What does this phrase mean "i dont want 2 reopen old wounds, but I really dont want 2 be put in the same position again & dont want to allow it?

[Anonymous]

my husband asked me to cut off contact with my male bestfriend a few months and asked me to stop texting him. Recently, my bestfriend and i started talking again until he confessed it didn't feel like a good idea to him. So i asked him why? He said that he doesn't want to reopen old wounds or anything, but he really doesn't want to be put in the same position again and allow for it to happen. He knows that my husband doesn't feel good about her friendship.

And he said he hopes i understand. I asked him why he doesn't reach out? he said because reaching out is very risky.

[boggboss]

Because he doesn't want drama with your husband like u clearly do

[Asker]

yeah but what does it mean when he says "reopen old wounds"?

[boggboss]

Getting cut off again

[Asker]

oh i guess he has a point. He said he wanted to call me but he knew reaching out was risky and that he thought i felt that. I have no idea why my husband hates him so much even though he was a great friend to me. He said he really doesn't want to be put in the same position again and that he doesn't' want to allow for it to happen.

His words kind of sting, but i get it.

[boggboss]

Considering u cut him of now have reached out again behind your husbands back I can see why your husband is not happy u talking to him as you are willing to do somthing u know wpuld upset him to talk to this guy I dont think partners should be able to control who u talk to or not but in your case I can see why their is a issue

[Asker]

yeah but what does he mean when he says "i don't want to allow for it to happen"? im sorry i ask too many questions, but im just v upset and confused at the moment.

[boggboss]

Do u not see how you acting could be branching on emotional cheating and that u are trying to put this other guy that by God's seems like a good guy in a awkward spot but not being able to stick to the boundaries set in your relationship

[Asker]

he is a good guy. very loving and caring too. this is why i hate this situation. he haunts me

[boggboss]

So your taking advantage of him by putting him in this situation as its pretty clear u don't have good intentions yet u are asking why your husband has issues

[laly520]

what do u want? do u wanna end the friendship?

[spartan55]

You would be my ex so damn fast. Fuck that.