My boyfriend has mood swings... communication isn't key, what should I do?

[Anonymous]

His constant mood swings drive me crazy. He shuts himself down all the time and I'm constantly blaming myself for that.

I try not to argue and annoy him, but he notices my emotions on my face cause it's really hard to hide and then he keeps asking. Then I spill the beans and there is an argument all the time, because he cannot handle constructive talk.

So talking ain't solving anything. I love him, but I feel rejected and abandoned.

What should I do?

[sheikalana]

Well, that's how a lot of men are. You know that men are also allowed to have their days and they also go through hormonal fluctuations. When you feel that he's getting quiet or acting a bit distant give him some space that's all he needs don't bother him at all. I guarantee you most of the time him shutting down has absolutely nothing to do with you he just needs a moment for himself. Let him come to you.

[Asker]

That's happening constantly. I'm tired. It's not something once in a few weeks.
It happens every 3-4 days.

[sheikalana]

If it bothers you that much maybe you need to re-think your relationship. Maybe you guys are not meant to be together.

[laly520]

he has to seek therapy

maybe he is mentally ill aka bipolar or have bpd

[Anonymous]

Perhaps he doesn't feel appreciated in the relationship. That's usually why men shut down.

[boggboss]

If u can't talk to him end the relationship what other choice do u even have

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the rollercoaster of love, where the highs are dizzying and the lows... well, they leave us puzzled, don't they? First off, it's quite the challenge dealing with mood swings in a partner, especially when it feels like walking on eggshells instead of dancing in moonlight. Remember, love shouldn't feel like constantly deciphering Morse code in the dark.

Now onto the nitty-gritty – It's essential to recognize that it's not your circus and definitely not your monkeys when it comes to someone else's mood swings. Blaming yourself is like believing you control the weather – flattering but wildly inaccurate. What's vital here is setting boundaries. Much like a lighthouse stands firm amidst the storm, you too must stay grounded. This isn't about clamping down on his emotions but more about safeguarding your peace.

Then, consider seeking external support, because love, even at its best, isn't a one-man show. Whether it's couples counseling or engaging in activities that promote understanding and patience, external perspectives can be illuminating.

What's more, self-care is your secret weapon. Cultivating your happiness outside of your relationship is not just good; it's necessary. Creating a fulfilling life for yourself ensures that you're not overly dependent on the emotional rollercoaster of your partner.

And of course, there comes a point where you might have to reassess. If the situation doesn't improve, despite your best efforts, it might be time to ask yourself some hard questions about the future. Love is a dance, and both partners need to be in step.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this approach. Anyone else been on this ride and wants to share their story? Let's chat! 😊

[jahaims]

Undealt with trauma or undiagnosed autism

[BarryLiverstone]

Learn to cope better and not blame yourself

[Sameone]

Broukup whit him 🤦