Why am I never asked out? I am flirted with but never anything past that and I don’t understand?

[Anonymous]

I am usually the 3rd wheel and I’ve accepted it but I don’t understand how to change this. I’m told I’m pretty and always have been, and I have friends of all types. Guys flirt but it always ends there, i recently tried to get into a friends with benefits with a guy I know but he never really was open to it. I was always told your time will come but now im older and nothing has changed, I’ve seen girls right out of a relationship have 5 guys and I don’t get it. I can’t be the only girl that struggles this way, my friends say they don’t know why this happens to me. I just want to break out of this because I never had my chance to be free and have fun, im always just alone and I don’t want this to continue but I don’t know what I’m doing wrong.

[PrettyPriya]

How do you react when you are flirted with? That could be one of the problems. Not saying it is but possibly. Also, where are you meeting these guys? Last thing... have you considered asking the guy out? I asked my now fiancé out. Took the chance and worth it. I am glad I didn't miss out on that opportunity.

I believe that there are good places and bad places to meet people. I have never done online dating, so I cannot speak from experience, but others have said that it is a real waste of time. Same goes for clubs/pubs/bars. I think that is a terrible way to meet people.

I always suggest looking in your local area and seeing if there are any activity groups or clubs that interest you. You have a great chance to meet some people that share a common interest. Bonus is they are often free and you get to do something you like to do. Easy to strike up conversations with someone when you share something in common.

[Asker]

If I’m into them I flirt back, I stare and tease them back. Depends on what they give me , I’ll be touchy and they will say I’m blushing just typical things.. just never goes past that which is always so strange to me

[PrettyPriya]

Hmm, that is strange that you are sending out some signals and nothing back. Could be that he views you as a friend only or he is just not picking up what you are putting out there.

[Bethany22]

Maybe you should read books on flirting, such as how to come across as more confident and approachable instead of distant and desperate

[Avcfhcic]

You might just be in the wrong place with guys who just want action rather than anything serious.
But like someone else said, you may have to take the initiative and ask someone out too! Just go for it.

I can't obviously comment on looks or personality but some guys use girls to gain confidence

[chicosuave]

its because you are too picky. guys can smell it when youve rejected thousands of guys. they dont want to go through the same thing and waste there time with you.

[Avicenna]

Im wondering why you aren’t asking guys out.

[Asker]

I did with a coworker recently, we’ve flirted for a while and then after we went out he’s been cold.

[Avicenna]

Yeah, it’s usually a good idea not to date a co-worker

[In_Trance]

Because you're not giving off the right vibes