Have you ever been stuck in a relationship and had no idea how to get out of it?

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ClaircognizantEmpath · Accepted Answer

Hi, my personal view is that it seems, or used to seem that it was most often the female partner who finally calls it!!! i mean the proper end!!! and I've heard time and time again men say they had no idea and are in shock... my image is this, in a relationship an emotional female has the make up that when triggered by a situation they have an emotional and physical reaction, the gut turning sensation is actually the spiritual centre called the dantien, imagine every time a single brick is laid.. before long we are on the second row etc etc... only she knows about this wall in its protective grounded sense.. she has conveyed her upset to her male partner and if they talk about it... for a man this is now a closed dispute... because men do not have the same brain/emotional connection as females... whereas for her, even every time she recalls the event, the gut churning reaction can still occur and she will feel exactly the same.. i honestly could say in a very recent break up i had at least five gut turning reactions a day... e. g talking away to them actually a moment of opening up to realise when i stop there is no response, to look over and he's texting to arrange his pot deal!!! thats about 5 bricks lol so after all that ranting... when you have no idea, you actually have absolutely the idea of how, you and each and everyone of us deserves to live a life of contentment.. to be the person who know yourself to be... souls having this experience ideally should evolve.. and it is perfectly natural to evolve at different rates, different directions etc... and quite often the one who strives for a new direction needs to accept that about themselves and love themselves enough to trust it... if you feel this way you owe it to both parties... what im trying to say is.. it is entirely enough of a reason as above to express to a partner for ending the time together... if they are not right for you, then you are not right for them,,, your awareness lets the power move to you im afraid...

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

I had someone I struggled breaking up with up until I ended it. I wasn’t in love with him but he loved me. Every time the subject would come up he would tell me all the bad things happening in his life and how he couldn’t do it alone, then later stated that he would k*** himself if I left him. Then he would try to pressure me into sex since that is what couples do. Which never happened but it was really uncomfortable. When we finally did break up he begged to still be friends and I allowed it but said we couldn’t talk for awhile so he could heal. Whenever I ended up meeting someone else he started sending extremely abusive messages and it made it easy to block him.

Telekinetic-Potato · Accepted Answer

That's how most of my relationships wind up.

I keep trying to have casual relationships but a lot of the time they try to turn me into something more serious.

You can try shooting them down early or going with it until you recognize things went too far.

I used to try being an ass or making it seem like I was interested in talking to other woman. They seemed like good ideas at the time, I thought it wouldn't hurt them if they thought it were their decision. But they were terrible ideas.

Whats hard for men to think about how the woman is in a position where she's going to wonder why the man changed. She's going to want to work past the issue or come to terms with it.

No matter what, once you end up in that place, there's no easy way to go about it. You have to be direct and cut things off properly. For me at least, maybe any decent man, it's painful to do but you're going to cause more damage by trying to avoid it.

Unless she's just dense or something, be direct, tell her the important parts about what you want and why she doesn't fit into that and do it face to face so that she can at least feel valuable and respected enough to see some emotion on your face. There's no pride to be had in living your life like a coward.

Being a man is about having a great deal of control over yourself more than anything. If you go around hurting people you don't want to, what does that say about yourself?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Yes, when you are in a relationship with someone that suffers from mental illness , not knowing if they truly love you or not , back and fourth emotions , ups and downs , Always leaving a question mark over your head. If they don’t choose to get the help they need after you tried supporting them the whole time , it’s best to walk away for your own sanity , Life is too short to be with someone that can’t treat you the way you deserve to be treated , You can still love someone without being with them. It’s a tough pill to swallow and I know it’s hard , I been there but sadly mental Illness does t get better it just gets worse , My ex wife suffers from It , I was nothing but a punching bag most times

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the classic feeling of being trapped in love's labyrinth with no exit in sight! Finding yourself in a relationship that feels more like a sticky spider web than a bed of roses is tough. It's like you've signed up for a marathon you never wanted to run, huh? My aim here is to untrap those feelings and set your heart free, one playful piece of advice at a time.

