How to make my boyfriend feel loved?

[leiley]

He says that he doesn't feel special. I think I do everything to make him feel loved. I spend time with him, listen to him, cook for him. What else should I do?

[SomothErgai]

I noticed a distinct lack of sexual contact in your list. Let's be honest here. humans, and men especially, are very physical creatures. men, whether you like it or not, tend to associate your level of enthusiasm for sex with how much much you actually care for them.

If he doesn't feel like you a positively desperate for his cock he's more than likely going to take that as you not caring for him very much. Make him feel like his cock is the cure to all your problems and tell me if his attitude changes.

And don't tell him that. don't tell him you're going to do this or that with him more or that you're doing it to make him feel special. that sends the signal that you're not really into it you're just trying to make him feel better.

That is the most emasculating shit you could possibly do to him. He needs to feel like this is coming from your own pure desire for sex with him. like you just woke up one day and had a deep seated need to get railed. So much so that you don't even care if HE'S in the mood. your getting that dick whether he likes it or not.

If he doesn't feel like you think he's a god at that point there is something wrong with him.

[Chazmatazz269]

For most men, feeling loved is about respect and loyalty. Tell him something about him that you respect. Don’t do it all at once though. Unless he has emotional issues, he’ll ride the high for weeks. When he starts losing that loving feeling again, tell him another thing that you respect about him.
Loyalty can be tough. He should believe you’re never even remotely interested in other people. But you can’t say those words without inspiring questions about your motivation, right? It IS important that he feels like the only man on the planet when you’re together though.
Keep in mind, these are general rules. Your fella may be the exception. You should really ask HIM what you can do to make sure he knows you love and respect him. Give him a safe space to be honest with you and plenty of time to figure out how to express himself. Chances are you’ll be the first woman to ask, and that means he probably hasn’t put the words together before.

[sage2021]

Ask him what other women did that made him feel loved. He'll tell you.

My own experience was when he said he and his then wife never argued ot had fights in 24 years of marriage. And that every night before they'd go off to sleep they would say I love you to each other. By the way, their marriage ended because she died.

So, when he was with me, he wasn't used to "My type" and compared his wife and me all the time. How they never argued, because to him if you keep fighting/arguing then that is not love. So, he wouldn't feel loved because of that.

[laly520]

sometimes its not about u but about him being unable to feel loved or special cuz of personal reasons he has n no matter how much of love u gonna give him it would still be insufficient

[Artificial Intelligence]

Oh, the language of love, always speaking in riddles! It sounds to me like you're really putting in the effort, but sometimes it's all about hitting the right note. Everyone has their unique love language. It might be worth exploring whether he values quality time, acts of service (which you're already acing by the sound of it!), receiving gifts, words of affirmation, or physical touch the most. Mixing it up could be the key! Try leaving little love notes around or planning a surprise date. Remember, it's not always about grand gestures; sometimes, the smallest actions speak volumes. Keep the communication open and ask him directly what makes him feel most loved. It's like having a map to his heart. Good luck, love warrior! 💘

[AviatorTom]

You do what you like to be loved. You need to think what he wants to be loved.

Take him to his favorite restaurant. Give him a sensual massage. Throw a surprise party for him, for no special reason.

[Anonymous]

We don't know him or you so it's kind of hard to answer this question. Because you could be doing 1 thing to demonstrate your love for him. And then doing 10 things to undermine all of what you just did. Guys in general don't require a whole lot of maintenance in the love dept. If you demonstrate loyalty and respect for us we're generally pretty happy. But if you don't demonstrate those two things it doesn't matter how many times you tell us you love us. You're demonstrating that you don't.

This leads me to my next point. Is there a lot of bad blood between you? How bout his past relationships. Sometimes people bring resentment from past relationships into a new one. It sucks, but it happens. Men are typically about the status quo. We don't need big demonstrations of your love, gifts etc. If there is no strife we're happy.

[hahahmm]

Unless he thinks you're cheating, I don't get his point. It's not very masculine for a dude to need a woman to make him "feel loved". He might as well put on some lipstick & a bra. Or he can grow a pair and be more like an old school masculine dude.

[whiskeyontherocks]

I second finding his love language and exploring what that means or what each one looks like
It was great for me just exploring the idea of what my wants and needs are that’s something I had never even thought about till my late 30’s

[AmyHew1tt]

It sounds like a him problem. If people really don't love themselves at all, there's nothing you can do to fill that void.

[CriticalCatDad123]

The only one who can make him feel loved is himself. He has to be the one to actually feel that emotion. Others can try to bring about that feeling in others but it doesn't mean they always will.

[rosemilk]

ask what his love language is. then, cater to that.

[MsProsperity]

Buy him gifts unexpectedly, you know him he’s your man.

[SotiCoto]

You can't make him feel loved. You can only do your best and hope it pays off.

[Nifrayu]

You could try telling him what you love about him.

[wierdfetishguy]

Find out his kink and fullfill his desires

[lorenzomichael]

Wash his car.

[JayBones2469]

Suck his dick