Why don’t I get asked out often, guys just stop talking to me, all of it what’s going on and why is this happening?

[laurlaur101]

At the moment this has been stressing me out for as long as I can remember but after i encountered this one guy the whole thing was unexpected he talked to me initiated things told first told me to hit him up then one day stopped talking to me. We got along well too hung out twice seemed like we vibed he did all the right things so I saw green flags in it. So why did he just approach and do all of that only to quit? I feel so stupid but I’m really not stupid at all this has made me so upset I’m still having a hard time with this I can’t move forward with my life this is bringing the past situations resurface I’m never going to find happiness I felt happy but they had to take it away from me. I feel so rejected nobody wants me at all so ladies what is it with these guys? I just don’t feel worth it to try with any at this point. I want to feel good about myself and be more confident but I can’t help that this is bothering me feel like I’m never going to get out of this and finally feel ok because I’m no where near that yet.

[DevikaButts95]

You're 20 and pretty, you will find a guy. (And if not, hey if you wanna join a poly group of 3 girls. Lmao. ;) )
The guy that approached you, assuming he's 20, was likely a fuckboi, but if not, maybe felt you weren't in to him, felt like you guys weren't a good fit, had someone else come along before he really got to be with you, maybe just got super depressed, etc. We don't know, there's countless reasons he could have stopped that early.
And it's okay to be upset about it, but as opposed to just feeling upset over it, why not just try asking guys out? They're more likely to say yes to you. A lot of guys don't ask girls out because they're not only afraid of rejection, but just outright expect it at this point, as girls tend to have countless more options then them.

[laurlaur101]

Yeah Im sure about if he was a fuckboy or not or there was interference from other people which could’ve been the cause too. I think he could be dealing with past baggage too from an old girlfriend who knows but not fair to me to put it on me now when I didn’t do anything wrong. Maybe it was my fault because I never told him how I felt either because I’m afraid of getting let down too I don't know how he felt either

[Abbycado]

You’re being really hard on yourself for things you didn’t do. Not everyone is going to be a perfect match. No reason to give up.

[laurlaur101]

I know but still feels like everything backfires tho like I don't know what the problem is I clicked with someone for once it’s hard to find that then I don't know it got taken away from me never can get anywhere he did everything right too like asked me out, asked me questions about myself I asked questions back & his actions showed over words which were green flags

[Nikki1989]

You are meeting shy and spineless guys, probably.

[laurlaur101]

What do u mean? Expand

[Nikki1989]

Some guys will make a move, but then quickly lose all their motivation.

[laurlaur101]

True

[laly520]

issue not in u but in guys u going after

[laurlaur101]

Yes probably most likely