If you cheat on your partner, is it better to admit it, or take it to the grave?

[robot]

Me nor my partner ever experienced it but I'm just curious about your thoughts...

[blunty]

On one side, you've got folks who say honesty is key. They reckon it's all about giving your partner the respect of knowing the truth, even if it's gonna sting like a wasp. Think of it this way: admitting what you did could be the first painful step towards patching things up. It's not gonna be a walk in the park, but for some, it's worth the shot.

Then, on the flip side, there are people who believe in keeping it under wraps. Their point? Confessing is often more about getting rid of your own guilt than sparing your partner the heartache. Like, why drag them through the dirt for a mistake you're totally sorry about and swear you'll never do again?

But here's the twist - secrets are sneaky little things. They create distance, make you spin more lies, and there's always that niggling fear that the truth might pop out when you least expect it. It's like having a little storm cloud following you around, ready to burst any moment.

If you ask me, I'm all for biting the bullet and being honest. Sure, it's going to be a mess, but I think it's the fair thing to do in the long run. Living with guilt and secrets is like lugging around a heavy backpack you can't
ever put down. And hey, your partner deserves to make choices based on the real deal, not some sugar-coated version of your relationship.

But here's the silver lining: sometimes, laying all the cards on the table can lead to some real talk and, believe it or not, a stronger connection. It's not a guarantee, but there's a chance. And if things go south, well, at least you both can move on knowing you were honest.

[wolfcat87]

100% admit it so their entire life is not wasted on a LIE. It's the ultimate sign people don't love someone to lie to them every day of their life and take away their choice. Their entire relationship is fake, meaningless, and disrespectful at that point.

Most of the time the partner would still choose to stay and work it out. They deserve the opportunity to choose to stay or leave just like the cheater felt they deserved opportunity to choose to cheat.

[Demonatrix]

Being cheated on is not fun. If you are thinking about cheating something in your current relationship is not working. Talk to your partner about what you think is wrong and if you're both not happy to make a change, break up and move on as both sides deserve to be happy. If you did cheat admit it so your partner can make an informed choice about if they want to be with you.

[Flatmanlewis]

Admit it. That shit will surface somehow anyways. Best to show some character (after an obvious lack of character) by respecting the person with at least some honesty.


If you don’t have honesty you can’t have trust and if you don’t have trust, what do you even have at all?

[RedInnocent68]

Depends on the circumstances. If you’re ready to leave, fine. If it was a mistake, don’t. If you’re called out, admit it, but explain it was a mistake and that’s why you didn’t say anything. Proactively admitting is about your guilt, nothing to do with your partner.

[JacobJordan]

A mistake? That implies it was an accident... did they trip and fall onto a dick? Or into a vagina? You have to deliberately go out of your way to cheat. You have to go out, talk to people, get invited to their place or invite them to yours, get undressed, do the deed, etc so very many steps that can just be not done. No one has ever mistakenly cheated.

[RedInnocent68]

I sense some bitterness. Sorry for that. I meant in the sense something one regrets and wishes they could undo.

[JacobJordan]

No just the factual reality of cheating. It is impossible to do it by accident

[IslaTheWitch]

If it was one time, or you know it won't ever repeat, it doesn't make any sense to hurt your partner.

Do the STD test, and if you didn't catch anything, it's your chance to do everything right this time. In another case, you will have to say and explain in detail...

[DizzyDesii]

At the least, breakup with them and give a good reason (even if it isn't the truth that you cheated). You should at least free them so they can be with someone who wants them only

[7Phoenix7]

Tell them. It's only fair to give them the facts and the choice to stay or leave you.

[sawno]

Definitely admit it, your partner deserves to know.

[Ms_Facesitter]

You have to admit it. You have little respect for your lover and yourself, if you don't admit it. If you can't admit to it, you're just pathetic.

[JacobJordan]

Just don't and they always find out anyways might as well spill quick so you can both move on

[pickles77]

It’s better to say it. If you come clean you at least have a chance of regaining trust in your relationship if not it’s probably over when she finds out.

[Anonymous]

Grave it, telling is only letting your own guilt be free.

[JacobJordan]

They'll find out anyways. They always do.

[Theodoricus]

Just a notice: don't make a mistake which make you regretted.

[Anonymous]

When you’ve got hell to pay, put the truth on lay-away

[Yannae]

Probably admit it. The truth sets you free.

[KittygosMeoWW]

I’d never cheat

[Roudyrebel8]

Admit it and seek forgiveness

[Anonymous]

Take it to the grave

[jahaims]

If someone cheats they should be put in the grave

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

It's best to confess..

[Anonymous]

I think its heather to admit it.

[elizamichale1]

I would admit

[jaskin777]

Admit it

[meh51]

Always be honest

[HouseMoat]

Admit it

[Anonymous]

take it to the...