Is it okay for my husband to tell his friends who are girls that he love them?

[Anonymous]

My husband has been acting weird lately. I found out in October last year he had feeling for a coworker and has told her he loves her. I ask him about it and he told me she gets him and she understands him. I ask him to stop seeing and talking to her but he said no. I also believe he having a 3 some with an other coworker/friend and he also told her he loves her too. I have ask him if he wanted out of our marriage and if he was bored and I told him I don’t want to be his second choice or 3 choice. I don’t believe him or trust him. We been together over 17 years and have a daughter together. But it hurts that I trust him and he lie. He been very cruel and rude by yelling at me and calling me names. Also said I’m just annoyed person. I don’t know what else I should do.

[ImHere22]

For your own health and safety, and that of your daughter's, I strongly suggest kicking him out and filing for divorce. You don't need to put up with his behavior, and the necessity to remove him from your world is even more a priority since his actions are also affecting the growth and well-being of a child. He may not be abusive or mean to her, but if he's yelling at you, belittling you, and your daughter is seeing that and/or seeing you after you've had to endure such treatment, then he's already causing turmoil in her present and future self.

7 years, 17 years, 27 years. All are lengths of time that no one will ever be able to redo. So though it's incredibly difficult, at the bare minimum, I'd suggest a separation. And he should be the one to leave, not you, since he's the one causing problems.

[lightbulb27]

Sad to hear. you chinese, he chinese?

No, it is not ok. Reason it not ok is because he married you and thus made you #1 priority and to love you. That means honoring you and putting his needs second.

He is being awful. Actually, my wife's X did this to her as part of breakup. To me, he's just saying, he doesn't care and will do whatever he wants.

If you want to fight for marriage it's your call. I've seen that succed, I've seen it fail. Hard work.

Probably healthier apart. My wife co parents with her X and he is remarried. It worked out ok. kids suffered during transition but I think, worked out for the best and going well.

Much more life ahead, life not over at 35... just getting started.

[electromagnetic]

And why can he not? Love it just exclusively reserved for life partners.

[electromagnetic]

I read you paragraph incorrectly.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

In his life there should only be one queen & that queen is you. You two have a princess together & if your husband was smart he would change & after 17 years he would be stupid to throw it all away. Some say communication is the key & as for you although you are using that key it seems like your husband’s mind is still locked & I can only imagine how you feel. Time will tell as they say & hopefully it tells you the right thing & hopefully better days will come but if they don’t I’m sure you will know what to do.

[teamvic]

I'll tell you what to do. Leave 😐 not only is he definitely cheating. Even if he wasn't. You guys don't seem to have feelings for eachother. You seem scared and he seems annoyed and to dislike you

How you gonna ask him to stop talking to a girl he's flirting with and he says no😐

If you wanna be happy I suggest divorce. Because I'll tell you right now you ain't happy. You may just have gotten use to the presence of him that you find it normal

To answer your question, no its not okay

[Avicenna]

Of course that isn't OK

[Iron_Man]

What?)

[riverrat3]

Sure