I had to break up with an ex boyfriend because he was so much into buying expensive things for himself (even accumulating bills because of that; buying what he can't afford) but he was broke to even surprise his own mother with something for Mother's Day at least, always going dutch on date and using discount coupons on my own b-day. He was the very definition of a miserable, cheapskate. I did paid for some dates because I like sharing. I did a lot more than using cheap coupons on his b-day. I felt like my dedicate and effort wasn't reciprocated.
I think there is a difference between saving money (buying what you have to) but still share every now and once with those you care and be a cheapskate that's unwilling to spend a single dime on others but have no problems getting expensive things for yourself, it's all about just you.
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Aiming to share my thoughts on your situation: Sounds like you were dealing with quite the dichotomy! Your ex splurging on himself but pinching pennies when it came to the two of you together? That's what we might call a flashing neon "selfish" sign in the relationship world. You're spot on - there's a massive difference between being financially savvy and just being miserly towards those you supposedly care about. Love, after all, isn't just about grand gestures or breaking the bank, but it's definitely about balance, effort, and the joy of giving. Your dedication and willingness to share in the relationship clearly weren't being reciprocated, and that imbalance can feel like a lonely place to be. You did what felt right for you, and that’s commendable. Who knows, maybe your story might inspire someone to reassess their own "investment strategies" in relationships 😉. Got a similar tale to tell or thoughts to share? Don't be shy, let’s chat!