JEALOUSY SCALE :Rate your Jealousy within a relationship?

[Victorianna]

[ak666]

0 for me, I think that's my natural state.

There was one time I got to 10, and I'd say I started at 0 and it went up a notch every 20 or 30 guys that tried to grope her, pull her aside in a corner and start sweet talking her in her ear.

I went up another notch when one of such guys bought a very expensive necklace for my fiance, things of this sort.

Then I found myself getting to a 10, exploded, got violent with one of the guys who tried to pick her up repeatedly, and lost her that way.

After that, it's been 0 ever since with all future girlfriends. I just don't care anymore. I learned the lesson the hardest way possible that insecurity is a bigger obstacle than any other guy.

[Victorianna]

Thanks a lot for your honestly!! :)

[ak666]

I'd say it's easier said than done. How many guys can claim to have had a guy you barely knew buy an $8,000 necklace (more than you could probably ever afford) for your fiancé? And then have this kind of thing happen repeatedly in some minor form or other? That's where the real test happens.. but I think I could still be at 0 if I ever had that happen to me the second time around -- I learned my lesson.

[Victorianna]

Yeah i can totally understand that!! I can imagine most people blowing a "gasket" at that , especially if guys groped her too, Thanks again!! :)

[ak666]

I think mostly the feeling is low self-esteem, like that expensive necklace just pointed out to me how I wasn't filthy rich. When some tall guy pulled her aside in a bar and was getting frisky, holding her waist, it pointed out to me that I'm not so tall (only 5'7). Little things like this was nagging at me, making me increasingly think I wasn't good enough even for the girl who agreed to marry me.

After that I just let it all go. I embraced a mindset that was somewhere between egomaniac and apathetic with all subsequent girlfriends, a kind of "I don't care, she'll stay with me if she likes me, otherwise I can't do anything about it.".

[ak666]

The egomaniac side I've embraced that helps me stay at 0 is no longer, "I'm so lucky to have her." Instead I flipped it to, "She's so lucky to have me" and make jokes about that all the time.

[TheLuckyOne1]

Honestly I'm on the high part of the scale lol, I am extremely jealous when it comes to the girl I love, I wouldn't even anyone to stare at her, I would even get jealous if another guy talked to her normally. I know this might sound unreasonable and I know it couldn't be done but it's just the way I feel and I guess I would have to deal with it.

[TheLuckyOne1]

I wouldn't even like**

[Victorianna]

It isn't unreasonable.. when you love and care about someone :)

[TheLuckyOne1]

I'm happy to know that you think it isn't unreasonable, your opinion about this is the only one that matters after all haha 😉

[Victorianna]

LOL I think i would be worried if there was no jealousy at all lol

[rgb008]

It depends.
I'm at a zero when things are normal lol.

The highest my jealousy has been when some girl started dancing on my boyfriend while we were at a bar in front of me. I wouldn't say it was a 10 because I didn't get violent lol. I just fucking stormed out of there haha I was so pissed.

[Victorianna]

Yeah , that is totally understandable when you care about someone.

[Hello1216]

Hmm. Stuff like porn, looking at girls, I would say 1.5 but if he would be talking to a girl knowing his intention is flirting oh god 11 smack
That bih. No I'm just kidding violence is wrong and I respect my man and he's too big he wouldn't even feel it lol

[Kiwedin]

3. I'm not generally a jealous or angry person when it comes to relationships, but maybe that's because I'm overly secure with myself haha. If I have an issue, I talk about it with my boyfriend. A conversation is more effective than screaming and yelling.

[mimmy]

It depends what I'm jealous for. If I'm jealous at my boyfriend flirting with other girls which he doesn't, I would be 3/10 jealous. But if he was full on chatting them up then I'd be 9-10/10. If that's what your asking

[mimmy]

Thanks for the MHO 😊

[Victorianna]

welcome :)

[HandsomeRaj]

For me 'jealousy' is a sign of insecurity & weakness than anything else. it's merely projected popularly as a sign of love and endearment to keep people from turning Spock like me lol.

In which case guess I'm not just a low scorer here but absolutely NIL aka 0 :D

My idea of possessiveness does not encompass restricting the one I love :) If she likes someone's attention and is happy with it I am perfectly fine by it just as long as he / she respects my girl. The moment he / she crosses the line of respect I'm a typical bull in a china shop for that person :)

[HandsomeRaj]

Thank you for liking my opinion young lady :) <3

[ksoma]

if anything goes beyond a 1, there are serious issues that need to be worked out.
i think a relationship is build on honestly, loyalty, and trust. jealousy is an indication that trust is not there, usually do to one person refusing to believe the other is loyal or honest.

[TripleAce]

Very low, Im not one to have my leaves ruffled very quickly. She can do whatever she wants but Ill choose to date a girl that has a mind to already know whats ok and whats not.

I won't take anyones individuality away, they should be who they are separate from a relationship.

[UhDopeDude]

It really depends... I am a trusting person but I've always struggled with jealousy so, really it depends on if she is getting chatted up by some guy and smiling about it? Then yes definitly im getting extremely jealous and I will either go take her away from that situation or put myself between them kiss her and say this is my girlfriend and if she got mad
About that.. Then I'd get pissed off at her and go around flirting with chicks then to show her how it feels

[akanetuk]

I was jealous in my previous relationship, I have come to discover that to safe your relationship you have to eliminate jealousy.

[Victorianna]

How can you eliminate jealousy? It's a human emotion. It isn't easy to suppress

[akanetuk]

Learn to master or control your emotions, don't go into a relationship with so much emotions.

[AleDeEurope]

When I'm in a relationship, I'm like a 1-2, there has to be something pretty serious to get me jealous.
When I'm in the crushing state, I'm more jealous though, but not too much to lose control, so like a 4-5.

[becca123]

0 to 2 for me. Rarely get jealous more than just a flash.

He's with me. If he can be taken from me that easily, I don't want him any way.

[KDA20]

I am probably naturally on a high part of the scale but I have learned to rein it in to an acceptable low mid point for the health of the relationship

[Yellow_]

Probably 3 in the beginning.

Then it will lower to 1-2.

[TheLuckyOne1]

Isn't it supposed to get higher when things are more serious and the when person means to you more?

[TheLuckyOne1]

And when the***

[Yellow_]

@TheLuckyOne1

I noticed with me it gets lower.
I am too jealous in the beginning (like with my best friend, when we first became friends)

But as we became really close, I knew she is my bestbfriend only, so I don't feel jealous as much as I used to.

[Anonymous]

8 lol I'm a jealous freak. What's mine is mine.. End of story. I don't want no other women close to my man.

[Trotters]

Probably 5. Red mist descends but I won't use violence

[Anonymous]

5 , i can be jealous, angry but not lose full control

[ThinkBLUEliveBLACK]

4 or 5 . depends on situation

[akadatank44]

Probably pretty high on the scale

[DamnCurtis]

Like a two?

Depends on the situation.

[Omar5881]

I really get jealous over the girl I love 😛

[Lendino]

Maybe 2.

[ArchDruidMordred]

I am a 7.

[dudegrt09]

3 to 7 I'll say

[BruceTrails]

I would be a 1.