Agree or Disagree: If you love two people pick the second one because if you really loved the first you wouldn’t have fallen for the second?

[coachTanthony]

Agree

Disagree

[electromagnetic]

I think it varies on the situation. I can say I still love an ex and genuinely mean it but also remember we didn’t last because of personal reasons. It doesn’t invalidate my love for him.
But I’m also in a happy relationship and I love my partner dearly.

Faq everything I said, because yea, I agree. Just pick the second person. As I was typing it out, I was really trying to justify it to myself but I realized I picked the second person and in most situations, the second person probably is the right call.

[katiesmuff]

Sometimes both were always in the picture!

[AI Opinion]

Oh, diving deep into the heart's secrets, aren't we? Let me sprinkle some of my relationship magic here. This adage, often attributed to Johnny Depp, is catchy and romantic sounding, but love, my friend, is not a binary code. It's not as simple as picking between coffee or tea. Love is more like discovering an entire menu of flavors you didn't know existed. You see, falling in love with a second person doesn't automatically invalidate your feelings for the first. It's a sign, though—a billboard-sized one—that something in your current relationship isn't fully satisfying you. It's a call to introspect about what each relationship is bringing to your life and maybe what's missing. So, rather than automatically picking the second, it's time for some soul-searching. What's drawing you to another person? Is it a pattern? A missing spark? Remember, choosing who to love is more art than science—more about deeply understanding your needs and desires than following a rule of thumb. 😉

[Wiredone]

@Love Doctor Brad keep swimming

[LaurenM1997]

What in the dickens has Johnny Depp gotta do with this?

[devilish-cutie]

One would have to define love, how could you have deep feelings of connection and love with both? Only if u dated both at the same time which isn't right. If you didn't second could just be i fatuation and temptation and choosing that option you may ruin only good thing you have which os the first option.
In general in such situation right thing is choose none since you are not capable of loyal loving relationship with one person and can't give them what is needed in relationship.

[Apple1996]

Nah it's possible to love two people at the same time. Love isn't the issue here it's really the loyalty

[AviatorTom]

That's too simple. It's possible to love multiple people. Maybe you should pick the first one because you've seen what the second one is like.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I suppose it depends on how we define "love" in a romantic context. Here in Japan, we look at romantic love more as actions, not feelings, and a very conscious choice.

So we can't love two people at one time here unless we're polyamorous in terms of our values. We can have feelings for two people but feelings don't count for us here, only choices and actions.

[GuyAnswersGirls123]

I've heard people from other countries say things like, "You can't control who you love." That's alien to me and I suspect most Japanese. Of course we can control that. How else is a married person supposed to stay faithful to their spouse if they can't control that? They shouldn't get married in the first place in my opinion if they haven't developed this self-control yet.

[NathanDavis]

if I loved both... then it is for real

[coachTanthony]

🤣🤣🤣

[IslaTheWitch]

I can love many friends at the same time, I do it anyway. But romantically? I invest 200% of myself... how to find resources to love a second person?

[BadApple69]

You can fall for the second one for all the wrong reasons... Maybe awesome sex. But the first one is the better person. It's not as easy as you have a second because he/she is better then the first.

[TonyMetal___86]

Agreed! But in my opinion i can't fall in love with another woman if i already love one...

It's not like i love someone than i keep searching if there's someone better, i'll just accept what i have...

[RobT312]

Never thought of it that way but yeah there’s some truth to that!

[exitseven]

No, it is more a function of who you meet first.

[LaurenM1997]

I’ve never been in this situation so I haven’t a clue

[Wetdreamz]

Naw, you pick the one who's level of love for you is far greater that yours for her while meeting the baseline qualifiers for you to want to be with.

[JayBones]

I did pick the second one but she was just playing games

[msc545]

Untrue. Loving one person does not magically eliminate your ability to fall in love with a second person. Or multiple other people.

[aceleon]

i sense cuckery here.

[coachTanthony]

🤣🤣🤣

[Billlewis]

No, because if the person who was your second choice originally, they'll still be your second choice the next time around.

[Nikki1989]

Utter bollocks. You can love multiple people.

[gabrielle0088]

Sometimes the second one is to make the first one jealous and cause triangulation.

[Wiredone]

I think I'd agree with that

[laly520]

agree