Does he hate me? Do I still have a chance with him?

[seselya]

So long story short.. this guy had a hugd crush on me 10 years ago. He would surprise me with flowers and give me gifts like novels we went on few dates and he surprised me by asking to marry me and move to another country with him ! Well ofc i would panic ! We were just dating we didn't have a Relationship he didn't confess loving me and out of the bloom he wants to get married and move to uk to continue our study ( I was in 2nd year in college ) . So i paniced and refused , he was hurt but insisted that we remain friends and we were really good friends ( we stopped dating though ) untill one day we had an argument ( simple one ) and I told him to mind his own business _ I know I shouldn't say that :( _

He never spoke to me again ever. I tried to connect with him few times afterthat but he didn't give me anychance..

Now 10 years later we met in a confrence ( we both work in the same field) .. he didn't say hi to me but kept glansing and looking away whenever I glansed back.. I remembered all the good times we had and how sweet he was.. never got the courage to approach him though plus I dont have his contact details.. so I texted him later on linked in appologizing for the way I reacted 10 years back and if I caused him any pain.. he ignored my message although he veiwed my profile twice.. I left a normal comment on one of his posts he ignored it also..

I know its been 10 years but I really miss him and I feel like i need to reconnect with him.. I dont know if he hates me now or just still feeling hurt ( even 10 years later?)

I dont know why he's not even giving me a chance to talk to him.. why he's behaving like this? Do I still have a chance with him even? What should I do? :(

[Anonymous]

Good god woman! He has moved on!

Why does that mean he has to “hate” you? Or “still be hurt” by you? Do you really think you had THAT much of an effect on the man

He has moved on. That ship has sailed. I know your romantic lonely little heart doesn’t want to admit this, but it’s over. m

The man proposed to you for God’s sake. Then remained your friend after you rejected him! And then you tell him, “Mind your own business.”

Well, he listened and he did just that.

It’s over. Move on. He certainly has.

[seselya]

Thank you for your honest opinion. I REALLY feel bad about what I said years back. I truly want him to forgive me whether he moved on or not.. anyways thanks

[Bobby88t]

This is a painful past for him i suppose.. He moved on obviously or still argue.
If he dint want tobcontact you should leave him alone. It was a long time ago.

You did the first step and maybe the last one if he ignored you.
I know its hard but 10 years ago.. ity really long time

[seselya]

True that.. :(

[Bobby88t]

Sorry to say that. I know you would like to be with him again. People regret bad decisions later. But maybe if you have patience he will answer you.

[Taniisokay]

You will sound pathetic if you reach out to him soon again. Leave him alone. Just because he viewed your profile twice doesn't mean a shit. Good luck.

[seselya]

True :(

[Artificial Intelligence]

Ahh, the classic case of lost love and what-ifs. Your story reads like a romantic novel where the characters part ways only to potentially reunite years later. However, let's unfurl those emotions and get to the heart of the matter. Your old flame, who once showered you with love and surprises, might not necessarily 'hate' you. Hate is a strong word, darling. It's more likely he's harboring hurt or the awkwardness of past emotions is resurfacing, especially after an unexpected breakup followed by a lengthy silence.

Your attempt to reconnect sends a clear signal: you're reflecting on the past and are curious about the possibility of nurturing something lost. However, his response—or lack thereof—indicates either a lack of interest in rekindling or perhaps a protective barrier around his feelings. After all, seeing your message but not responding speaks volumes.

But don't lose heart just yet! Love, and the pursuit of it, can be a maze. The key here is not to chase a ghost from the past but to consider what you truly desire from this potential reconnection. If it's friendship or closure, you’ve made your move. If it's love, then remember, love requires reciprocity to flourish.

What to do next? Give it a bit of space. You've extended the olive branch. Now, it’s time to lean back and focus on yourself. If he eventually reaches out, that's fantastic! If not, trust that this is just one chapter in your grand love story, with many more chapters yet to be written. Remember, the best love stories often have a twist or two! Keep your heart open, but also keep moving forward. Who knows what or who the future holds? 😉💖

[seselya]

Wow am amazed you truly are a love doctor ! Thank you so much I feel so much at ease now regardless of the outcome :)

[The_Sexpert]

Take the risk of somehow talking to him, I bet you have nothing to lose.. what if everything ends well.. your fear to approach should not be the reason for a bad ending

[slatyb]

Contact him and tell him how you felt. You were very young and his ask was unreasonable.

[JayBones2469]

You don't have a chance in Hell. Leave him alone he is happy now living with out you