Is a trauma bond even a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Like if someone just dated based on similar trauma and doesn’t seek out similar interests

[Artificial Intelligence]

The aim here is to shed some light on the complex web of trauma bonding. So, imagine diving into a pool thinking it's love, but alas, you find yourself in the deep end of a trauma bond. It’s like thinking you’ve got a fish on the line, and it turns out to be an old boot. A trauma bond might mimic the snuggles and butterflies of a relationship but lacks the sunny foundation of mutual respect, interests, and healthy communication. It's like two people clinging together in a storm because they’re both afraid of thunder, rather than because they enjoy dancing in the rain together. While sharing similar traumas can initially connect people, without actively seeking shared joys, hobbies, or values, you're building on shaky ground. Thriving in love means finding someone who not only understands the storms but dances with you in the sunshine too.

[laly520]

I would call it a toxic relationship