Boyfriend wants me to give up my male friend who uses me for emotional support with his relationship?

[Anonymous]

My male friend calls me up to 5 times a week. I never meet up with him as I don’t think his girlfriend would ok with it.

When having an issue with his girlfriend he speaks to me about it. He is quite reliant on me.

My boyfriend recently found out about this and wants me to stop our relationship as he feels uncomfortable. Should I listen to him?

[brightpapaya]

I have a male friend like that who is an open book and talks a lot about his failing relationship with me (and other female friends). I don't mind, but make sure to establish proper boundaries with him because he can get attached to you especially if his own relationship isn't working out. As you've said your friend has become reliant on you. That's not healthy. He can find a therapist.

I don't think it's weird for your boyfriend to be at least a little concerned. Wouldn't you be if a female friend was constantly calling him to vent/talk about her failing relationship? Just food for thought.

Your boyfriend has established his own boundaries regarding your friendship, now it's your call whether you end/restrict the friendship or not.

[Anonymous]

Don’t know. Ask yourself would you be ok w a girl calling your boyfriend 5 times a week for emotional support? Probably not. If this was happening w your boyfriend wouldn’t you feel somehow if he didn’t tell you? You’d most likely wonder why? How come he didn’t say something? Does he have feelings for her? Does she have feelings for him. You’d be wondering a lot of those questions. As a man no I’m not ok w him calling her 5 days a week. If he was gay ok I may let it go, but even than 5 days a week is too much. Her “friend” needs to figure some of this outnumbers own.

[Anonymous]

Get out of that relationship, now.