The only time it's justified is if trust is gone.
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Jealousy is a feeling. Feelings are never rational. You can explain loving someone but you cannot justify it. You can explain why you are afraid of something but you can't justify fear because it does not help you to confront and conquer the demon. Jealousy is another emotion. It is simply something that we experience. Sometimes, we can point to reasons why we are jealous and sometimes we cannot, but being "entitled" to feel jealous is a subjective evaluation and. . . it really doesn't matter. If my partner is jealous, I can't ignore it simply because I feel the jealousy is unjustified.
As I've gotten older, I've realized jealousy is more about the person getting jealous and their insecurities than anything else. Women get jealous of the women their guy cheats with when it has everything to do with the character of the guy..
Jealousy is a negative emotion that has more negative effects in the long run for the person getting jealous...
People can jealous for all sorts of stupid petty reasons, but that's life.. There's always gotta be some haters 🤷🏼‍♀️Yes! Because though certain behaviors may not be favorable to some, there is a fundamental reason we all have them. Being skeptical of whether or not you should trust someone is a trait that can help us survive! So, all feelings are perfectly valid to have. But it becomes negative or irrational when we let certain values alter our behaviors to act in a way against our best interest pertaining to a specific situation.
It's justified for the by the owner tho
Yes of course. It is a fundamental part of human nature. Without envy, there would be no capitalism and corruption, but also no (or very little) self-improvement, and thus human progress and innovation. The human drive (however distasteful) to one-up each other is the reason we have reached the current level of development in society today.
Perhaps you mean in terms of relationships. I think jealousy is justified all the same. Insecurity can be tackled in two ways. The popular "healthy" way is to blindly trust, and the unpopular "toxic" alternative is to try to avoid the risk. Having an overly jealous partner does not (in my opinion) mean you aren't trusted. It means that they don't want the real risks (however small) of blind trust, especially after having observed how many people suffer for blindly trusting in the end. If blindly trusting makes you unhappy, then take the other path. The truly terrible thing to do in a relationship is to suffer in silence because others label your legitimate feelings as "toxic".
As I've said before, a healthy relationship is what makes both partners happy, not what society thinks is/should be healthy. In my opinion, being jealous is not wrong. One simply needs to find a partner that appreciates that trait in you (and whose jealousy you appreciate). What everyone else thinks about the match is irrelevant.Jealousy comes from feelings of inadequacy or insecurity. Sometimes we bring those feelings with us into relationships, while other times it comes from the relationship itself, especially when things are inconsistent (preventing us from being able to predict the results of any action), lack of mutual respect, or there is poor communication in the relationship. Understand there is a big difference between talking and communicating. People may talk a lot and share a lot of details, but communication is about seeking a deeper understanding. When we show our partner we care enough to want to understand the other's perspective, rather than insist on being heard, people are drawn together, feel safe, and jealousy melts away. One way to determine if you talk or communicate is to observe people's reactions to someone sharing a feeling. When we communicate, we address what the other is feeling, whereas most people minimize that person with comments like: You shouldn't feel that way; That's not what happened; This is the reason I did that; You think you have it bad, just listen to what happened to me; or just plain sweeping it under the carpet and changing the subject.
Absolutely not! Jealousy has no place in a relationship, it’s a red flag if they are possessive and controlling. If you’re in a relationship there’s need to be an equal balance of trust and respect. This means that if you love your boyfriend or your girlfriend and know they are committed to you, you can trust them to be reliable because you know them well. There’s a mutual understanding that both partners are loyal, therefore I don’t need to act overbearing and uncomfortable if the opposite sex talks to them or hangs out with them.
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I want to say no... I think it is a feeling that might even be rooted in selfishness.. Hold on just a sec
So I found some things to ground my pointI want to say with that. Jealousy should not be the aim. Jealousy is equal to... I guess selfishness like I said. It is not a preferred trait. It is a trait that is worth avoiding... I was trying to think of another term.. But selfishness is in line with it and nobody says that selfishness is a good trait either
I think one can usually justify anything. I can feel justified in feeling self-pity or resentment sometimes but I think the feelings corrode me far more than the person to whom those feelings are intended. Jealousy is one of those feelings that's hard to dress up at all since you're basically being pissed off at what you perceive to be someone else's happiness. I know I get that way as often as anybody but I try to catch myself and just drop the dialogue. Doesn't always work but at least I've recognized it and tried to put it in it's place. hat can be very hard sometimes. Sorry if its you feeling that way.
Hmmm. . . I think we all know you can't go on being jealous all your life. But we are all human. Is it okay to be jealous temporarily? Of course.
I was jealous of a few ex-girlfriends. I was jealous of my ex-wife. I was jealous of friend who realized more success in business. I was jealous of other companies that were able to pay ex-employees more.
But I got over all of these issues and moved on.Yes jealousy is sometimes justified. If your partner is showing signs of unfaithfulness then your fear is fully justified.
If jealousy ever pops up in a relationship the best thing to do is communicate the issue and try solve things (ideally through communication not changing behaviors if possible).Only if your right is being snatched. For instance, if your parents love your siblings more than you and even worse have a favourite child, which is very common in South Asian culture. Then, you have the right to be jealous because your right to their love and attention is being snatched. All children deserve equal love.
It’s understandable in done cases, but ultimately do harmful that it should be avoided.
Nope. It’s childish and shows you don’t trust your partner.
Jealousy contain a form of exclusivity, vulnerability, and the possibility of deep pain and betrayal. And yet, jealousy is unique in that it contains insecurity, because humans are not secure intimate relationships. Humans learn to experience the love of vulnerability, and to wager the self for the sake of intimacy. It's perfectly natural.
I don't like jealously and I think it's an ugly trait and I'd struggle to be in a relationship with anyone who was over jealous. I've always had a lot of female friends and wouldn't be comfortable dating someone who was paranoid about that, but I also understand a little jealousy is a natural reaction, so as long as it wasn't out of hand I can understand why people may feel jealous even when it is not justified.
If the question is "EVER justified" then yes. If I see my girlfriend holding hands with some dude I would be quite pissed, and if course get pretty jealous. On the other hand if the question was something along the lines of "generally justified", then I would say no. Everyone has a life, and trust is a huge part of a relationship. So I say it depends.
No, I don't. Righteous indignation or anger are. But jealousy is a cancer that eats up the person from the inside
Yes, but it harms the "jealouser". If a partner is causing you to be jealous, maybe its time for him to go. If it is compulsive, you might get counseling.
Jealousy is part of human nature, we just can't turn it off even if my brains tells me it's not rational or my feelings make no sense. The best we can do is not act on those feelings unless there is clear evidence
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