Is it okay for men to see women in OF or on any other social network just bc they are men even if they have a relationship?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend sees girls like that, what bothers me is that he said when we started dating that he didn't follow any girl like that anymore. Then when we were with another friend, he said that men looked at others women's like that even if they are married because they are men. On another occation he mentioned that if a woman has good legs even though she is ugly he would have relationships with her, isn't it a lack of respect for me? Maybe I'm very old-schooled for these things but when I'm in a relationship I really only notice that person and I don't see anyone else no matter who it is.

[DannyUk2017]

That`s where ALL starts from... Visual "incentive", if he can "say that in front of you" without any thought, imagine what it will happen next, so just have a nice face 2 face convo and put it all on the table, if he becomes "irritated" couse of that, then that IS A MASSIVE RED FLAG, that your relationship, down the line... IT WON`T WORK!`, and would be better to start cutting your losses before is too late. You say you`re old fashioned (so am i), but sadly we are seen in the "new world" as NAIVE, easy to manipulate, so better safe than sorry.

[Kaneki05]

Would you rather have someone honest or a liar?
Like if I said to her I don't find girls on Insta hot or like porn then I am lying, and what would be the motivation by that lie? Nothing good right?
So if I am loyal why would I try to hide it. Afterall you only hide things from your partner when trust is not there.
And pretty much all guys do like porn and find other women attractive so if someone tells you they don't 99% they are lying. Which then one has to question why? Personally I find that way worse.

[Kaneki05]

Though this guy by the way probably lied at the start saying he didn't fallow girls like that anymore. So that's suspect.

[HelpfulWoman]

if you assume people in relationships don't have "eyes" that work to notice other people if they are attractive, no relationship for you will ever last. attractiveness doesn't mean much.
your bigger issue here is his words to you don't match his words to others. THATS what you need to focus on.

[Asker]

I have never assumed that; I know things don't work that way. But it's one thing to say that someone is attractive and another thing to say that you would have relations with that person in a place where all our friends are just to look good. This is not the first time he has made a comment like this, so does he do it to impress his friends? I don't really mind that he watches porn, in the end, it's common, but what bothers me is that he tends to criticize women who have OnlyFans, but then why does he watch them? Isn't that hypocritical of him?

[MzAsh]

If it’s not ok with you, then it’s not ok. How are you going to confront him about this?

[Asker]

I don’t know, I try to talk to him but somehow he makes it a discussion about something of mine

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the digital world while in a relationship can be as intricate as a dance, but let’s get to the heart of the matter! It’s all about setting and respecting boundaries. If your partner's online habits make you uncomfortable, it's worth a heart-to-heart conversation. Your feelings are valid, and a relationship is a two-player game. It’s concerning that he's not aligning with what he promised at the start. Relationships thrive on trust, respect, and clear communication. If he’s checking out other women online and openly comments on it, I’d tag it as a red flag in the game of love. Remember, you're not old-school for wanting a relationship where you feel respected and valued. It's time for a candid chat about expectations and boundaries. Stay true to what makes you feel loved and respected! 💖

[Anonymous]

No, if he is doing that, he is probably looking at hardcore porn too.

[Iron_Man]

no it’s not stay loyal to the relationship