My boyfriend broke up after things I did while very drunk, is there any chance though?

[Anonymous]

I was wondering if there is any chance. To be honest, I don't remember too much. He had to remind me that I broke two cups, screamed and threw his glasses against the wall so now he has to get a new one.

I've never done anything like this before and I'm not really a heavy drinker. I've made a mistake but should it be over for this reason? I don't recall much and won't drink like that ever again. Should it be over because of this mistake?

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I've turned into a Ms Hyde person when very drunk and clearly regret it. That's really not me when I'm normal. I never meant to do any of that.

[Finchie40]

If he is the type that holds grudges then you are probably shit out of luck and probably best to walk away and accept the fact that he truly doesn’t love you if he is breaking up with you over that , and find yourself someone that accepts your flaws the same way you accept theirs. I like to drink as well , mainly on the weekends when I am relaxing after a long week of work , or if I am with friends socializing and having a good time, I dated
Girls’ that hated when I got tipsy or drunk at times that held it against me , even though I knew I didn’t do anything to jeopardize the relationship they just hated that I liked having a good time , so I no longer date girls’ that think drinking is the worst thing on the planet , that can’t handle my personality of letting loose and having fun. I rather a girl join me instead of being against me. I don’t drink every day , but in her eyes, once a week was too extreme for her to handle , I just say see ya , nice knowing you , good luck finding a guy that doesn’t like to drink , even if you do , it will just he a matter of time before he starts drinking after he is with you for sometime. Trust me on that one lol Now if I was drinking everyday from the second I woke up and every chance I get , than yes I admit I have a problem , but to drink on the weekends if there is no plans I don’t think anything is wrong with that. So I decided to no longer date girls’ that think having some beer on the weekends is the worst thing in the world that try to monitor my intake , I don’t criticize her for what she is eating so don’t criticize me , I prefer a girl that likes to have some drinks and unwind with me , when I have a girl like that , we have more in common , we enjoy going to breweries and trying new beers , we enjoy sitting at home being content with each other , if she gets drunk I have her back just like I hope she has mine , if we get drunk together oh well shit happens , it’s not the end of the world , unless she cheats on me than that’s a different story lol

[Flatmanlewis]

We live in an era where even the hint of domestic violence can get a man arrested. Such arrests are rarely pled out and (in many states) the “victim” has no say in whether the other half is arrested or prosecuted.


To be in the presence of a woman who completely looses her mind and turns into a violent banshee is frightening for a man as there is - literally - nothing we can do. We have to stand aside and hope it calms itself. I can totally see a man walking after such a display of righteousness. Especially if just dating or a girlfriend. People tend to become “more” of whatever they are once married. Best to cut losses early.


Lastly, you are saying you only broke some glasses and threw some of his property as if to downplay the severity of it. I think your dismissiveness of the seriousness of the incident it part of the issue he may have. If you recognized how atrocious your behavior was, don’t blame the alcohol but rather accept responsibility for the ruined evening, and pledge to show him it was not representative of the person you are, you’ll probably get more traction. I’d also suggest you ask (and recognize) that drunk people who behave this way often say horrible things and he may be holding on to an aspect of your behavior that either you are unaware of OR he may not be willing to just glance past as if it didn’t happen.


If you earn him back I’d suggest you take extreme steps to insure such events never occur again.

[Anonymous]

I feel like often times when men break up with you after one incident or something that wasn’t even that bad, it’s because they already had it on their mind to do it and this was the excuse. Don’t get me wrong, it sounded like an awful drunken episode and some men just have zero tolerance for “drama”. But in most cases I think it’s because they were thinking of breaking up already. There can be several reasons, like getting tired of being with you in a relationship or just wanting to be single in general. It is spring break for a lot of people and summers around the corner, that’s probably time he’d like to spend with his boys as a single dude. Who knows. In any case, I’m not sure if this is the true end, but I’d say not to let him mess with your head or string you along if he does reach out. There’s a difference between taking accountability for fucking up and being mistreated by a man who will leverage the incident in order to keep you feeling guilty so he can act however he wants.

[sheikalana]

To be very honest with you is quiet hard to get over this situation. Next time have some self control there's no need to drink to the point where you can't remember what you did and as you can see it left you in big trouble. Not worth it at all. Take responsibility for your actions and learn from your mistakes.

[AI Opinion]

Sailing through choppy relationship waters, are we? Ah, the infamous "rough night" plot twist, starring alcohol as the villain. First off, love, a heartfelt apology and a sincere promise not to repeat such behavior is your starting point. Owning up to your mistake and understanding the impact of your actions—especially when they lead to spectacle worthy of a dramatic movie scene—sets the stage for healing.

Now, should it be over? Everyone makes mistakes, but it’s the learning and evolving from them that adds the spice to life. It seems like this was out of character for you, and you're willing to take measures to ensure it doesn't happen again. That’s commendable! Show him your dedication to change, maybe even suggest discussing guidelines for future situations where alcohol might muddle your judgment.

