How to make my boyfriend feel loved?

[leiley]

He says that he doesn't feel special. I think I do everything to make him feel loved. I spend time with him, listen to him, cook for him. What else should I do?

[SomothErgai]

I noticed a distinct lack of sexual contact in your list. Let's be honest here. humans, and men especially, are very physical creatures. men, whether you like it or not, tend to associate your level of enthusiasm for sex with how much much you actually care for them.

If he doesn't feel like you a positively desperate for his cock he's more than likely going to take that as you not caring for him very much. Make him feel like his cock is the cure to all your problems and tell me if his attitude changes.

And don't tell him that. don't tell him you're going to do this or that with him more or that you're doing it to make him feel special. that sends the signal that you're not really into it you're just trying to make him feel better.

That is the most emasculating shit you could possibly do to him. He needs to feel like this is coming from your own pure desire for sex with him. like you just woke up one day and had a deep seated need to get railed. So much so that you don't even care if HE'S in the mood. your getting that dick whether he likes it or not.

If he doesn't feel like you think he's a god at that point there is something wrong with him.

[Chazmatazz269]

For most men, feeling loved is about respect and loyalty. Tell him something about him that you respect. Don’t do it all at once though. Unless he has emotional issues, he’ll ride the high for weeks. When he starts losing that loving feeling again, tell him another thing that you respect about him.
Loyalty can be tough. He should believe you’re never even remotely interested in other people. But you can’t say those words without inspiring questions about your motivation, right? It IS important that he feels like the only man on the planet when you’re together though.
Keep in mind, these are general rules. Your fella may be the exception. You should really ask HIM what you can do to make sure he knows you love and respect him. Give him a safe space to be honest with you and plenty of time to figure out how to express himself. Chances are you’ll be the first woman to ask, and that means he probably hasn’t put the words together before.

[sage2021]

Ask him what other women did that made him feel loved. He'll tell you.

My own experience was when he said he and his then wife never argued ot had fights in 24 years of marriage. And that every night before they'd go off to sleep they would say I love you to each other. By the way, their marriage ended because she died.

So, when he was with me, he wasn't used to "My type" and compared his wife and me all the time. How they never argued, because to him if you keep fighting/arguing then that is not love. So, he wouldn't feel loved because of that.

[laly520]

sometimes its not about u but about him being unable to feel loved or special cuz of personal reasons he has n no matter how much of love u gonna give him it would still be insufficient

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the language of love, always speaking in riddles! It sounds to me like you're really putting in the effort, but sometimes it's all about hitting the right note. Everyone has their unique love language. It might be worth exploring whether he values quality time, acts of service (which you're already acing by the sound of it!), receiving gifts, words of affirmation, or physical touch the most. Mixing it up could be the key! Try leaving little love notes around or planning a surprise date. Remember, it's not always about grand gestures; sometimes, the smallest actions speak volumes. Keep the communication open and ask him directly what makes him feel most loved. It's like having a map to his heart. Good luck, love warrior! 💘

[AviatorTom]

You do what you like to be loved. You need to think what he wants to be loved.

Take him to his favorite restaurant. Give him a sensual massage. Throw a surprise party for him, for no special reason.

[blunty]

Express Your Feelings Verbally: Regularly tell him how much you love and appreciate him. Don’t hesitate to say “I love you,” and be specific about what you adore about him.

Spend Quality Time Together: Dedicate time to be with him without distractions. Whether it’s a date night, a quiet evening at home, or doing something you both enjoy, make sure he knows he’s your priority.

Listen Actively: Pay close attention when he talks. Listening is a powerful way to show you care about his feelings and experiences.

Support His Goals: Be his biggest cheerleader. Encourage him in his ambitions and dreams, and offer practical support where possible.

Surprise Him: Occasional surprises can add excitement to your relationship. This could be anything from planning a special date to giving him a thoughtful gift.

Physical Affection: Regular physical contact like hugging, kissing, and holding hands can make him feel cherished and connected to you.

Write Him Notes or Letters: Sometimes written words can express love in ways spoken words cannot. Leave him little notes where he can find them, or write a heartfelt letter.

Perform Acts of Kindness: Doing something nice for him, even as simple as making his favorite meal or taking care of a chore he dislikes, can show your love in a practical way.

Create Shared Memories: Make efforts to create new, happy memories together by trying new activities, visiting new places, or simply documenting your everyday life together.

Show Respect and Appreciation: Make sure to respect his opinions, choices, and boundaries. Showing gratitude for the things he does will also make him feel valued.

Each relationship is unique, so tailor these suggestions to suit you and your boyfriend’s specific preferences and personality. The most important part is to be sincere in your actions and communications.

[Anonymous]

We don't know him or you so it's kind of hard to answer this question. Because you could be doing 1 thing to demonstrate your love for him. And then doing 10 things to undermine all of what you just did. Guys in general don't require a whole lot of maintenance in the love dept. If you demonstrate loyalty and respect for us we're generally pretty happy. But if you don't demonstrate those two things it doesn't matter how many times you tell us you love us. You're demonstrating that you don't.

This leads me to my next point. Is there a lot of bad blood between you? How bout his past relationships. Sometimes people bring resentment from past relationships into a new one. It sucks, but it happens. Men are typically about the status quo. We don't need big demonstrations of your love, gifts etc. If there is no strife we're happy.

[hahahmm]

Unless he thinks you're cheating, I don't get his point. It's not very masculine for a dude to need a woman to make him "feel loved". He might as well put on some lipstick & a bra. Or he can grow a pair and be more like an old school masculine dude.

[AmyHew1tt]

It sounds like a him problem. If people really don't love themselves at all, there's nothing you can do to fill that void.

[CriticalCatDad123]

The only one who can make him feel loved is himself. He has to be the one to actually feel that emotion. Others can try to bring about that feeling in others but it doesn't mean they always will.

[whiskeyontherocks]

I second finding his love language and exploring what that means or what each one looks like
It was great for me just exploring the idea of what my wants and needs are that’s something I had never even thought about till my late 30’s

[Sevenpointfive]

it doesn't sound like a you problem. it sounds like he doesn't feel like his family loves him. talk to him about that

[rosemilk]

ask what his love language is. then, cater to that.

[EddieWinehouse]

1 give him space when needed
2 we boys are stupid, we like to keep our heads to useless stuff, only to stop thinking. i mean who builds a car in his garage? knowing few of these and showing minimum interest to the matters will do a lot.

[strateguy632]

whenever you are in the mood for intimacy make plans "lets go to bed early".

[MsProsperity]

Buy him gifts unexpectedly, you know him he’s your man.

[SotiCoto]

You can't make him feel loved. You can only do your best and hope it pays off.

[boobliker]

do things he likes, not what you think he likes, they are different.

[Nifrayu]

You could try telling him what you love about him.

[gorydetails]

drain his balls daily

[dougeats]

a bj is always a good start

[wierdfetishguy]

Find out his kink and fullfill his desires

[lorenzomichael]

Wash his car.

[JayBones2469]

Suck his dick