Boyfriends female friend calls him several times a week and tells him her relationship issues- should I be concerned?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has briefly mentioned a female friend before.

Just recently, I noticed she’d been trying to call him a lot and decided to bring it up.

I spoke to him about this. I never knew, but he told me she calls him several times a week. He says she’s having issues with her boyfriend and she speaks to him about that.

In all honesty I’m quite uncomfortable with this level of intimacy. Am I overreacting here?

[IslaTheWitch]

If they are friends and you trust your boyfriend, what exactly problem do you have? You didn't even know that she calls him so often. And they don't meet personally.

tbh I really appreciate my friends' help over the last two months. But I know all spouses, and with some, we are also friends...

You can suggest him to create a meeting for you three in some restaurant. You can meet her and talk to her. It should also show her your boyfriend is with you and supports you.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t say you’re overreacting. Most people would be uncomfortable in this situation. They just haven’t been through it so they think otherwise. I mean if she’s calling him maybe 1-2 times a week i wouldn’t see a big deal w it. But several times a week? She needs to figure some of this out on her own, she’s an adult. I can almost guarantee if you had a male friend who was constantly calling you because of relationship problems he wouldn’t be ok w that.

[Zestyassmf1997]

No. She’s taken. Your boyfriend is taken. This is a fairly low risk situation.