Pros and Cons of dating a psychologist?

[Anonymous]

[Thomas_Shelby]

Everything here depends on the individual paychologist.

Most psychologists are in it for the money, because it’s frankly a easy job if you have at least half a brain, but the moment they come to a remotely intelligent person, all of what they’ve been taught and what they think they know breaks down, and the smart person realizes what they really.

It takes a really smart person to be a good psychologist, and most psychologists just aren’t very adaptable or intelligent to help solve really complicated problems. Your average psychologist will be able to understand and help with basic emotional pain, but not super complicated feelings and thought processes only found in people with high EQ and IQ.

So let’s assume that if the psychologist is really good:
Pros:
Is perceptive and sensitive to what their partner has to say.
Can understand their innate motives/functions pretty well.
Provide GREAT supportive advice, and will always be there for you if they love you.
They will really, really love you, please you and support you.
Cons:
If you yourself aren’t very bright or can’t make sense of what you’re feeling, he or she may give up on you (unless you have other traits that they admire).

If the psychologist is mediocre or average:
Pros:
Listens to a lot that you say and does their best to connect with you.
Will want to please and support you.
Very much in tune with your feelings, knows how to make you feel good when you’re stressed.
Cons:
Can come off as shallow or fake to their partner if their partner is very intelligent.

That’s about it that I feel like writing down at the moment, sorry for the rant

[jgokgotit]

Many of the pros people will list eventually become cons. A psychologist deals with so much emotional trauma that they will shut down at home, bring their work home or be a psychologist when you need a partner. I saw this a lot in the military as a medic. The spouse of a psychologist essentially becomes one but without all the education and training.

[BluesheepOwl]

She knows your shit better than you know your shit. She can't read your mind. She can probably help depending on what she studied. She has a lot of colleagues to refer you to. She might be good at winning fights. She might experiment on your kids you have together. She might be making bank depending on her job and how much experience she has. She knows what to believe and not to believe about experiments and can look at the statsical data and know if it is scientific or pseudoscience. So, if she reads the research about one experiment about raising kids, she'll be able to tell if it's real or not. She most likely cares about people. She might be good with numbers. She's probably got her completed experiments submitted to peer review and she might still be conducting experiments (basic research, applied research for example). She has a cool dissertation contributing to psychology if she went for her doctorate.

All these can be seen as pros and cons by the way you look at it.
I am studying psychology.
@Wowgirl30q - your guy is lucky to have you and your future kids!

[Wowgirl30q]

You are the sweetest girl ever Ms @BluesheepOwl

[AmandaYVR]

They'll help you sort through all sorts of feelings, about yourself and the world, and that is a whole lot of free valuable advise which is hard to quantify exactly. But... they will never stop analyzing and critiquing you. They will try to out-think you at all turns. You could be manipulated somewhat. Better be ready for that. Get your big boy pants on and your running shoes by the door. Get set, ready, go! 🚦

[Cynicaldreamer]

Pro: free therapy and someone to vent to!
You know he's a good listener considering that's part of his job
They can offer you insight on things about yourself you might not realize
Interesting stories about their patients they see

Con: they would analyze any and everything about you, which might be problematic at times.

I definitely wouldn't be opposed to dating one

[DevylasArsaukas76]

the con reminds me a lot of the zodiac sign Virgo

[Cynicaldreamer]

@DevylasArsaukas76 Haha, really? I'm a Cancer so I tend to be analytical at times as well. So it wouldn't bother me too. At least you would know they care if they're analyzing you

[trapper1738]

Pro: free therapy.
Con: therapy.

I study psychology for personal pursuits. But Iv had to keep a lot of observations with my partners to myself. They often take things as a direct insult rather than the ability to improve. Only one ex appreciated it and I she pointed out other practical things I can work on as well.

[nerms123]

Pro. They understand you. Con. They understand you lol

[Unit1]

Pro: She might provide you with prescriptions for happiness pills and (hopefully) you get free therapy.

Con: She'll over-analyze every single little move you do with your body 24/7 (staying, sitting, sleeping, lying, the way you walk, talk, blink, breathe, lean... you name it) and then comes up with BS theories, that do not apply. You are her favorite and permanent test subject.

