Should I still wait for him?

[blueeeeberrryyy]

My boyfriend and i have been together for a year now we met online last year and we have a really strong connection with eachother and we wanted to marry each other but we can't
His dad owns a business and he is forcing him to marry his bestfriend's daughter for some business profit
My boyfriend he's just 18 yet he'll be 19 this year
And the girl has a boyfriend too and she has been with him for 3 years but now their dads are messing all of these things
It's his wedding tomorrow
He can't even run away because the consequences of running away are bad his dad has already given him warning
But we don't want to accept this we really can't live without eachother what should I do he said we will still talk but just as friends he has already given up his hopes about changing his dad's mind he did every single thing to change his mind and so did the girl
But they both can't do anything they are getting married tomorrow
What should I do should i wait for him?
Do you think we'll ever get a second chance in our relationship i really can't be without him

[SueShe]

Do you live in a Muslim country or in a 3rd. world country where parents rule over their children and dictate their will despite the fact that they are adults and have the right to chose the way they want to live their lives?

No, you should not wait for him because an adult that does not have the force of character to reject this dictatorship is never going to liberate himself from the yoke of his father. Don't you see that it is all a matter of money and that for your boyfriend, money counts more than you?

The only thing that his father can do is to cut him off the inheritance but this guy prefers to live a life in opulence rather than to fight for what he believes in. That is certainly not the kind of man that you should want for a husband...

[Iron_Man]

It’s a shame Sue it’s a shame

[blueeeeberrryyy]

But sis It's not about money he won't have a place to go to if he runs away right now then he can't live with his parents anymore and he's still in the final year of high school

[SueShe]

What kind of parents put so much pressure on their children? They practically enslave him and I don't think that he has the strength of character to voice his own opinion. His entire life, he will have to abide by what his parents want because they will blackmail him for as long as they live.

[blueeeeberrryyy]

Our parents are just like this we can only make our decision when we become financially independent and all

[blueeeeberrryyy]

If not then we need to follow what they say

[Anonymous]

Stop wasting your time and energy on this guy. Move on.

[blueeeeberrryyy]

But I'm serious about him

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Your boyfriend needs to act like a man and tell his father to go f himself. Who cares if he loses his father or his money, a real man makes his own future. Marries whoever he wants to.

[Staximus]

Have you even met this guy in person or is just some guy you talk to online? If you haven't met him in person and don't spend time with him in person, then he's not your boyfriend.

[Staximus]

And who still lets their parents choose who they marry? It's not like they are from 2 royal families in the 1500's

[blueeeeberrryyy]

We've met in person 2 times and we are always on a video call when we can't meet he's 12,800 km away from my place though

[Staximus]

What kind of bitch boy chump lets his parents decide who he marries? You want a spineless jellyfish who can't stand up for himself?

[blueeeeberrryyy]

Yeahhh exactly but he can't do anything he's 18 he's not even financially independent yet he's still in the last year of high school

[Staximus]

That guy is not your boyfriend, he's just some guy you talk to on the phone.

[blueeeeberrryyy]

Sir he's financially not independent yet he's the only child and now his dad is forcing him to marry someone for some business profit:(

[Staximus]

All he has to do is say "I'm not getting married to her"

[blueeeeberrryyy]

He did said that so many times but his dad won't listen

[blueeeeberrryyy]

He can't even run away this time like last time cause his dad has threatened him that he'll take his apartment and cards and all things and he'll have to find a job on his own and he'll have to bear his all expenses on his own

[Staximus]

That's just a bunch of bullshit. All he has to do is say he's not going to get married and refuse to do it

[blueeeeberrryyy]

He have said it a lot of times already he's still refusing to do it but his dad is not listening

[blueeeeberrryyy]

Even his mom don't want this marriage but his dad is too stubborn to listen to anyone

[Staximus]

His dad can't marry the girl for him, he has to agree to it and do it himself. What country is this idiot from?

[blueeeeberrryyy]

His dad is from France and his mom is from New Zealand and they live in New Zealand

[Staximus]

Yeah that's not how shit works in New Zealand. You can't make your kids marry somebody there. He can take his dad to court or something, or be a man and just tell him to go piss up a flagpole.

[blueeeeberrryyy]

Yeah exactly like it 2024 who force their kids to marry someone but what is keeping him from doing that is that he's still not independent financially

[DextroShade]

Online relationships are a joke, find a guy who lives near you.

[Anonymous]

Yes sure

[blueeeeberrryyy]

Really will we ever get a second chance?

[Opinion Owner]

I hope so

[blueeeeberrryyy]

I tried my best to be really positive about it and all but then today when I was talking to him i just realised that it can't be changed before i was cheering him up that it'll be fine and his dad will change his mind and I stayed really positive and made him think positive too but we can't do anything about it now cause we are just young and can't take our own decisions because we are not even financially independent

[Opinion Owner]

Wait a minute how old are you? It says 18

[blueeeeberrryyy]

I'm 17 2006 born still a minor and I can't even do anything just watch him getting married on the other side of the world he's 18 though but you know at this age we are still going to high school we really can't do anything

[Opinion Owner]

Oh, your long distance relationship you’re too young iat this time

[Opinion Owner]

I just read the rest that’s insane. This must be in India and arrange marriage.

[blueeeeberrryyy]

I'm Indian but he's from New Zealand and his dad is literally forcing him into arrange marriage for business profit can you believe this like it's 2024 nowww whyy

[blueeeeberrryyy]

Here i had told my mom about him and his whole family knew about me there but his dad still did this at the end

[Opinion Owner]

That’s crazy

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry to hear that

[blueeeeberrryyy]

I know right it might feel like a movie or drama but his dad is doing all this just for his company's profit he's really selfish he just said to him that he should just break up with me ༎ຶ⁠‿⁠༎ຶ

[Opinion Owner]

That’s pretty bad and selfish I’m sorry to hear that

[blueeeeberrryyy]

And the girl also has a boyfriend but they both are being forced into this marriage

[Opinion Owner]

That’s insane. How can they put up with that