Jealousy in relationships stem from fear of losing your partner who is important to you, obviously. However, what I mean is that what exactly makes you fear losing them?
Is it your appearance? Personality? Attitude?
I am beginning to realize that my struggle with jealousy isn't necessarily about cheating or him finding other women physically attractive, instead my fear mainly lies in wondering if my partner actually likes me or is just pretending and secretly resents me or something. That's the original thought that spirals into wondering if there's someone else he would rather be with but I'm just more convenient, so I'm wasting my time and energy on someone who doesn't even actually like me when I could have spent that time on someone who does.
I'm secure enough that if I find my partner cheating I'll leave without feeling like it was my fault, or if he opened up about how he doesn't want to be together anymore I'll accept it. What I won't accept is if he's not attracted to me or doesn't like me but is still with me.
