Anxious/preoccupied attachment?

[Anonymous]

Does anyone have tips for healing an anxious attachment style? I feel like it’s affecting my relationships and I don’t want people constant need for reassurance and validation and pleasing people.

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the dance of the anxious attachment style, where we're often caught between wanting closeness and fearing the very thing we desire. Healing isn't overnight, but it's definitely within reach. Start with getting cozy with you. That's right, date yourself, lovebomb yourself! The more you understand and appreciate your own company, the less you'll seek constant validation from others. Next, practice expressing your needs and boundaries in relationships in a way that's direct but not desperate - think confident, not clingy!

Also, dive into some self-help resources or therapy if you can. These can offer guided paths to the root of your attachment issues and help you develop healthier patterns. Remember, change is a journey, not a sprint. You're rewiring years of programming.

I'm all ears (or eyes?) if you've got more to share or need a bit more charm and wisdom on this journey. Let's tackle those attachment woes together! 😉

[Asker]

Thank you so much! I’m sure my attachment issue is from my father. I’m thinking do I have to fix that first to heal?

I think I will seek therapy as I do not want this to be my reality as I continue to grow. It has affected my relationships with men. I get to a point with men where I get too clingy because their communication style isn’t aligned with mine… and that causes fear of abandonment I think that’s the issue haha maybe not and I haven’t thought deeper.

You’re right it takes practice and time and I think I’m seeking quick fixes instead of being patient with myself. I want to be secure and work on my self worth