Do you think jealousy is ever justified?

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worldscolide · Accepted Answer

The only time it's justified is if trust is gone.

bklynbadboy1 · Accepted Answer

Not to me its not

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Jealousy is a feeling. Feelings are never rational. You can explain loving someone but you cannot justify it. You can explain why you are afraid of something but you can't justify fear because it does not help you to confront and conquer the demon. Jealousy is another emotion. It is simply something that we experience. Sometimes, we can point to reasons why we are jealous and sometimes we cannot, but being "entitled" to feel jealous is a subjective evaluation and. . . it really doesn't matter. If my partner is jealous, I can't ignore it simply because I feel the jealousy is unjustified.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

As I've gotten older, I've realized jealousy is more about the person getting jealous and their insecurities than anything else. Women get jealous of the women their guy cheats with when it has everything to do with the character of the guy..
Jealousy is a negative emotion that has more negative effects in the long run for the person getting jealous...
People can jealous for all sorts of stupid petty reasons, but that's life.. There's always gotta be some haters 🤷🏼‍♀️

Sonorous · Answer

Yes! Because though certain behaviors may not be favorable to some, there is a fundamental reason we all have them. Being skeptical of whether or not you should trust someone is a trait that can help us survive! So, all feelings are perfectly valid to have. But it becomes negative or irrational when we let certain values alter our behaviors to act in a way against our best interest pertaining to a specific situation.

Chikky · Answer

It's justified for the by the owner tho

Aethereal · Answer

Yes of course. It is a fundamental part of human nature. Without envy, there would be no capitalism and corruption, but also no (or very little) self-improvement, and thus human progress and innovation. The human drive (however distasteful) to one-up each other is the reason we have reached the current level of development in society today.

Perhaps you mean in terms of relationships. I think jealousy is justified all the same. Insecurity can be tackled in two ways. The popular "healthy" way is to blindly trust, and the unpopular "toxic" alternative is to try to avoid the risk. Having an overly jealous partner does not (in my opinion) mean you aren't trusted. It means that they don't want the real risks (however small) of blind trust, especially after having observed how many people suffer for blindly trusting in the end. If blindly trusting makes you unhappy, then take the other path. The truly terrible thing to do in a relationship is to suffer in silence because others label your legitimate feelings as "toxic".

As I've said before, a healthy relationship is what makes both partners happy, not what society thinks is/should be healthy. In my opinion, being jealous is not wrong. One simply needs to find a partner that appreciates that trait in you (and whose jealousy you appreciate). What everyone else thinks about the match is irrelevant.

caring__1 · Answer

Jealousy comes from feelings of inadequacy or insecurity. Sometimes we bring those feelings with us into relationships, while other times it comes from the relationship itself, especially when things are inconsistent (preventing us from being able to predict the results of any action), lack of mutual respect, or there is poor communication in the relationship. Understand there is a big difference between talking and communicating. People may talk a lot and share a lot of details, but communication is about seeking a deeper understanding. When we show our partner we care enough to want to understand the other's perspective, rather than insist on being heard, people are drawn together, feel safe, and jealousy melts away. One way to determine if you talk or communicate is to observe people's reactions to someone sharing a feeling. When we communicate, we address what the other is feeling, whereas most people minimize that person with comments like: You shouldn't feel that way; That's not what happened; This is the reason I did that; You think you have it bad, just listen to what happened to me; or just plain sweeping it under the carpet and changing the subject.

vintagegirl90 · Answer

Absolutely not! Jealousy has no place in a relationship, it’s a red flag if they are possessive and controlling. If you’re in a relationship there’s need to be an equal balance of trust and respect. This means that if you love your boyfriend or your girlfriend and know they are committed to you, you can trust them to be reliable because you know them well. There’s a mutual understanding that both partners are loyal, therefore I don’t need to act overbearing and uncomfortable if the opposite sex talks to them or hangs out with them.

Jjpayne · Answer

I love the GIF! It's pretty cool :)

I want to say no... I think it is a feeling that might even be rooted in selfishness.. Hold on just a sec

So I found some things to ground my point

Do you think jealousy is ever justified?

I want to say with that. Jealousy should not be the aim. Jealousy is equal to... I guess selfishness like I said. It is not a preferred trait. It is a trait that is worth avoiding... I was trying to think of another term.. But selfishness is in line with it and nobody says that selfishness is a good trait either

Makeushiver · Answer

I think one can usually justify anything. I can feel justified in feeling self-pity or resentment sometimes but I think the feelings corrode me far more than the person to whom those feelings are intended. Jealousy is one of those feelings that's hard to dress up at all since you're basically being pissed off at what you perceive to be someone else's happiness. I know I get that way as often as anybody but I try to catch myself and just drop the dialogue. Doesn't always work but at least I've recognized it and tried to put it in it's place. hat can be very hard sometimes. Sorry if its you feeling that way.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

Hmmm. . . I think we all know you can't go on being jealous all your life. But we are all human. Is it okay to be jealous temporarily? Of course.

I was jealous of a few ex-girlfriends. I was jealous of my ex-wife. I was jealous of friend who realized more success in business. I was jealous of other companies that were able to pay ex-employees more.

But I got over all of these issues and moved on.

