What is an acceptable amount of jealousy in a relationship?

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StarWarGirl · Accepted Answer

Jealousy is a feeling of losing someone or something or it is a signal that something/someone is important for us.

So if it is a natural feeling, then upto a certain limit it is ok. Unless it doesn't make you feel insecure, it's fine because it's a sign that this person is important for you and you don't want to lose him/her.

But if it is created intentionally, if someone intentionally creates such situation to make you feel jealous that's dirty game. Yes sometimes for a mild couple tease doing it as a joke is ok. But not often.

Also jealousy is like a alarm system. So if it's too high. If you are feeling more jealousy in a relationship that means there is something wrong there. Either in you or in your partner, so you need to look over it seriously. Either you are being too much obsessed or controlling or your partner action is being so wrong, and acting like a poison to kill your relationship.

So what amount of jealousy is acceptable in a relationship? If it is natural, and not intentionally created then only that much which could make your relationship feel more healthier without making anyone feel insecure or without letting any doubts to come in between you both partners.

You can take it as salt in food for understanding. We use salt very little in our food. And without salt food feels tasteless. So jealousy is like salt, a small amount, the right amount can make your relationship feel more fun, more healthy, more delicious, if more than that it will start bothering your taste buds. And when you could feel that it is bothering your taste buds you could understand now it's beyond it's limit.

But if it's intentionally created then it's allowed only upto a short term joke which is played very very rare. Only that much. Or else it will act like spark which could burn whole castle if we try playing with it.

Anne_02 · Accepted Answer

I will not be jealous of anything my partner does because I trust him. But I expect the same from him to give me freedom and not control me because I will take care of myself and take care of his trust in me. So the boundary I set is that as long as he doesn't break my trust in him, if he crosses my boundary, I will withdraw from him.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

There's no reason to be jealous about anything most people are jealous because of their past or the things that they think of when they're looking at somebody else so they think everybody is like that it's..

In the very beginning of a relationship you have to ask yourself if you're ready for this..

Then you have to tell yourself and be honest that it might not work out because you don't know anything about this person or there is friends or her friends and people are going to be people..

You have to know going into a relationship I'll call it 50/50 it's not 50/50 though but let's say it is you have to do your 50 part he has to do his 50if he can't do his 50 part. Then you're either going to have to make up for it or ask yourself why and the reasons behind it you have to understand it in any relationship anybody can get up and go at any. Moment In Time and those are the things you have to say in the very beginning before you even start dating or going out with each other am I willing to put myself through this because it only happens for a brief moment in the beginning because you're worried about everything but with love respect and trust and what he shows you through his actions that will all disappear but if you're jealous about something then it's never going to work

imtiaz45 · Accepted Answer

In relationships, a certain degree of jealousy can be normal, signaling care and investment in the partnership. However, it becomes problematic when it's excessive or controlling. Healthy jealousy might involve occasional pangs of insecurity or mild concern, prompting open communication and reassurance from both partners. Yet, when jealousy becomes possessive, leading to distrust, monitoring behaviors, or isolation from others, it can erode trust and harm the relationship. Ultimately, balance is key; acknowledging feelings of jealousy while actively working to address insecurities and fostering trust is essential for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling partnership.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Jealousy is often rooted in insecurity, so what is the right amount of insecurity in a relationship , the answer is the same , none !. Emotional and psychological damage can cause insecurities, from parents , from previous relationships often a person doesn’t even recognize they have them. It would be important for the other person in scenario to be reassuring and aupportive and build trust but quite often the insecurities lead to breakup and which compounds them. We can’t run a mile from insecurities, we can all develop them , if they can be worked through then they should and if not then ……

CrabCakes11 · Answer

It really depends on how on all parties handle it. If one person is jealous of their partner’s friend/coworker/etc, then the couple has to have a conversation about it and handle it in a healthy manner. Jealously stems from insecurity, which is unhealthy and needs to be dealt with.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Prince Charles (title at the time) was choking on it and he still couldn't grasp how lucky he was that he was married to Princess Diana. That was probably as extreme as you can get. Lesser couples murder each other... Oh wait...

Acceptable? I wouldn't say any amount is. Jealousy is hurt feelings. Something that needs to be addressed through open communication. If a couple can't both talk to and listen with each other they will not survive.

sage2021 · Answer

The person you are with shouldn't be doing stupid things that would make you jealous at all. It is very hurtful to the other person and only causes trouble between the two of you, so don't do it! Simple enough!

DrPepper12 · Answer

None. It's a wasted, dangerous emotion. Why be jealous? They're not "yours" you just enjoy each other's company. Coveting anything that others have? TOTALLY understand and support that but being jealous? Never understood it and never will.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Listen I've never gotten jealous with any of the girls I've been with. first of all why would I? And second I'm a sexy funny mother fucker, I have a great personality and all the confidence in the world. So for me to ever get jealous yeah right.

Anonymous · Answer

You should only have to tell her once. If it is a constant problem you have to put her on the street. Respect is a MUST in relationships. For BOTH genders if one cannot or will not respect the other you need to to let them go (no talking about it after you've said so already. Do not stop, do not pass go, do not collect 200 dollars).

MariusJ · Answer

Great question, I believe that being jealous comes from bad experiences/bad past/rough encounters and so on. To be in a healthy relationship you need to let go of the bad and put in 100% trust in the person.

IF it fails, you take a break, pull yourself together and try again later on.

SolitarySolace · Answer

I don’t understand why people don’t get jealous. Take ownership of your partner if you’re going to have one or don’t have a partner. I’ve opted for never having a partner. Sadly no one will do the same even knowing why I stopped.

WhiteSteve · Answer

Been there, done it, bought the t-shirt. Never again. That’s maybe my #1 dealbreaker in a relationship now.

WhyohWhy69 · Answer

Honestly, I don’t get jealous. I get hurt. If you don’t have the same respect for me that I do for you, it likely won’t work. Most issues that could hurt me are very standard common sense things.

Nikki1989 · Answer

None. Only the very insecure have jealousy issues.

Peridot25 · Answer

People tend to forget that jealousy is a natural human emotion. So how do we get rid of this emotion? How do we ban it?

livishay · Answer

Jealousy is a self outlook, I think. Like I feel there will be jealousy but sometimes it’s best to keep it to yourself unless it needs to be addressed

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Jealousy and being disrespected/made to feel less important than others are different things. There should be very little jealousy but it's understandable if there is a little from time to time

deus_ex_sisyphus · Answer

I think it depends on personality. I dislike possessive girls, but some men go out of their way to find them. You have to feel out your partner and make a personalized guess / test the waters

JacobJordan · Answer

None because Jealousy is spelled with lousy for a reason

Anonymous · Answer

The question is, jealousy about what? Is it irrational jealously, or is the other partner being inconsiderate and giving reason for their partner to be insecure?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

That's a good question. I would like to know the answer as well.

NathanDavis · Answer

I don't want none of that

slatyb · Answer

If she doesn't trust me it's over.

loveslongnails · Answer

Zero jealousy is acceptable.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

zero

mbarsi01 · Answer

None or there’s no trust

DreamLife7 · Answer

At 36-45 aka your age you're simply insecure

Miristheiss · Answer

15=20%

JayBones2469 · Answer

Zero

jahaims · Answer

Zero

In_Trance · Answer

none

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