Would you break up with a girl for being unintelligent?

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Logan-5 · Accepted Answer

Lack of intelligence without some wisdom/self-awareness about that gap, and a stubborn unwillingness to learn and imagine beyond one's current understanding gets old after several months. You slowly realize that your own intelligence isn't being appreciated since she doesn't perceive it, so it doesn't serve as a vehicle for connecting. You get misconstrued regularly. You'll unlikely be able to honestly tell her she's funny. You start thinking you should start lying to avoid conversations devolving into explaining the obvious. You have to figure out what misconception that you would never have entertained is keeping her from understanding something. After a while, it can be a real mood killer.

However, I have seen one extremely smart guy have the perfect relationship with someone that a smart (but not off-the-charts smart) classmate couldn't find anything to talk about with. Sadly, she died at a young age, and he remarried to a woman with more academic credentials, but they fought all the time. That ended in divorce. His third marriage was a return to heaven, with someone of ordinary academic interests, but once again, he'd found someone he aligned with on domestic matters and his insane work ethic. I have a hunch that if the guy is super smart, he can make it work. If he's really smart but at a more common level, he might not be able to make it work.

One problem is that if a person's smart enough, they're not too excited about the things that a household income buys, past a practical point. Their excitement is over more abstract matters. Travel isn't as interesting as reading an insightful book about the location. Risking money in Vegas makes no sense statistically unless different methods of the casinos are worked around. Exposing yourself to avoidable danger isn't satisfying because your farsightedness reminds you how much of a future you could be throwing away. You don't want to talk to the type of person who would be impressed by your travels. At the theatre, you laugh at jokes before others because you anticipate the punchline, or have thought the joke up yourself or heard it before. Your interest in the outcome of a game this weekend is the same as in a game that happened 10 years ago.

I knew of a guy who divorced his wife because, rumor has it, he couldn't stand how dumb she was. She's very beautiful, so the reason for marrying her is clear. From things she's said around me, I think she leads an unhappy love life. Men don't see much of anything about her except her looks, so sex comes early, and there's not much else in the relationship, leaving her pretty unfulfilled.

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

Well, it just depends. "Unintelligent" is kind of vague. I'd have dumped a woman for being a fool and saying doing foolish, irresponsible, harmful, idiotic things.

I wouldn't have dumped a girl for not being book smart when she still was sweet, loyal, feminine, had a good heart, value, morals.

My wife has a college degree but still at times can seem like she doesn't know basic things. She once asked me why we had time zones and I thought she was joking so I explained how the sun will be shining at different parts of the earth and the sun will be at its solar noon or any other position based on where the person is on the globe.

CrabCakes11 · Accepted Answer

If she was below average intelligence, yes. I doubt I’d date a woman of below average intelligence anyways. I would no break up with someone for being less intelligent than me as long as they were of at least average intelligence

coachTanthony · Answer

I would of never got into a relationship that needed to be broken up in the first place if that was a legitimate issue.

RavVid · Answer

No. Intelligence is over-rated in girls :)

I wouldn't be keen on a girl who wasn't curious about the world around her. Nor with one that was arrogant enough to think she was right because she was right.

The qualities of curiosity and humility in what you know, are different to intelligence.

We tend to correlate intelligence with learning but that just isn't true. A poorly educated person can be highly intelligent.

I wouldn't insist on a girl who had gone to college but I'd want her to have curiosity and humility enough to concede her understanding on anything could be wrong.

Jersey2 · Answer

No. My wife didn’t have a good education but she is sweet and caring. Eventually her true intelligence shown through and I believe she's very intelligent its just that she had a bad start in life with her family and schooling. When I met her she could barely read and was graduating High School even so. Ten years later I truly trusted her decisions on real estate matters and more. We are a potent team, some have even called us the Dynamic Duo when we worked together in a large corporation.

Focus on her character, not other things. She may surprise you as she matures and frankly you might rub off on her intelligence wise.

MisterWack · Answer

In summary yes I would break it off IF,

1) Needs to be constantly bailed out of situations caused by her ignorance even when guided in the right direction

2) Lacking of common sense

3) Doesn’t have a head on her shoulders

4) Is a bigot

JayBones2469 · Answer

I wish I said yes and I wanna say yes but I married a woman 29 years ago that gave me 3 beautiful intelligent daughters. And she is the dumbest fucking bitch I ever met in my life and inloved half my life in Philadelphia and the other half in Houston. The largest groups of fucktards this nation ever knew

The_Sexpert · Answer

Never  I could care less about her intelligence above a basic level  She's not my colleague for a space program

Drago125877 · Answer

Dumb girls making dumb decisions.. you will never make a progress in life with her. I had one, i had to explain to her that paying bills is more important that her new bag.. she was crying :D.. ( she was so poor that she cannot afford bread) ..

patois · Answer

Yeah, if they are too stupid I will not even date them to begin with. If they prove to be really stupid later into a relationship, I will definitely cut them lose.

NathanDavis · Answer

if that were a problem with me... I wouldn't get into a relationship with them in the first place, lol

DryGermanGuy · Answer

I could never get together with an unintelligent person in the first place, that's for sure!

Confucious900 · Answer

I think every person has their own definition of being intelligent but no I wouldn't.

Pohjolan · Answer

If she was  that  stupid then I wouldn't get into a relationship in the first place. Also low intelligence doesn't equal low moral.

OtterMan68 · Answer

I wouldn't date a girl who was unintelligent in the first place

Dongie · Answer

No. But how dumb you know. 2+2=5. That's to much.

handsomelad70 · Answer

If she was a 40-40 clubber (40-inch breasts,40 IQ), yes, because she'd be dreadfully DULL !!!

Anonymous · Answer

Dumb women are good for recreation but are exhausting to be around for any amount of time.

loladevine · Answer

No she’s just like me

DrPepper12 · Answer

Mind first always.

Jennz6 · Answer

You better not

Pennywise_6 · Answer

Only if it bothers you

jahaims · Answer

We wouldn't have been dating to begin with

msc545 · Answer

More for being boring which follows

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

Potentially

Starrrboy · Answer

Yes lol..

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