[genericname85]

i'd say the cons are that you probably won't be able to hide big issues that you may have xD

the pros are however that with a psychologist you likely won't waste a lot of time figuring out if you are a good match, cause they'll be efficient in figuring that out. i'd love to date a psychologist.

[Clarke510]

Pros: They make pros and cons lists and will point out all of the pros.

Cons: They make pros and cans lists and will point out all of the cons.

[bimmy5000]

I think pro is they can read your moods better than others and can better at supporting peo3

Cons. They can probably read you like a book so hiding things can be difficult.

[Moonchild714]

This is a question for myvboyfriend since I'm a Psychologist and Police Detective LOL. He's always saying, you're either Analyzing or Interrogating... LOL

[Anonymous]

Pros: I presume they’re good with people so Willie be easier in a relationship.
Cons: many of them have issues which Spurred them into the role. Hopefully they’re not manipulative (whether unknowingly or not).

[Opinion Owner]

*will

[Anonymous]

Thank you for asking this, i study the field. Most tell me its all negative. Most people say, they can read you, analyze everything, look for flaws, always try to "fix" their spouse.

[DevylasArsaukas76]

like a virgo

[Piteka5]

Nah, we don't go around looking for flaws, sometimes we see patterns that we might try to understand but in my case is just for some mental workout to keep what I learn fresh. It also varies wildly depending on which camp you are, a neuro heavy psychologist will not try to analyse as much, because he needs machines to do so

[Opinion Owner]

@Piteka5 exactly! but I don't try to apply it to people around me. If I do I usually keep it to myself lol.

[Iron_Man]

The cons are you'll be psychoanalyzed for the rest of your life as long as she's with you and she will run the relationship. The pros are she'll make a nice decent stable living and you'll be able to travel a lot together on her down time

[archiz]

I am in a relationship with one. I find them very understanding and patient. I didn't find any cons. Plus I discovered I love psychology too.

[Emmalouise03]

i guess they'll try and figure u out, which can be annoying that they think they know everything, but also can be helpful if ur going through something I don't know

[archiz]

It is actually unethical for them to analyse you

[Thomas_Shelby]

@archiz what?

[archiz]

@Thomas_Shelby my girlfriend is a psychologist and she tells me it is unethical for her to analyse me because it is not going to be objective. So she doesn't try to with me, even when I ask her. She tells me outside of work she is just a regular person not a psy for everyone.

[Thomas_Shelby]

@archiz gotcha, that makes more sense, but when you say “ethical” I think more about what morality or what is right and wrong. I mean everyone analyses each other, just if we say it aloud is another thing

[archiz]

@Thomas_Shelby yea because a psychologist is a professional and when you are too close to the person your judgement is flawed. So she can't really give me a proper evaluation.

[Thomas_Shelby]

@archiz cool, so how are the lesbian benefits compare to male benefits?

[archiz]

@Thomas_Shelby what benefits🤣 and I am bi

[GD360]

Cons - you always feel like they trying to diagnose you, especially when they are mad at you.

Pro - at least you know they're not crazy because crazy people can't be a psychologist

[thelokisniper]

They are typically better at communicating and understanding. However, they may appear as if they know everything so if that offends you, probs steer clear.

[NicoD]

They can offer a lot of insight into many things. But in due time will they begin to psycho analize everything you do. I guess you will have to roll the dice and see.

[Bananaman177]

I'll tell you one con:

Psychologists always have fucked-up, crazy kids.

[MsElizabeth96]

Cons- They'll sleep with their co-worker and get kicked out of their university

Pros- Food whenever the bell rings

[Bhawks1213]

Can I ask you a question

[MsElizabeth96]

You just did

[Bhawks1213]

Does penis size matter if you love a guy

[MsElizabeth96]

What does that have to do with this topic?

[Massageman]

G- They know a lot about how people thing and inter-relate.
B- They never stop talking about personalities of people in general.

[ronaldo75]

I've already done it. They think they know everything you're thinking and 90% of the time they're wrong. Psychologists can be horrendously arrogant. Never again.