Girls, Would you break up with your partner instead of trying to understand them?

[Anonymous]

In the beginning I disclosed I was on the spectrum so I knew there would be challenges in the relationship I didn’t know what all they would be but to potentially avoid them I would buy books and also show her videos because many people on the spectrum can run into communication issues or do something that seems off to someone who is neurotypical. She would always say she didn’t have time to read the books because she was always busy. Well at the end of the relationship she dropped on me I can find someone who doesn’t have this. I was crushed I went 2 years thinking I found someone who accepted me for who I was

[petitedollbabee]

That’s really sad, that she wouldn’t even look at the materials that you’re trying to show her, to help her to understand and support you better. I wouldn’t break up with someone if they tried to do that. But then again, I’m neurodivergent too (but not on the spectrum), and I’ve tried giving partners videos or books or whatever else to better understand me. At the end of the day, if they’re not trying to understand you, then you’re wasting your time. I’m sorry that it took 2 years for things to end with your girlfriend, but at least it was a lesson learnt.

[Asker]

Yeah it has had a lasting devastating impact because she would often gossip about me to her friends. I bought her things to enjoy with her friends and they spent the time over these things gossiping about me. Overall I had issues trusting before this relationship but now it’s really bad