What is your best advice to others about how to maintain a lasting relationship?

[Anonymous]

[Summeroflove]

Number one seek quality over quantity you may have a abundance of options or maybe not. But seek someone whose quality don’t just run with the first person don’t waste your time or better yet don’t waste someone else’s time if they’re not right. Do yourselves both a favor and move on.

Find someone whose compatible, someone can be a wonderful person but not be right for you. A lot of people will stay in relationships that aren’t meant to be simply because someone’s a good person. Maybe the compatibility is beliefs. Maybe someone wants to wait until marriage someone doesn’t. Maybe someone’s touchy feely and the other needs distance. Maybe it has to do with having children or just anything. It can also be what roles someone’s wanting to play in a relationship. Things such as having friends of the opposite sex. Clinginess someone clingy needs someone clingy someone distant needs someone whose also more distant.

Build a genuine bond with one another. Don’t chase superficiality and materialism you’ll notice the marriages that are all about that at some point or another will fail. Some sooner and others later you’ll see it fail. Sometimes if that genuine connection isn’t there later down the road someone will crave something deeper that can lead to affairs if someone lacks integrity (which marrying someone for the wrong reasons would suggest so). Plus beauty fades, things can happen financially, and the list goes on. You want someone there through thick and thin.

Find someone who puts equal amount of effort in. One sided relationships suck and the longer it goes on the more miserable you’ll become. A real relationship no matter what roles you’re wanting to play should be equal effort. Sometimes that may look different for different couples. Some relationships may be working equally as hard in different roles. That also comes down to compatibility. Trust me if you’re ever in a one sided relationship you’ll know how miserable it will become.

The biggest thing too is integrity…. Find someone you love because you have a lot in common. Because you’re compatible. Because you’re one another’s best friend. Because you love one another. You would die for one another. You sacrifice so much for one another…. Superficial relationships will never have that unless two people do serious work later on they may be able to make it.

If you’re married you both have to make the choice to stand by one another. Your marriage will be tested in good times and in bad times. It will be tested when there is opportunities to have affairs and you morally shut down even the idea of having a affair. You don’t even fantasize about it because for many people they can claim all day they would never act on it…. Eventually the fantasy isn’t enough anymore and they will just believe me.

Always take time if you feel like someone’s rushing something or the other extreme is future faking major red flags. Real relationships progress naturally and have communication letting one another know where they stand.

Real relationships communicate in healthy ways. Not expecting someone to be a mind reader or not telling someone when you’re upsetting them until they finally explode in anger. Real true love respects and genuinely loves one another for who they are as a human being.

[Tsmit240]

Damn that’s real

[Summeroflove]

@Tsmit240 that’s a lesson many will learn the hard way. Especially when they are too carried away by lusts.

[Summeroflove]

@Tsmit240 and not just men many women will as well.

[Tsmit240]

Yea, you should never be led by lust, it never ends well

[Summeroflove]

@Tsmit240 and a lot of people are led by that. It really never does. Especially when someone becomes too attached

[serious]

There are plenty of tips. Some of the are very basic and some might need to be improvised depending on how the relationship is going. Every relationship is also different in its own ways.

1. No manipulative mind games of any sort. Maturity is utmost important.

2. Being trustworthy and reliable. Never do anything that would make the other person question the trust and reliability.

3. Communication. Good and straightforward communication is a must

4. Being understanding and supportive towards their partner. Encourge them to follow their passion, their dreams etc.

5. Try to make life easier for them and not harder.

[Texasgal95]

Communication is a big thing but also making sure that you both equally give intake because someone’s gonna get burned out real quick if they feel like they’re the only one giving but again the biggest thing to keep that from happening is communicate your wants and needs to your partner and help them if they’re struggling on figure out how to meet those needs to work with themnot against them

[DishLady]

• Don't start what you can't finish.
• Don't go into it thinking you'll change the guy or that he will change you. This is an "as is" sort of deal.
• Look at the other person with a "clear eye" and not "rose colored glasses"

[Asker]

I wish I'd subscribed to your second point in college. I was somehow surprised in the end when I couldn't understand why my narcissist boyfriend wouldn't change for me, even though I knew he was one from the start.

[DishLady]

It’s ok. Live and learn.

[AI Opinion]

I'm all about creating those lasting connections, darling! My aim here is to sprinkle a little relationship magic on everyone's lives with some spicy advice. Keep those love flames bright by syncing up your communication styles. I mean, talk it out, but also listen like you're catching every word in slow-mo! Share dreams, fears, and favorite Netflix shows. Have a blast together, but also cherish those solo moments. A healthy combo of togetherness and independence keeps everything breezy and beautiful! 😘💙

[OlderAndWiser]

Don't expect perfection from your partner, and expect the relationship to require effort from you almost every day. When you are going to sleep with your partner, quietly remind her that being alone with her in bed - snuggling and just being cozy - is your favorite part of the day. Don't stop saying "thank you!" Always look for opportunities to give your partner a pleasant surprise.

