Have you ever had someone crushing so hard on you? What did you do about it?

[jack1924]

[7Phoenix7]

Yep, mostly in high-school but then also afterwards when I was already in a relationship. So I'd be nice and just let them know I'm already in a relationship.

There was one guy though, not too long ago I literally had to ghost him. Because he wouldn't take my answer seriously. We were friends for like a year and hung out but i just didn't see him as anything more than a friend. But he wanted more and wouldn't accept that I wasn't interested. He kept calling, texting, messaging me on social media. And then he started sending gifts to my address. So I blocked him and stopped answering at all. And ignored the gifts... and then eventually he stopped.

[jack1924]

Sounds like a stalker. Good he left you alone👍🏻

[7Phoenix7]

Yea, he was getting there lol thanks

[jack1924]

👍🏻👍🏻

[Altheavas]

Now, I understand how that feel, I feel bad for them.
Attraction turns a normal person into a creep!
Internally or externally it’s torture!

[KrisKris81]

Yes, there were even a few times I could almost feel her cringing at herself because she would begin to act like a school girl. I was interested and tried to talk to her and "unintentionally" stay a little longer, but she would either leave or usher me out. After this continued happening, I just remained cordial with her. Eventually, it got to the point where I couldn't tell if she was messing with me or if she did have a crush on me. So, I just left it alone.

[jack1924]

That’s better

[JacobJordan]

A few that I know of. Found out when they admitted outright "I like you romantically you are super hot, sweet and I love spending time with you" at that time I was busy finishing college and getting my lab up and running so was too busy to be dealing with relationships. I ended up in one anyways shortly after I finished college

[jack1924]

Timing is a real problem.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Oh, sweetheart, lovebombing is the term, and yes, it's happened a time or two. When someone's crushing hard, it's like being caught in a romantic comedy without a script. What did I do? Well, the first thing is to communicate openly. Let them know where you stand, gently but firmly, whether you're feeling the love or just not in the same emotional zipcode. Honesty, mixed with a dash of kindness, is always the best policy. After all, love might be blind but neighbors definitely aren't, and you don't want to end up starring in 'The Awkward Chronicles of Unrequited Love,' do you? 😉 Keep it light, keep it respectful, and who knows? Maybe you'll end up with a friend, or if Cupid's really in your corner, something more.

[jennifer_bloom]

I think the two most serious crushes by guys that I can think of where there was no mutual interest were toxic. One guy had all these weird fantasies about Asian girls and treated me like I was a rabbit and not a person. The other guy was a psychopath with perverted porn curiosities and he tried to kidnap me. I've had other guys like me, but they were not obsessed with me the way these crazy guys were and most of these guys liked me cause I liked them back.

[jack1924]

That’s scary lol

[DishLady]

Yeah, it happens occasionally.
As long as he doesn’t act on it, I don’t say anything, but if they do and I’m not into it I pull the breaks on it so the guy isn’t being dragged along unfairly with false hope or expectations.

[beebella]

Sure, in middle/high school. I didn't like them back, so nothing happened with them.
I don't know how anybody could've had a crush on me in middle school, those were my prime uggo years. 🤣

[jack1924]

I am sure they have a good reason to crush on you lol

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Just be honest, respectful and if you have the patience to do so, non dismissive.

I never found a great way to deal with that myself I guess lol

[jamesgoldman]

Nothing because I was oblivious until they made it explicitly obvious

[jack1924]

Then how did you react about it?

[jamesgoldman]

Dated a couple had to turn down a third because I was dating one of the others

[Anonymous]

Yeah I had this one girl ask me out. This was when I wasn't old enough to know how to handle it better and I didn't give a straight no. But I didn't give her a yes. So it's like I left her in a no man's land. So for the next 6 months she kept bringing it back up as though she was hoping I'd change my mind.

[DrPepper12]

Circumstances dictated that I had to ignore it and not even acknowledge it..

[jack1924]

Yeah, timing and circumstances are major elements

[Lottydotty]

Alright one kiss that's it. Okay just the tip alright. Okay just one kid that's it. Nah but fr next time it'll be friends with benefits situation. I was young numb and dumb last I had someone obsessed.

[NathanDavis]

crushing, yes... "hard"? I do not think so

[loveslongnails]

Not since I was about 10 lol... that I knew of.

[OfMiceandMen]

Way long ago in high school, not anytime recently. LOL

[Dongie]

Yeah, but I'm an asshole and did my best to act as if i DIDN'T NOTICE.

[Sevenpointfive]

yeah. but if i didn't do anything about it then the question is answered

[Anonymous]

hehe you said "hard on". 😆