What is your primary source of jealousy in relationships, if you do struggle with it? How do you reconcile with it?

[CubsterShura]

Jealousy in relationships stem from fear of losing your partner who is important to you, obviously. However, what I mean is that what exactly makes you fear losing them?

Is it your appearance? Personality? Attitude?

I am beginning to realize that my struggle with jealousy isn't necessarily about cheating or him finding other women physically attractive, instead my fear mainly lies in wondering if my partner actually likes me or is just pretending and secretly resents me or something. That's the original thought that spirals into wondering if there's someone else he would rather be with but I'm just more convenient, so I'm wasting my time and energy on someone who doesn't even actually like me when I could have spent that time on someone who does.

I'm secure enough that if I find my partner cheating I'll leave without feeling like it was my fault, or if he opened up about how he doesn't want to be together anymore I'll accept it. What I won't accept is if he's not attracted to me or doesn't like me but is still with me.

[caring__1]

Jealousy has nothing to do with the other person. It's all about our own feelings of inadequacy. People just find it easier to project these negative feelings on others rather than do anything about it. Yes, you can make the life of the other person miserable enough for them to leave, but someone will replace them, and you'll still feel the same feelings.

If you feel insecure and inadequate, identify what makes you so. Determine if your expectations are realistic or not (It's unlikely you'll be able to grow another foot taller.). If your expectations are unrealistic, get rid of them, and learn to make the most of what already exists. If they are realistic, set a plan to address your goal, follow through, measure your progress and enjoy your accomplishments.

For every type of person, there are people who appreciate that type of person. You know you won't compromise your values, just because someone wants you. Stop expecting others to appreciate and desire you, just because you want them. Seek out potential partners who appreciate you as you are rather than focus on your potential to change. Attempting to make someone love you who isn't drawn to your type will only end up lowering your self-esteem. Do you really want a partner who has to fantasize about other women in order to function intimately with you? To eliminate jealousy from your life and be happy, be true to your real self, and learn to appreciate yourself for the person you are.

[CubsterShura]

Did you read the description?

[Billlewis]

Because I'm a longtime cuckold and I'm never allowed to have any penetrative sex whatsoever, I'm perpetually jealous of the other men my mistress is dating, because most of them are allowed to have intercourse with her. But that, of course, is the whole point of being in this kind of relationship... lol.

[CubsterShura]

Completely fair. Just because you enjoy cuckoldry doesn't mean that you would never be jealous at all! Same with polyamory and stuff. It happens. I hope you and your mistress are able to communicate this properly.

[Billlewis]

Oh, I'm extremely jealous! But that's why I'm so sweet:)

[CubsterShura]

It can definitely add the thrill

[Billlewis]

Yes, ma'am.

[Lliam]

I never got jealous in a relationship because I knew my girlfriends were into me and wouldn't cheat. I had good taste in women when it came to their character and I trusted them.

[MementoMori777]

Let's just put it this way, if you don't care for the person, you wouldn't get jealous

[LemiaOfThunder]

Wealth

Looks

Popularity

Income

Friendship circle

[Kelly6]

I don’t get jealous

[BLP11520]

Jealous? Of what?

[CubsterShura]

Read the description

[Nahid1707]

i do agree it isn’t good