What does this phrase mean: I don't want to be put in the same position again and I dont want to allow for it 2 happen?

[Anonymous]

[LaNc3L0TT]

He had bad experience with some girl before you and he doesn't want for that to happen again with you.

[Asker]

oh wow thank you. He said he doesn't want to reopen old wounds, but that he really doesn't want to be put in that position again and doesn't want to allow for it to happen.
It was my birthday (he is my colleague and my husband doesn't feel comfortable with our friendship) so my colleague got me a mini cake and a cup of coffee the day before my birthday as i was traveling the day after (which is the actual date of my bday) with my husband. My friend didn't call me or text me on my birthday (which i found very weird)- so he said he meant for the little early celebration because he knew that reaching out on the actual day (where i was traveling with my husband) is risky, and he thought i felt that.
My husband saw our texts a few months back and asked me to stop, so i did that and i told him and he got really upset about it (my friend). I'm the one who started texting him again, and his replies have been very short. But at the workplace, he's friendly and supportive.

[boggboss]

Why are u asking again like u don't know what he means

[Asker]

can u pls read this? i'm so upset pls.

He said he doesn't want to reopen old wounds, but that he really doesn't want to be put in that position again and doesn't want to allow for it to happen.
It was my birthday (he is my colleague and my husband doesn't feel comfortable with our friendship) so my colleague got me a mini cake and a cup of coffee the day before my birthday as i was traveling the day after (which is the actual date of my bday) with my husband. My friend didn't call me or text me on my birthday (which i found very weird)- so he said he meant for the little early celebration because he knew that reaching out on the actual day (where i was traveling with my husband) is risky, and he thought i felt that.
My husband saw our texts a few months back and asked me to stop, so i did that and i told him and he got really upset about it (my friend). I'm the one who started texting him again, and his replies have been very short. But at the workplace, he's friendly and supportive

[boggboss]

OK so what u are pushing the boundaries of your marriage and are hurting this guy in the process

[boggboss]

It also seems u are not reading anything anyone says and instead just copy and pasting the same responses

[Asker]

yeah i guess you're right. So you think he;s trying to protect himself and have some self-respect?

[boggboss]

Clearly

[Asker]

i think you're right. He got me a mini cake and a cup of coffee the day before my birthday as i was traveling the day after (which is the actual date of my bday) with my husband, but didn't call me or text me on my birthday (which i found very weird)- so he said he meant for the little early celebration because he knew that reaching out on the actual day was RISKY. (where i was traveling with my husband). So guess you are absolutely right. ilove your replies

[Asker]

what do you think of the birthday cake and coffee?

[AI Opinion]

Aim: To enlighten and add a dash of charm to the exploration of relationship dynamics.

Ah, the sweet and sometimes sour world of relationship talk. This phrase is like a dance of words where someone is trying to avoid a repeat of a past scenario that left a sour taste in their mouth. It's a declaration of self-protection, really. They're saying, "Been there, done that, not going on that emotional rollercoaster again. Nope!" It’s all about setting boundaries to avoid previous heartaches or mistakes. Think of it as someone putting up an invisible shield around their heart, whispering to themselves, "Not today, honey. I know better." It's a stance of empowerment, showing they've learned from the past and are taking steps to prevent history from repeating itself in their personal life. Quite brave, if you ask me! 💪💔

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[Asker]

oh wow thank you. He said he doesn't want to reopen old wounds, but that he really doesn't want to be put in that position again and doesn't want to allow for it to happen.
It was my birthday (he is my colleague and my husband doesn't feel comfortable with our friendship) so my colleague got me a mini cake and a cup of coffee the day before my birthday as i was traveling on the day of it with my husband. My friend didn't call me or text me on my birthday (which i found very weird)- so he said he didn't because he knows that reaching out is risky.

[laly520]

he doesn't want a bad even to repeat

[Asker]

He said he doesn't want to reopen old wounds, but that he really doesn't want to be put in that position again and doesn't want to allow for it to happen.
It was my birthday (he is my colleague and my husband doesn't feel comfortable with our friendship) so my colleague got me a mini cake and a cup of coffee the day before my birthday as i was traveling the day after (which is the actual date of my bday) with my husband. My friend didn't call me or text me on my birthday (which i found very weird)- so he said he meant for the little early celebration because he knew that reaching out on the actual day (where i was traveling with my husband) is risky, and he thought i felt that.
My husband saw our texts a few months back and asked me to stop, so i did that and i told him and he got really upset about it (my friend). I'm the one who started texting him again, and his replies have been very short. But at the workplace, he's friendly and supportive