What's one lesson you'd like others to learn about staying in a long term relationship?

[Anonymous]

[D_Bone_Steak]

To someone that is setting out to be in one... don't fool yourself into thinking your long-term relationship is going to be like someone else's and don't expect other's to be like yours.

My wife and I have adapted to each other... gone are the days of arguments for us. But some couples don't even exist unless they constantly battle.

Other than that... don't commit to such a thing if you still have a drive for some strange, or a desire for sexual attention from the opposite sex still. Yeah yeah, famous people do it, but look at their usual divorce rate. Attention whores not only fuck up their relationships from outsiders, they become annoying as fuck to the partner that might just need a time out from all the kissy-kissy cuddle time bullshit. Basically, if you can't entertain yourself, self-validate, or other such selfish issues... don't bother until you can do without the shit a fucking child needs. I mean think about it... what if a kid gets thrown in the mix? One or both of you being an adult child isn't going to be good for the kid.

[b_lova]

Don't try to change them. If you can't accept a person for who they are don't expect that your relationship or anything you do will change them.

Both of you must be willing to compromise equally.

[DishLady]

To be patient and logical in the harsh times. To offer an affirmation even when I’m dark times… especially when in dark times. To press for meaningful quality time together rather than pushing for a daily scheduled regimen because sometimes life happens and we can’t follow the strict schedule/routine.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Be selfish,

Be always a tad bit unreachable,

Have your own space and don’t change who you are for comforting someone else.

That’s the type of person people fall in love with.

Be unapologetically you.

[b_lova]

I hope you are trolling. This is the absolute worst advice on this subject.

[Bethany22]

I'd like people to learn that the amount of years one stays together has nothing to do with how much the person loves you. Only wanting to get married can reveal that.

[sheikalana]

That disagreements and arguments also happen in healthy relationships. Is not always sprinkles and rainbows sometimes you'll have beef with your SO and hurt each other and that's okay.

[Simslover92]

Accept the person for who they are. Don't try to change them.

[Nikki1989]

Good communication, compatibility, common interests and love.

[KrakenAttackin]

Deal with bad and abusive behaviors EARLY in the relationship. Don't assume the other person will suddenly wakeup and realize how awful s/he is.

[Awesomesauce2005]

Good communication is key for a long lasting relationship. Too bad not many women have that.

[IslaTheWitch]

trust, honesty and transparency

[Anonymous]

Use plenty of mouth wash, because you are going to do a lot of ass kissing.

[NathanDavis]

be worthy