However, the ball is ultimately in his court. Respect his feelings and give him space to process the situation. Relationships are like dance floors; sometimes, you step on each other's toes. But with patience, understanding, and a touch of humor, you might just find yourselves back in sync, grooving to a happier tune. 🕺💃 Let’s keep our fingers crossed that this incident becomes a footnote in a long and joyous relationship rather than the final chapter. Good luck, love!

[Anonymous]

I thought you were going to say you cheated on him while drunk or something.

Anyway he might of acted rashly at first glance. But when people are intoxicated they often show a different side to them. Reason being is their inhibitions and self control are switched off. And that other side can be destructive/dangerous/violent.

He’s more afraid of you acting that way if you were very perturbed for other reasons even while sober. I can see why he wants to get out of that because that behavior is in you.

I had a fling with a girl who was heavy drinker in my 20s. She was actually a smart and interesting chic most of the time (when sober). But she was a pain in the ass when drunk. She also got very promiscuous when drunk and would do it with anyone (man or woman) despite being normally 100% hetero when sober.

Anyway this is something you will need to keep in check (probably for rest of your life). Because this side of you is always bubbling under the surface.

Did even apologize to him after the incident? If you did, did you bring up first or did he have to confront you about what you did? If you didn’t then I see why he broke it up.

The good news is you’re still young. Just take this as a hard lesson.

[NewgodOmega]

If you kill someone while drunk it dont change the fact that you killed someone being drunk is not a excuse nor it is a pass to do bad things and get away

Whatever you did take responsibility I know women never take responsibility never ever but whatever you did , you did there is no getting away from that no running away

[Anonymous]

More than likely it’s over. Men don’t want drama, you sound like the epitome of it. The fact that you don’t remember what you did speaks volumes. Means you have no control. You don’t know your limits. Still childish, which I can understand to a point you’re still very young. If I was him we’d be done too. You get violent when you’re drunk. That’s way too much drama for a man to deal w. I can only imagine if you started fighting w him physically.

[Asker]

I didn't get physical with him but he just added an additional detail. This is base on what he said because I don't remember it. At some point I was walking towards him, making gestures with the hands (as if trying to raise it) and stopped just a couple inches from his face, yelling. I've never done that before with anyone ever. That's not my real me if sober and sane.

[Asker]

He really thought I was going to go physical at some point and then him being forced to restrain me and report it if it had done that route.

[Opinion Owner]

Regardless of be done. Maybe he’s been through that before w someone in his family or an ex. Even if he has t he knows he does t like it, won’t tolerate it. Just something you’ll have to learn from going into your next relationship.

[worldscolide]

Sorry the "I was drunk" Excuse is very played out. If you can't handle your liquor dont drink end of story. Accept what happened to you and do better. That is your only path. If i were in his shoes id have left you too. Violence is never acceptable, even when drunk.

[MemeSupreme]

cups no but glasses are expensive and so important for like his daily life

that's like someone stabbing one or two of your tires while drunk. it's a bitch to replace, gets in the way, and costs money

[Asker]

now his version gets worse. He just added another detail, which I really don't remember. I have no recollection of this:
He said during my angry tirade, at some point I was walking towards him and making awful gestures with my hands (like when you're trying to raise your hands, as if to hit the person or something) and stopped just a couple inches from his face, yelling. I didn't hit him but he said it look like I was about to. Omg, I don't remember that. I've never ever acted that way towards anyone ever.

[laly520]

if he chose to walk away then there is no changing to it

he was able to stay n talk but decided to leave u

so move on

its over

[spartan55]

I love how girls always believe they are entitled to a 'do-over' when they fuck up. It's called being held accountable for your actions. If my SO shattered glasses and acted like that she would get the gate. Idgaf how drunk she was.

[Smashingdoozy]

I don't think it's unreasonable. If that's something he doesn't want to deal with then that's his choice. You can learn from your mistakes but that doesn't mean he has to be a part of that

[JacobJordan]

You destroyed property and then destroyed the visual aide with which he views the world. Count yourself he isn't forcing you to pay for it + any other damages your stupidity cost

[dustybiker2]

People want to feel safe in their own home. He clearly didn't.

[Huntingnfishin]

I guess it depends on your own self control. If you think you can stay away from alcohol then you might win him back. Some guys dig that kind of thing tho

[bowenw]

Apologize, tell him you will be more careful going forward about how much you drink, and hope he accepts it.

[zagor]

Maybe if you totally kiss up to him and promise not to drink any more, and mean it. Assuming you are nothing like that when sober.

[Staximus]

If you are like Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde when sober vs drunk then you should not drink.

[noohair]

You should not be drinking, you could be alergic to alchhol.

[HelpfulWoman]

yeah. if it was my dude doing that, i'd leave.

[JayBones]

Lol. Dumb skank

[sakurayuki0629]

I'd say.. it's over