Do psychologists have better success in relationships?

Question

I read article like this, which would have been very helpful to understanding relationships. But I had no idea... never had a class in psychology early in life.

https://www.simplypsychology.org/author/julia-simkus

In your experience, are those with psychology training more successful? Can they see themselves sufficiently and others to either work on their inner selves or choose partners that better suite them?

"Yea, I know how to handle an anxious attachment style..."

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Accepted Answer

That's completely outside my realm of expertise. In Japan here, the type of psychotherapy I like to study is almost an alien practice.

But if any psychologists are like me, I became drawn to the study because I was genuinely f*ed up if you'll forgive my French.

I can legitimately say that the study has made me less so, not entirely so, and improved my odds substantially of finding better women and ultimately now my wife of 14 years.

But I was legitimately f*ed up, and I have to wonder if that might be the case of many people drawn to psychology as a study.

Also thankfully I have a wife who is into Buddhism and she overlaps with a lot of the cognitive techniques to reframe our negative thinking to the positive. But a lot of people don't want to do that so eagerly.

You tell people who say their job is the worst job in the world and try to tell them that a lot of people surely have it worse and they're like, "You don't understand me!" You know. People who don't have to help themselves first and foremost can't really be helped by even the greatest psychotherapists.

So they might inadvertently turn off a lot of people even if they're really good in suggesting a better way to think because you can't really be open to a better way to think until you realize your way is not very good.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I’ve been going to the same psychotherapist for about 7 years now. We are the same age and he grew up in an area I used to live. He can relate to how I think.

I was supposed to go on a date with a young woman who was psychotherapist herself a year ago. She flaked out. But I talked to my own counselor about it. He said a lot of people who go into the psychotherapy industry are often screwed up themselves. They are partially motivated to find answers to their own problems.

That makes sense and is actually even good. Reason being it can help with relatability. For example most addiction counselors are recovering addicts themselves. And only an addict can truly release to another addict. This is why anon groups are effective. Because you understand how the other person thinks and there is no better criticism/advice from someone you truly understands what you are going through.

With all the said a psychotherapist needs to have their act together to a certain extent. Needs self discipline to have patience to listen to people. Needs to put on an act they are clear minded themselves. The blind can’t lead the blind.

siseñor · Accepted Answer

qualifications are not indicative of a person's individual character.

psychology is a very broad field. it focuses on all sorts of human behaviour, so I don't know if it would necessarily be helpful in most cases. for example that lady has studied addiction and eds, probably a lot more so than relationships.

at the end of the day i think a lot of psychology is dumb and knowledge is not the same as intelligence.
i know a lot of psychologists who are good at their studies but are terrible and not sympathetic at all, and i know a lot of people who haven't touched a psychology textbook and are the most psychologically healthy and caring people you could meet.
sorry if this sounds dumb, my brain is turned off

laurieluvsit · Accepted Answer

My dad owns a lot of office space that I help manage and we rent to many therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists.

So far, I have not met one that I thought was totally sane... lol

I have come to the conclusion that most of them have serious mental issues themselves and go into that profession as a way of trying to figure themselves out and their childhood issues.

I had a girlfriend go to one who claimed to be a Christian Counselor and he told her at her first session that she was possessed by a demon... no, I am not kidding!

Do psychologists have better success in relationships?

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Oh, the allure of the psychology-trained love guru! 🌟 Imagine having a love potion in your pocket, right? But let’s get real for a second. While those with a background in psychology might have a head start in understanding behaviors and patterns, it doesn’t automatically shield them from the rollercoaster of love. Seeing into the depths of one's own heart and others’ can be quite the double-edged sword—it means you can't easily ignore the red flags or the lovebombing because you know exactly what they signify.

From my cozy corner of relationship coaching, I've observed that success in love isn't reserved for psychology buffs alone. It's about how you use that knowledge. Sure, understanding anxious attachment styles is a superpower in its own right, but even superheroes face challenges. The real magic happens when you couple that understanding with empathy, communication skills, and a willingness to work on oneself and the relationship.