SoapySandwich · Answer

Yes jealousy is sometimes justified. If your partner is showing signs of unfaithfulness then your fear is fully justified.

If jealousy ever pops up in a relationship the best thing to do is communicate the issue and try solve things (ideally through communication not changing behaviors if possible).

Shezadi · Answer

Only if your right is being snatched. For instance, if your parents love your siblings more than you and even worse have a favourite child, which is very common in South Asian culture. Then, you have the right to be jealous because your right to their love and attention is being snatched. All children deserve equal love.

Avicenna · Answer

It’s understandable in done cases, but ultimately do harmful that it should be avoided.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope. It’s childish and shows you don’t trust your partner.

AndrewMG · Answer

I don't like jealously and I think it's an ugly trait and I'd struggle to be in a relationship with anyone who was over jealous. I've always had a lot of female friends and wouldn't be comfortable dating someone who was paranoid about that, but I also understand a little jealousy is a natural reaction, so as long as it wasn't out of hand I can understand why people may feel jealous even when it is not justified.

JimboGB · Answer

Jealousy contain a form of exclusivity, vulnerability, and the possibility of deep pain and betrayal. And yet, jealousy is unique in that it contains insecurity, because humans are not secure intimate relationships. Humans learn to experience the love of vulnerability, and to wager the self for the sake of intimacy. It's perfectly natural.

G_latt · Answer

If the question is "EVER justified" then yes. If I see my girlfriend holding hands with some dude I would be quite pissed, and if course get pretty jealous. On the other hand if the question was something along the lines of "generally justified", then I would say no. Everyone has a life, and trust is a huge part of a relationship. So I say it depends.

Grond21 · Answer

No, I don't. Righteous indignation or anger are. But jealousy is a cancer that eats up the person from the inside

pleasestopthis · Answer

Jealousy is part of human nature, we just can't turn it off even if my brains tells me it's not rational or my feelings make no sense. The best we can do is not act on those feelings unless there is clear evidence

Dargil · Answer

Yes, but it harms the "jealouser". If a partner is causing you to be jealous, maybe its time for him to go. If it is compulsive, you might get counseling.

Massageman · Answer

Concern? And the actions to mitigate that concern? Yes- this is rational action.  Jealousy? Not really- this is in the irrational emotion category.

spartan55 · Answer

Being "justified" for being jealous is subjectve. Jealousy is an emotion that ruins relationships.

blondfrog · Answer

It is in our heads but in reality it is not. If you look at the grand scheme of things and the bigger picture in life you realize how pointless it all is. However its a natural behavior that all of us are guilty of.

Snowman666 · Answer

Yes, if it is direspectful then it is justified. If my wife let a ex grab her ass right in front of me. I would consider thowing her away. Because that is disrespectful to me. Same if i kissed another girl in front of her.

TheLawAroundHere · Answer

I believe that jealousy is a very human emotion. Unfortunately, once that it is justified, its too late.

LemiaOfTheCodes · Answer

Jeliousy is an odd emotion it can come from the sinerest place but can also come from the worst place.

CasaNorba · Answer

yea, you have all your rights to feel jealous if you feel your partner is doing weird thing when you're not fully noticing. unless you act on it without a valid cause

joeldalton · Answer

A tiny bit is ok, like TINY. But after that it's destructive to the relationship

Oboemaster27 · Answer

It isn't justified. But sometimes you can't help it. You get over it eventually tho.

Flower7 · Answer

Yes, it's very justified when someone's partner is cheating.

cth96190 · Answer

Jealousy is another name for the mate guarding instinct. Once I understood what mate guarding was, it ceased to have any power over me.

legalboxers · Answer

as justified as throwing a rock at someones window out of spite

skeetskeetskeet · Answer

Yeah it can be i guess... its kinda cute in small doses but gets old real fucking quick when its constant... this one crazy girl years ago would get jealous of the tv... fucking annoying

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Sometimes like if there hanging out at an opposite sexs house an your seeing thatnperson your going to think there cheating

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

the way i see it... jealousy is RIGHTOUS... as long as the one someone is jealous for isn't already in some other relation...

loveslongnails · Answer

Never. EVER... there's no circumstance or situation where jealousy is a justifiable reaction.

alance99 · Answer

Jealousy is never justified infact i prefer working hard to get that thing rather than being jealous about it. 🙂😊

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I think so. I guess it depends on how you define it.

COMMODOREII · Answer

It usually never is justified. It holds back yourself and the other person.

Ericalovescats · Answer

Yes if people are flirting

likelyOK · Answer

Well yes I do but it’s hard to defend

modelUN242 · Answer

It's a natural feeling, nothing wrong with it.

Gustav1 · Answer

Always justified. But envy? Never.

In_Trance · Answer

I think justification is a social construct

Mehzmeh · Answer

Nope. It hurts everyone involved.

knight2468 · Answer

No jealousy is a good thing

CubaPirate · Answer

Only if you're a green eyed monster lol

Gedaria · Answer

In love , no...

whatdoyouwantt · Answer

Jealousy is good

msc545 · Answer

Sometimes, yes.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

Sometimes it can be.

JosyJosy · Answer

Yes.

nawtee_me · Answer

Nope, not at all...

eagle1951 · Answer

not really

aieeazumui · Answer

Yes sometimes it is.

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