Why do I find it hard with people even though I do like to talk, interact be outgoing etc but still have trouble with making connections why?

[laurlaur101]

I don’t understand it I don’t try to be desperate at all and I even have trouble with friends and guys so I don't know what’s going on I have a small circle of friends I’m glad I have them which is nice but I still want more I don't know why. I just don’t feel at ease around any guys or friendships sometimes it’s definitely hard

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe to make friends, you have to know yourself and believe your opinions are worth expressing and think you are just as intelligent as anyone else. You also have to know when to hide things from others. You would not date a guy who leaves his car unlocked at the shopping mall, and people will not respect a girl that trusts strangers she does not know. I’m not saying you do that, I’m using an extreme example to show you that people like you when you do not put pebbles in their pond by disclosing things that make them dislike your presence. The bible says, you must avoid not only bad behaviour but also intentional bad impressions about who you are and what you do and how you love. I will give you an example, I told my long term friend I was a afraid of giving birth because of a low pain tolerance, I would not share that with a random stranger at church if it came up in conversation.

[laurlaur101]

I get it. You won’t share just anything with anyone you’re selective and cautious about who and what your share with. That’s how I am. I think it’s a good idea to keep a lot of things to yourself too don’t be too open until you truly know someone and trust them

[RebelinSteel]

It can be hard meeting and adapting to new people. Even just new people joining your circle of friends can be awkward for them and you. I do at times come over as overly quiet and shy, I’m not it’s just dealing with a plethora of new faces and names etc.

[Levin]

Same problem I'm having. Difficult to find genuine connection with people.

[laurlaur101]

Exactly glad I’m not alone and I do believe some people are more intimidating to talk to than others some are really easy and seem to comfortable with them then others have that stern serious persona so it’s like what the hell lol

[Levin]

Yeah maybe I have that 🙂

[diego_md]

i also have this problem, I'm living in a place where i can't make connections although I love interacting with others and that really hurt when you see yourself unable to connect, anyway i hope your situation get better with time.

[BigBootyKay]

Sometimes it happens

[laurlaur101]

Yeah for sure