Why do so many guys ask me out, flirt with me, have a crush on me, etc?

[Anonymous]

My face is kind of ugly, though I have a skinny but toned bod from being an athlete in college. I somehow had two boyfriends so far and other guys have crushes on me. Sometimes I am afraid to talk to guys because they usually start flirting with me or ask me out even though I already have a boyfriend, and even at my job. I work in retail. I am not an easy girl, only had sex with my boyfriend and my ex and I made them wait at least two months. Both of my ex and my current boyfriend have been kind of insecure about other guys liking me and talking to me and both asked me how often guys ask me out.

[Anonymous]

You have a boyfriend already.
Don't worry about the others.

I's not nice to keep secrets, but how does your guy now, or previously, find out about others liking you or asking you out? Did they see or hear them doing so? Is he telepathic? You aren't telling him now, or him past, that these things are occurring, are you? If you are, yet you're wondering why they're insecure, I have to wonder how you'd draw that conclusion?

I know guys totally enjoy hearing from their women that so and so liked me, or asked me out. Nothing like starting jealousy or insecurity.

If you're the one that's telling, you might want to consider that you6r the one giving him an insecurity complex, and frankly that's just cruel. It's as if you're deliberately trying to hurt him You need to stop.

Lastly, and frankly a woman with a nice body with a not so good looking face will get more guys than a sad sack with a not so good looking face. There's a pecking order. A guy would rather have a beauty. In her place, a not so good face, with a great body will do. Last is not so good looking sad sack. You'd be chosen, not because you're good looking, but because you have a hard body. Most guys would rather do you than worse or nothing. Sad fact, but true.

All of that said, I'd take what you have now and not give him reason to be insecure. I mean, by your own admission, you're not all that, but with a great body. He doesn't need to know that every Tom, Dick, and Harry likes you and wants to take you out. White lying just spares him the angst that he's experiencing, and if you love him, why do that to him?

Take what you have and run with it. You may just find that the others trashy are interested in you, only want to use you for your body.

[Wise4myage]

You're obviously much prettier than you think. So work on believing that.

[Changiis07]

Many guys find you attractive so that's good