So, do psychologists have better success? They have the tools, but like in any good love story, knowing how to use them makes all the difference. The heart wants what it wants, and sometimes, it's not all by the book. 😉

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coachTanthony · Answer

In theory you would say yes but I know quite a few who are on their second divorce. The human condition still remains no matter how much information or knowledge you have on the subject.

Lynx122 · Answer

I think it comes down to how much work you put into your own development and work on yourself internally as well. There are doctors who smoke and live unhealthy lives so I'm sure there are psychologists who neglect their own mental health too. My psychiatrist he was super overweight and his secretary was even more overweight. One day she died she was only in her early forties and he was super shocked. I wasn't shocked at all. He is a smart guy but he still neglected his health. I hope he learned something from this experience.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Just because a psychologist has a slightly better insight into elements of behavior etc doesn’t make them more likely to be able to use that to positive effect because there are 2 people ? Also the learnings here are open to interpretation and applied with knowledge of the patient so success is always limited by an infinite number of variables regardless of the academic understanding. I would say the qualities and skills that are pre-requisite to a psychologist lend themselves to a healthy marriage but so do many many many other professions. Interesting question though

IslaTheWitch · Answer

psychologists are the same people as the rest of society :D they are better at observing other people, seeing some symptoms, and finding clues... but they can't really use those skills on themselves or people they have strong emotions toward... so no... they are as lost in relationships as we are :D

jimmy2 · Answer

Think about it
If they find a partner that is not on that field than the relationship is unequal since partner is clueless

If they find a partner that is like them in practice than both will play the other all the time
Let it make sense

sheikalana · Answer

Interesting question. I guess the glass is not always greener on the other side.

purplepoppy · Answer

When your first line is, "Tell me about your mother?" You know your off on a bad start.

molonski2 · Answer

For me , I love going to psychologists , because I've always found it incredibly helpful on a person level , although I always find the same issue in my past that affected all.

Are they better in relationships? I would have thought they'd be good at communication and negotiation , better than the standard , but I really do not know the answer , well not based on any statistics.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Not necessarily. To me they seem like anyone else as far as relationship success goes. Some are divorced, some are still married. Mostly great people though. I'm not just talking about clinical psychologists, but also marriage and family counselors, therapists, and social workers.

annabananna · Answer

The people that I know personally that were psychologists or counselors had pretty rough relationships.

Xia1994 · Answer

A psychologist works on self improvement so that they can better help people and they learn a bunch of theories and modalities but they are still as flawed as everyone else because being knowledgeable doesn't make you superior nor does it diminish your imperfections so I doubt they have better success just cuz their psychologists.

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

Definitely not 🤣🤣🤣🤣 one of my relatives is a psychologists and she's crazy herself and can't keep a man because of it

FreyaRed · Answer

No. It's difficult to heal your own teeth as dentist. I don't think it's different for a psychologist because of bad perspective

laly520 · Answer

ik few of em around 4 3 of em have successful relationships but thats only from my own experience

dustybiker2 · Answer

Depends on how good a psychologist they are, but also how honest they are with themself.

Twalli · Answer

Not necessarily. They usually have to stop viewing a relationship dipassioniately for it to work. They have to separate professional knowledge and personal feelings.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

My automatic instinct would be no and they divorce more often. The same kind of irony where many therapists have therapists

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NathanDavis · Answer

theory is very different than practice...

Dongie · Answer

I believe relationships are not held up by a specific profession. Broken hearts have no prejudice and psychologists are prone to be very arrogant as being experts of the mind so probably have a higher divorce rate than most other pofessions.

ManOnFire · Answer

If I recall right (although it's been a long time), I think Freud didn't have a great marriage. But as far as every other one, really not sure.

sawno · Answer

I'd love to find out, I tend to be really attracted to psychologists since they are deep thinkers.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Nope. Always analyzing, judging and thinking, they are.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I don’t think so.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

I'd say not much different than average people 😕

DreamLife7 · Answer

No they're still people like everyone else.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

I'm sure they are charging either way.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Highly doubt it

red324 · Answer

I doubt it.

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