What would you do if your wife wanted threesome?

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I came across a profile on instagram, there is a couple and there is the third party involved later because the wife wanted. Because she was "bi-curious" I don't know what that means. I know it is not the same thing as my question asks but after that I wondered what would I do if my wife wanted something like that- like a threesome or something.

sophia · Accepted Answer

If my partner brought up the idea of a threesome because they were bi-curious (which means they're curious about being attracted to both their own gender and other genders), I’d take time to really understand their feelings and desires. Not everyone is comfortable with bringing a third party into their relationship, and that's perfectly okay.

Deciding whether or not to fulfill this kind of request would depend a lot on the dynamics of our relationship, our communication about the topic, and ensuring that both partners feel secure and respected throughout the discussion. If I wasn’t comfortable with it, I'd express my feelings clearly and calmly, discussing potential alternatives that might satisfy their curiosity without making me uncomfortable.

Navigating this type of conversation can be tricky but can also bring a lot of clarity and depth to a relationship if handled thoughtfully. Do you think you'd want to explore this if your partner asked, or does it feel like a boundary you wouldn’t want to cross?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't want to be in a threesome with a partner.

I've basically tried being in relationship with someone who was poly, he had another girlfriend as well, and all three of us kind of ended up doing stuff together as well.
Everything, the whole relationship and the situation and seeing my partner do those stuff with someone else, it cuts deep.
And yeah, it ruined me on so many levels - also for several other reasons.

I would and could never have a threesome with a partner ever again.
If my partner wanted one for real, then I would suggest he think about what was the most important, that experience or me. Because I cannot go through something like that again.

ApplePie409 · Accepted Answer

How is it even possible you don't know what "bi-curious" means? Only a moronic man would criticize his wife for trusting you enough to reveal her fantasies. That takes a lot of courage on her part. If you don't want that, just talk to her and explain your view. But if you allow that door to be shut, it's shut forever.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Motivation is what I would focus on. If she just wants more pussy, I can relate. But lets be real... it's not probable that a couple girls just want some fun with each other and I just get to be a lucky man. It could be anything from the new girls trying to steal me for herself or that the new girl has a man attached to her somehow that my girl wants to slip into the mix.

I wouldn't trust the situation and would want to know what the real motivations are. It's used against us guys as a shit test... I mean it could be your own girl just looking for a reason to break up with you.

As the man... always remember you're not special. I wouldn't fall for the trap of thinking I'm just really lucky... it's women... and there is always some motivation hidden under the vale of making you think you're special.

handsomelad70 · Accepted Answer

Try like h**l to talk her out of it.(I was on a wrestling thread and mentioned Bonnie Steamboat, ex-wite of former WWE/WWF star Ricky "the Dragon" Steamboat, as having been hot when she was young and was accused of wanting a threesome with Ricky and Bonnie.)

AviatorTom · Answer

I would support her, and be a willing participant. It would be hot to see her being pleasured and really enjoying it.

Confucious900 · Answer

So it can go few ways, if she mentions it, you either are going to have to share your wife with another woman or man. Chances are bigger its going to probably be with another man, unless she digs the girl on girl action then you are lucky. But if you were to bring it up you wouldn't sleep in the bed for a very long time. Unless she surprises you and agrees and then the same scenario is possible like the first, either man or woman. But if she brought it up and say it would be fun with another girl you would obviously say yes. If she says okay but with a man, odds are you wouldn't unless you are curious.

But my advice would be this, unless you have a very very very strong relationship with her, and you guys could be open to that without any problems, sure go ahead.

But i've seen this twice in a friend of mines relationship, first just a girl he was dating, and then later his own wife, and even years later it gets brought up, and this is 10 plus years ago and 4 years ago and still fight over it, and that messes them both up. Well all three because the threesome with the girlfriend was with one of his other buddies.

I wouldn't pull on that thread because you will loose friendships, and you will loose your wife. And you will create a miserable future entertaining all those thoughts constantly on a daily basis.

Berethor · Answer

Bicurious is bisexial, if she offer a FFM I might agree, if she was offering a MFM, no way.

sawno · Answer

If its with a girl i'd be open to it, I want her to be able to explore that side of herself and I'd want everyone to enjoy everyone. Another guy I can't enjoy.

MaybeTony · Answer

Decline and take her to church immediately lol. I think I read that over 95% of marriage that engage in that sort of conduct end in divorce. Experienced this in college and it did not work out.

sheikalana · Answer

You should never agree to do a 3some if is not something you want to do. I've seen more relationships failing after a 3some than improving the relationship.

NathanDavis · Answer

we would talk about it, with... @mandyfire98 & @7phoenix7

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have NEVER had a guy say no to a threesome with a second woman.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not a man. I am a straight woman so no wife. However my husband wanted a threesome with another man because of him being bi-curious. We did it and now he's obsessed with them and I feel like I'm not good enough.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

MMF - hard no. MFF - maybe, but with some very strict ground rules which include me not doing a boatload of things with/to another woman.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Get a divorce. Clearly doesn’t care about me enough. Thankfully I don’t have to worry about this scenario I’m asexual aromantic and don’t plan on ever having a relationship or get married. 🙂

Anpu23 · Answer

I have had a lot of threesomes. They're sexy, fun and destroy relationships. I think we'd discuss if we'd rather stay together or have fun.

DextroShade · Answer

If she wanted another girl there that's fine with me, but if she wanted another dude there she's out!

exitseven · Answer

I would want to pick out the third party but I would be all in.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Mfm or mmf? Idc either way but if she's asking, sure, why not? Life is a buffet, sample everything.

Iron_Man · Answer

That’s a problem why wouldn’t she tell me this when she was single not happening

Harshbro · Answer

That means she’s not attracted to you or you can’t satisfy her. I’d maybe be down if it was MFF, otherwise that relationship is finished

Anonymous · Answer

Divorce. Plain and simple. I am a one woman man, I expect her to be a one partner person.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

I don't see my OH ever offering that

loveslongnails · Answer

Same thing we do now; we have it.

goebenbreslau · Answer

i'd go for it if a second woman joined

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

Divorce her

Miristheiss · Answer

Divorce her.

laly520 · Answer

divorce

jahaims · Answer

Divorce

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