First things first, it's all about recognizing the why. Why does it feel stuck? Is it the routine, lost feelings, or maybe it's just not clicking anymore? Then comes the heart-to-heart talk. Communication is key, even if it feels like trying to solve a Rubik's cube in the dark. Be honest, be kind, but above all, be clear about your feelings.

If you're finding it hard to navigate, remember, it's okay to seek help from a relationship coach (wink wink) or a therapist. They're like your love GPS when you find yourself at a crossroads.

And hey, if you’ve got any wild escape stories or need a little extra nudge of encouragement, slide into this chat! Let's break those chains together. 🚀

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I was on the course one day and a lady wanted me to give her a lesson. I stood behind her and showed her the basics of a golf swing but, after a few minutes, somehow, my pants zipper got caught on the back of her skirt and we couldn't get it unfastened. We decided that she would need to take off her skirt or I would need to take off my pants to get them separated, so we needed to find a place with some privacy. We started awkwardly making our way towards the clubhouse. I guess that counts as being stuck in a relationship and having no idea how to get out of it.

Anyway, about the time that we got to the clubhouse, a dog ran in our direction and threw a bucket of cold water on us! That got us unhooked.

Avicenna · Answer

There’s always a way out unless it’s financially ruinous to leave

Crimsyjo · Answer

I thought breaking up is easy. It should be easy. I'm open and honest if I think something is not working. And I don't mind if a guy is sane back and just tells me.

However... I was stuck 2 years in a mentally and financially abusive relationship. Out of 3 years. The 1st year I thought there was love and hope and things could get better. When i realised I didn't love him and things were bad i told him to go. He said no. It's crazy to think! Someone can just refuse to go! He created a fear in me (to involve police) and I was cut off from any support. So yeah. it took 2 more years before I found strength... and support of a wonderful woman manager when I got a job - to finally follow through with my threats to call police. And finally he was gone!!

PreferNot2Say · Answer

I've never had this issue. I will say that it doesn't end until the woman has secured a replacement. I've never met a woman that has left a relationship and was alone after. It may take them a few tries, but they eventually find someone/anyone to replace the soon to be ex. In other words they cheat until they eventually settle for a replacement.
Women are never without male attention. Whether it be a significant other or the numerous men that they view as possible replacements, most commonly referred to as "guy friends".

Mariena_Anne92 · Answer

Right now. I want to leave, my mind was ready. But my heart dont want. I don’t know what should i do. All he ever did was causing me pain and more pain. I think i cry more than i laugh in this relationship. But my hearts still wants it to work.

Amara_09 · Answer

Yeah….. Sometimes I look in the mirror and wonder how the hell to be less obsessed with the person looking back at me in the mirror…….. she is sexy and I don’t know how to handle myself around her

She is also toxic and sucks my breath away and continues to torture me

Purpleronnie · Answer

Getting out of it is easy , when you have decided. You’re never stuck though. Many of us will confuse matters or the heart with the logic of the head especially the more emotional amongst us. When there are more grey skies than blue or tears rather than laughter and smiles then that’s where the logic kicks in. People have the right to change and will and we can’t surrender to it or fight against it. Wear your heart on your sleeve but ALWAYS follow your head

supercutebutt · Answer

Only for a few days maybe. But I figure things out. A good way to end it is to tell a gentleman his penis is simply too big and painful. Yeah, he'll be sad he can't hook up with you anymore but also flattered because you said he has a big ol' penis.

electromagnetic · Answer

I’ve been really been stuck. More like settled for less until I realized that there wasn’t going to be a change.

sage2021 · Answer

It was my second husband. I think I almost hated him. So, one night I asked myself what am I going to do; stay with him forever, or end it tonight.

