for who you are!!!

[krin_m]

Embrace it.

[CubaPirate]

Celebrate it

[NaughtyBrooke]

We all have em so embrace em

[0-limit]

Hide it, just blend in with everyone else.