[Chazmatazz269]

Open, honest communication and compromise is the bare minimum but there’s a trick to love everlasting.
Find yourself someone who will forego themselves entirely for your benefit. Then forego yourself for theirs.
Too many people are too consumed by what they get out of relationships and not at all by what they have to offer in return.

[Finchie40]

Respect and Honesty and loyalty , Wear her shoes the same way you want her wearing yours , Communication is key to having a long lasting happy relationship. And removing selfishness for each other. And understanding you can’t always be right and your partner is wrong , Learn to take accountability for your selfish behavior and actions.

[jennifer_bloom]

My aunt told me, don’t meditate on what you want, focus instead, on the things you must do to get what you want. Because wanting something is not the same thing as getting it.

[AviatorTom]

Remember that a relationship involves two people, not just yourself. Keep communication open, and learn to compromise.

[LiaRaven]

Be honest with yourself, don’t deceive

[TheSpaceGnome]

Marry someone who's brain is just like yours but whos body makes you horny as fuck.
No sex till marriage.
No religion
No pot, no alcohol, no smoking, no vaping, no shrooms, or any other recreational drugs.
Don't depend on your SO for money if you aren't also going to do the same for them when they need it.
Baby them when they are sick or upset.
Don't trust condoms or birth control, they fail a lot.
Get them checked for STDs before you even handshake.
Love them.
Don't lie even a little about anything.

[virgo2267]

Because the newer generation has to hear it… this is what I’ve learned so far..
1. BE RELIABLE
2. BE CONSIDERATE
3. INVOLVE HER IN MAKING DECISIONS THAT APPLY TO BOTH
4. BE A HELPER, NOT ONLY WITH THE KIDS, but COOKING FOOD
5. COMPLIMENT HER
6. BE SUPPORTIVE OF HER GOALS IN LIFE
7. NEVER FORGET IMPORTANT DATES (anniversaries)
8 ALLOW HER TO BE RIGHT EVEN IF SHE isn't
9. LET HER CRY, but don’t be the reason of why she is… unlesss they are tears of joy..
10. KISS HER EVERY DAY BEFORE GKING TO WORK, BED… etc.. it will ALWAYS give her peace of mind


There are a few other things I’ve learned in the bedroom… but NotSafeTo Share in this thread!

[juleyboo74]

Lower expectations!!! Good God what I see some young women are expecting out of relationships is unreal. Find a partner that will be loyal and be with you to the end. Who will defend you and has the same life goals (living experience, having children).

These young girls wanting a man to cuddle, make breakfast, look like Thor, make a million dollars at age 25... a lasting relationship is a shared experience. Sharing and trusting make the relationship last a long time.

[lightbulb27]

Learn to listen, love, seek compromise. Accept what you cannot change, work on what you can change for the better... in yourself, encourage and support the development of the other, pray to God but turn over what you cannot control.

Get lots of sleep, good food, and good food. learn to laugh, work together for the common good.

eat more chocolate? Global chocolate association thinks it improves relationships... it's a theory...

[Hal2002]

Do not listen to anyone that wants to give you advice, do what seems natural and works for you. Something that works for others, may not work for you.

As long as you really talk to each other, and are honest about things. You should, have a strong relationship that can take the storms life with throw you.

[ProbablyClueless]

Find someone who makes a distinct point of showing up and protecting you the way you need to feel protected.


That is every bit the feminine’s responsibility as it is the masculine’s.


I use something that I call the “Dentist Test.” Ask yourself whether the person you’re with is the type who, on their day off, would let you drive yourself to and from a dental surgery.

[Asker]

That's awesome advice that I hope people hear and understand! I also love that this falls on both persons in a couple. It's having that understanding of what it means to truly care for someone and the ideas of reciprocity.

[beenherebefore]

Open communication. Keep dating each other. Be intimate with each other. Be affectionate with each other. Be each other's priority. Always put each other first. Care for each other's day. Stay supportive. Be kind to each other. Do things for each other. Be a team.

[Twalli]

Be yourself from the start. Too many people try to be what they think the person they're after is looking for. Therefore, they're not being themselves and if they get that person to date them, that person didn't fall in love with the real version of you. If you want someone to love you for you, be you from the start. My fiancée and I were ourselves from the start. We fell in love with the real person and therefore there were no changes in personality after we started dating.