I went into the living room and threw him out! Verbally of course. He told me to get out and I had my son. So, he finally left that night and I hardly saw him ever again. I didn't even show up for our divorce. I just let him divorce me. I didn't care anymore.

spacystacy · Answer

Yes, I am actually right now. The reason I am stuck is that I can see and feel how much he loves me and I KNOW I will break his beautiful, beautiful heart if I end things with him. And I don't want to be a heartbreaker, he does not deserve having his heart broken. So I'm kinda playing for time, trying to figure out a nice way to let him down softly.

Breanna_nonbinary · Answer

Not sure this was the right picture for this post since they get back together. Despite their differences they love each other.

SolitarySolace · Answer

I’ve never been stuck in a relationship because I’m not a wuss. If you want to leave just fucking do it. All of my exes cheated and I left because of it. It’s easy to say “I’m done” and walk away.

sean1234 · Answer

No, as a matter of fact I've been stuck not being able to get INTO a relationship and have no idea how to get in!

exitseven · Answer

Never, I usually just stopped calling them. After a while I suppose they figured it out

Bricealan · Answer

Well yes, and I just threw her under the bus!

strateguy632 · Answer

not me, i always had the option: stopping meetings or saying "we aren't working".  in theory if one moved in with other and refused to leave... i guess stuck? but not my experience.

KaiidiraX · Answer

I always know how to leave but it is always about doing as little damage as possible ok the way out.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

As a dude, l don’t understand why a woman, in a bad relationship, just “can’t get out of it.” Now, when l ask that, l am not asking women that might fear for their or their children’s safety, that l understand.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

No I wouldn’t put myself in that position I would get out of the relationship

Likes2drive · Answer

Like marriage? That’s the only thing that comes to mind. They usually work themselves out eventually

Wiredone · Answer

No I've never been stuck in a relationship.

OddBeMe · Answer

No. But I’ll ask the gals their thoughts during their out of cage time.

singlesportymum · Answer

i am right now. i want to tell him to leave, but i just can't. and i'm afraid of what happens next i guess.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Not exactly stuck, but I have felt a weight lifted when certain relationships were over before!

jadeXcatastro62 · Answer

Nope, I’m so young haven’t experienced that yet haha. Only had one true love, and we did have our problems but we managed to make it 6 years.

loveslongnails · Answer

Never, Coach... There Must Be 50 Ways To Leave Your Lover

slatyb · Answer

There must be fifty ways to leave your lover.

Yannae · Answer

From insightful to ridiculous to dark with your questions, I'm loving it. Yes I have, sort of. It nearly destroyed me.

Anonymous · Answer

not necessary a relationship but situations similar to one with groups of people that had no way to get out until reason i knew them came to an end

boobliker · Answer

YES! did in the end, I had to be mad then get a peice of papper to say I was not any more it's a good feeling

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

No. If you are stuck, you lack willpower and boundaries or the other person is abusive and/or crazy

Unit1 · Answer

I don't know this feeling. i feel A girlfriend is out of my reach.

Melicermeno · Answer

well i mean its not that you have been stuck in a relationship its just that sometimes you have strong feelings for someone and sometimes it is hard to get out of a relationship.

moneymagnet24 · Answer

I don't do relationship because I don't trust holes...

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Never. I've always been stupid enough to try and make things work.

beebella · Answer

I've only been stuck in situationships. 😣

Jarettmoore · Answer

No. If anything I’ve ended a relationship on good terms.

Lokiion · Answer

Never been a problem for me

LiamJHayden · Answer

No. If I'm unhappy I end it and walk away.

litty736 · Answer

Yea broken all contact. 👻

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, breaking up is easy.

sawno · Answer

No, if I want to leave i'd just leave.

Sameone · Answer

Yes many times

JayBones · Answer

You mean married? Yes. Almost 20 years now.

TM_KO_AF · Answer

only thing stuck was my dick

Anonymous · Answer

Thankfully no.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Thankfully no

laly520 · Answer

never

elizamichale1 · Answer

Yea once

handsomelad70 · Answer

Not I.

alexandraa1 · Answer

Not really

In_Trance · Answer

Nope

DiDi1101 · Answer

Many times

Slim57 · Answer

Nope

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