What's your opinion on jealousy in a relationship?

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Some people think it's ok to have some jealousy as it reveals the other person and care, whilst some disagree saying it can become toxic etc. But what's your opinions? Should a person who loves someone be or show their jealousy? Or how can we balance it?
Is jealousy a sign of distrust? Doubt?
Would appreciate some good answers.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

It’s good to have a little bit of jealousy , it shows they really care about you , and are afraid to lose you vice versa You should be questionable about someone that doesn’t show jealousy or insecurities and questionable of someone showing to much jealousy and insecurities, usually they are the ones that are up to no good. Everyone has some type of insecurity in them that was caused by something that happened to them , people that say they aren’t jealous or insecure are talking out their asses , and in most cases in relationships it’s not jealousy and insecurities they are showing it actually comes down to respect for each other and most people don’t grasp that concept , especially girls’ Girls will tell their men that they don’t want them doing certain things because it hurts their feelings and they expect him to stop for her to show he values her , Most guys that value their girlfriend or wife will stop for her to let her know he values her and loves her but most girls won’t stop those things for him , and that’s where double standards come into play. A guy will confront her and tell her what she is doing is wrong but she will turn it around and say he is being insecure when really he isn’t being insecure he is letting her know he is being disrespected , You can’t set boundaries in a relationship if you can’t eliminate those boundaries for yourself and that’s where most relationships fail , Selfishness is the biggest relationship killer , basically you do this and that for me but I can’t do this and that for you. Girls definitely lead in the selfish category through my experiences, Most
Girls have the grass is greener syndrome in them because they know other guys are constantly hitting them up giving her plenty of options , Girls are also easily brainwashed by other girlfriends especially toxic girlfriends that hate all men because her relationship took a turn for the worst so she is going to bring other girls down to her level and ruin their relationships with their partners until she finally meets another man and then she stops hanging out with her brainwashed friends , I witnessed this shit to many times , so try to convince me I am wrong lol when a girl makes her girlfriends a priority over you , you are best to kick her out to the curb cuz more than likely she is up to no good , don’t fall for that shit if she is constantly making plans with her girlfriends without you , she should only be going out with her friends once in awhile if it’s consistent kick her to the curb and go find yourself a girl that makes you her priority

JustinTheGreat · Accepted Answer

Jealousy is a normal human emotion so I don’t think someone is toxic for being a little jealous

it’s how you act on that jealousy that determines if it’s toxic or not. Like if you don’t allow your partner to go out with their friends cause you can’t trust them, that’s when it gets to the point where you’re being emotionally abusive

MoniqueTLC · Accepted Answer

There's definitely a fine line between a healthy level of jealousy and it becoming toxic in a relationship.

On the healthy side, it depicts that your partner really cares, and obviously does not want to lose you as a companion. (we're jealous when we feel threatened by an exterior source that could interfere with our relationship/partner). For this to be 'okay' communication is vital and the person who's jealous behaviour should not become passive/aggressive etc. And it shouldn't if the jealousy is not fueled by insecurity or low self-esteem.

Of course, this can go toxic when the person who's jealous is so insecure that they become controlling and manipulative, and want to stop you from doing anything that might interfere with the relationship or their peace of mind. And if a couple can't communicate openly, or either or don't listen than this can be a massive problem and interfere the relationship.

Bexxiib · Accepted Answer

It’s ok to have a little bit of jealousy, especially of a guy is close to another woman (and vice versa), it shows that you are committed to that person I just wouldn’t show this jealousy side here. If he was successful I would feel a bit jealous, it would push me to tell him how I’m feeling and maybe seek advice. Otherwise if there’s no reason to be jealous then jealousy for no reason shouldn’t happen, is someone is jealous for no reason then they really need to think about talking.

Aerolyn · Answer

It's no good.

I never let myself feel jealousy when I'm with someone, but I've been i scenarios that the person I'm with would get upset with me because I wasn't jealous.

My lack of jealousy comes from a place of trust that my partner ain't gonna deliberately do shit to make me feel betrayed.

If I didn't have such a level of trust then I wouldn't be with them in the first place.

Amy10223 · Answer

I may be wrong, but it shows that the person with jealousy has some interest in you, and is experiencing doubts about you with another person. They may think you'd leave them for that other person, or see him/her as a threat to your relationship. Either way, as long as it doesn't get out of hand and become threatening to the relationship, it is ok. Some jealously is ok, too much is not good.

justmeme · Answer

Jealousy can't be helped but should be communicated about but also maybe worked on alone to find the root cause if not known.

Some relationships can flourish from it, some are doomed because of it but it is all down to how the individuals deal and cope with it.

Ezra_lila · Answer

It is needed but should be balance as well. Some jealousy end too much relationship also. So healthy one is much better than the toxic one. Also, be open with communication when you feel jealousy towards someone you should tell to your SO/partner that you feel it. Peaople find it hard doing it but if you do it will be fruitful.

taraburtch · Answer

I feel like jealousy means that he/she really cares. however there is a fine line between being toxic and just experiencing normal emotions. jealousy should be shut down by reassurance. then the both parties should move on.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I don't think it's needed. It can be cute, but only a little bit of it. If he gets into fights because I say hello to a friend who's a guy, or he gets in a fight with me, not trusting me, it's a problem. But some random stranger hitting on me, and he doesn't like that, I think that's cute. But I'm happy enough without it.

Guy13 · Answer

It’s is reality in relationships but we hope it can be transformed and funneled into helping the “successful one” become more successful…. to invest appropriately

HighValue · Answer

If your partner is making you jealous, especially after you point out what behavior you don't like, they are likely doing something wrong, being disloyal, and mistreating you, so instead of getting jealous, leave that bad partner instead.

MCheetah · Answer

Jealousy is a sign of insecurity. And I don't think it's needed. Keep in mind, there's a difference between being "smart" and safe, and being "jealous."

Blackcupcake · Answer

no, I want 10000% trust which means no jealousy. only time I get jealous is when I feel unsure of the depth of our commitment. but once everything is cleared up and we say agree to stay loyal, then there’s absolutely nothing for me to worry about

xJeremyx · Answer

Jealousy should not be ignored. It should be paid attention to, as an undesired emotion and both partners should work towards eliminating this feeling. Jealousy is an indicator of insecurity.

purpledrops · Answer

Personally, it is needed. Generally, it isn't just needed, it IS something that would come to be when you're in a relationship.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

I think if you don't get jealous over your SO then what's the difference between you and everyone else 🤷‍♂️... Healthy amount of being jealous is cool and a little sexy

DancingQueen16 · Answer

If you ask if a person's partner hasn't given them any reasons to be jealous than they shouldn't be jealous

JaxiCats · Answer

Honestly I’m not sure I’m jealous of my boyfriend and it’s not intentional I just wish I had the opportunities he did at times

AndrésC64 · Answer

If you don't trust your partner you shouldn't be in the relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Something I love because it shows that my man really loves me

legalboxers · Answer

toxic shit on the planet

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

A certain amount of jealousy is healthy.

dustybiker · Answer

It’s toxic.

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