[Anonymous]

It's no surprise that some people have very good luck in this dept. And some have horrendous luck. Because really it has NOTHING to do with luck. It basically comes down to two things. 1. Your ability to choose decent people as partners. And 2. The level of effort you give.

It's really that simple.

[Asker]

Not so sure it's really that simple because there are a lot of wolves in sheeps clothing out there that present like they are wonderful people to try and get what they want for themselves. There is a long line of liars out there that one has to unfortunately discover along the way.

[Opinion Owner]

I refer you to point #1

In the words of Captain America, "I
can do this all day".

Yes there are liars. And they come in both genders. And what do women say when you talk about women liars from your past? "You chose them". "You should have known better".

One thing you'll NEVER catch me doing is blaming a woman from my past. Why? Because if I didn't properly vet her, then that's on ME. But this is a BIG problem with women. So many play the victim. They never take responsibility for the role the play in a relationship or the choices they make. You can't fix a problem if you don't understand you might be part of the problem.

Glad I could help.👍💯

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Advice as a question then: Do you need a lasting relationship in the first place?

Because, if lasting is the purpose, then this relationship will probably look like a job. A job you may like though.

[Caroline91]

First, be, open and really get to know each other. Then, if you find you’re a good match, take it to the next level and agree to be transparent with each other, make a mutual commitment and stick to it.

[ryanrhino]

Remind yourself why you're with that person and what initially attracted you to them. When things are stale, go back to the beginning.

[NathanDavis]

be genuinely into someone for who they genuinely are...

most other reasons might not last, trueness does last

[MikeTheBartender]

https://youtu.be/-xUGgKASrOw?si=SbTpXufXKPVq6Zcm

[sawno]

Always assume the other loves you and wants to find a path forward in a disagreement. Then don't be hostile but seek solutions.

[sawno]

@Nena99 Talking about a healthy relationship where you get into an argument.

[lilBigPotato]

Talk! Whether it's about problems, desires or just don't chit chat... Communication is important

[foxsquirrell]

Its not just about you, if the other half wants to quit there is nothing you can do. However on your part I think being honest and communicative is a good policy to not erode a good relationship.

[Phoenix98]

Having a relationship is like having a garden. Treat your relationship like you would a garden you want to grow and last.

[Screenwriter]

Patience, kindness, sense of humor, sense of adventure, good financial sense.

[EmmaMary]

The three C's... Communication... Commitment... Compromise.

[Sam1133]

I have this 3 Cs...
Emma give me permission to imagine you tonight...🥰

[soe11]

• To be adjustable yourself.
• To be adopted givee And take policy.
• Complementing each other infront of others.

[dragoblack]

Communication is super important. Don't do hints or manipulation, that will only cause issues. Also, its ok to walk away from a talk, as long as you come back with a cooled head

[StephanieChick111]

Clean his house, feed him, and make sure he cums every day.

[chrissykerdock]

think of a man like a cow

[StephanieChick111]

@chrissykerdock I'm a city girl but that makes sense. Lol

[chrissykerdock]

me too but a cow must be milked everyday

[StephanieChick111]

@chrissykerdock true and so do men. Sometimes more than once a day. Lol

[chrissykerdock]

men are worse than cows in that respect but that's because you must be too sexy

[StephanieChick111]

@chrissykerdock aww (blush)

[lorenzomichael]

Be honest and be trustworthy to each other. Because if you don’t do that throughout your relationship it will crack and crumble then fall apart.

[Anonymous]

Dates you will always need date nights to keep the spark going me and my husband try to have a date night at least 1-2 times a month

[Staximus]

Be considerate, loving, honest, and don't be a shit bag

[Sal_Monella]

Provide for time apart with he expectation of accounting for it.

[LiamJHayden]

Just here for the wisdom of others, since mine have never even made it to one year.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea, cause I was never in a relationship.

[TheMati]

Good communication, ability to Becker back and forth I think it’s healthy.

[SkimmingDetective]

Listen to your instincts.. don't trust easily

[Cashta]

What is your opinion on cuckolding, FLR, and hot wives?

[chrissykerdock]

give him blowjobs everyday

[exitseven]

Try to put the other person first

[Alex-Snow]

Honesty and good communication.

[Anonymous]

Listen. See the situation from their perspective.

[Brandi555]

Honestly and communication.

[TheoreticallyGreat]

Know when to just sit and listen to them.

[red_knight]

Don't fuck it up

[Bklynbadboy12]

Communication Communication Communication

[Sumitrathod123]

Go physical with him and love him more and more

[Kingofkings1992]

People actually still date? Wow

[Cheerfull009]

Love and respect

[Jammie2112]

Keep it spicy and new at everything

[DCVsMarvel2]

trust

[qwerty2469]

Don't live together

[Anonymous]

Dont be jealous