Ladies, is your partner mostly responsible for your happiness or lack of happiness?

[KrakenAttackin]

That is, is it your partners responsibility to make and keep you "happy"?

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I appreciate the answers below. I absolutely believe we are all individually responsible for our own happiness. Putting our happiness on another person is not only unreasonable, it will inevitably kill the relationship. The best relationships are formed by two already happy people.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Ladies that don't know how to entertain themselves and get bored... will blame.

Ladies that have always won the participation award and are failing now... will blame.

The one's that are happy, or not happy, but know they are where they are because of their own choices... based. Those chicks are not on TikTok describing their L's and not understanding why they're losers.

[KrakenAttackin]

@D_Bone_Steak. D bone steak for the win!

[Juxtapose]

Your own happiness is your own responsibility and I hope women see it that way.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Jumping right into the deep end, aren't we? 😏 Love is a dance, and happiness in a relationship is like the music that makes us move. It's not all on one partner to DJ this party. It’s a team effort! Sure, your partner plays a big role in adding beats to your happiness track, but don't forget, you've got some killer moves to contribute as well. In the grand love story, your happiness is a co-written chapter, not a solo act. Spice it up with communication, understanding, and a pinch of independence. Remember, it's about creating a mixtape of memories that's worth hitting replay for, not waiting for someone else to hit play for you. 😉 Keep it lively, keep it loving!

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am responsible for my happiness, the men in my life only enhance it a little and enjoy it along with me.

[PeachyPie93]

I used to think this way in my first relationship. He promised to always make me happy and take care of me, promised me "dreams" and things we will do together, things he will give me, places we will go, just to keep me tied to him but those were things he couldn't keep or do. I quickly learned from the next guy I liked that isn't how life worked, and he put me in my place. I now realize humans will only take from you, let you down and disappoint. I changed and now just do my own thing I don't let anyone get close enough for me to get attached and that way they don't effect my emotions at all.

[turnpost]

The lesson here, is that it goes both ways. You can't just take take take, and then say ohh the world is a sht place, when you haven't given anything back.

[PeachyPie93]

@turnpost Lol I wasn't only taking. If I was only taking I don't think we would have lasted 11 years. I realised in the first 2 years I can't depend on him for my happiness. But after dating more I realise people just are time pass nothing more.

[turnpost]

Yeah life, only has so many things we can do and then we pass on. Time pass is how most people actually live there lives unfortunately.

[PeachyPie93]

@turnpost yeah but most seems like a waste and not worth the time.

[KrakenAttackin]

@turnpost Absolutely, positively, correct! You reap what you sow.

[PeachyPie93]

How do you reap what you sow? Lol

[KrakenAttackin]

@PeachyPie93. Unfortunately, most women take FAR more than they give in a relationship. Most women think just showing up is "giving enough"..

[PeachyPie93]

Perhaps, but I was a good girlfriend. I just thought in a relationship we were always gonna have fun together like be each others best friend. Like his initial interest in me was because I was funny so we used to always joke and have fun together. But it wasn't like that after 2 years of living together he started ignoring me a lot, watching shows only he liked, played games for hours or days, stopped wanting to go anywhere, on weekends would go out with his friends but never go anywhere with me. So he started making me feel sad. I kept always trying to make him laugh and hoped he would give me attention but he only gave it when he wanted to. I stayed in that stupid relationship for way too long trying to make something broken work. Until I finally broke and had to leave and get psychological help. So now I know to not trust or depend on guys because they can't be your everything, they can only be your once in awhile thing.

[turnpost]

Most women give a lot more when there older. Lol where are you getting your information? A good mom is allooootttttt of work. The Dad most often times does work, which in our case doesn't really change our script much. (tldr dont generalize)

[Lliam]

I was never in a relationship with a woman who thought it was my "responsibility" to make her happy. Those girls were already happy. We just made each other happy by liking each other a lot, going places and doing things together, and having sex. But they didn't depend on me for gifts or financial support. Although we did give each other small gifts of affection at times to show that we thought about and cared for each other.

A person is responsible for their partner's happiness by paying attention to them, being supportive, and not inhibiting their happiness.

[DishLady]

If you’re really close to a person it’s hard not to latch at least a % of your happiness to (1) whether your SO is also happy and (2) whether your SO is treating you in a way that is positive so that you’re also happy.


MOSTLY responsible… I’d say no because we each still have to make life choices, and that’s on us. Only folks who are very insecure and struggle with low self esteem hang 80+ % of their hopes on the other person making them happy.

[whereismyjohnny]

Your partner shouldn't be responsible for your happiness, whether you are male or female. It's your own responsibility, not your partner's or anyone else's. Partner can contribute to your happiness or keep you happy but it's unfair to expect someone else to ''provide'' your happiness.

[dustybiker2]

Good question. Yes. They definitely play a part in the balance. When you have a stable person to bounce troubles off of they make you stronger and in turn happier.

[dustybiker2]

Oop missed the description. Responsibility? I wouldn't put it like that. I'd say more.. if somebody loves you they want to keep you happy.

[JacobJordan]

Dual response: responsible not really but a contributing factor absolutely. We do have a responsibility to each other to not make the others life harder or more stressful. So in a way yeah we are somewhat responsible for making each other happy. But not out of a sense of obligation. More as a "I like seeing my wife/husband happy it makes me happier"

[CriticalCatDad]

If that were true why are married men so miserable?

[JacobJordan]

@CriticalCatDad I am married and I am quite happy. My wife is a big part of that happiness. As for your question the biggest reason is a lot of women have forgotten that when it comes to a relationship she is the reason it is positive or negative. A guy will be what he is allowed to be so if he feels he can't open up he will be quiet and the relationship will suffer. If he fells he can be open he will be more vocal and the relationship will thrive. You look at the way couples act in public you can tell off just watching which ones have healthy relationships and which ones are not healthy. Even as a naturally quiet and laid back man I know I can be open around my wife so I am more animated even in public because I know she will not use that against me. Where as a buddy of mine has a mmm less than welcoming woman. He is very open and animated but when around her he looks like a cornered animal.

[CriticalCatDad]

I don't trust women theyre too privileged and constantly play th victim they're walking headaches. They bring no happiness.

[JacobJordan]

@CriticalCatDad depends on the woman. I married a woman from outside the US because they haven't lost their femininity, they want men to be men. Not only do they want that they expect it. The man is the leader and they naturally defer to their man to lead. They also know when to shut up. When they disagree they voice it politely and respectfully. When they want to share an opinion they do so politely and respectfully. If men want women they need to stop wasting their time in the west.

[CriticalCatDad]

I agree they should but I personally am not going to go outside of the country to seek something I don't want. I don't want sex or children or marriage

[JacobJordan]

@CriticalCatDad yeah and honestly that is the only reason to be with a woman or man long term. Both of us know that if the other hadn't wanted children we never would have married or even gotten into a relationship. If one wants companionship they can buy a cat or dog. If they want sex they can pay a whore. If they want food they can order take out, eat out, cook, hire a cook. If they want a clean house they can clean it or hire someone to clean it. We live in a day and age where the only remaining reason for a relationship is children. Everything else can be done alone or hired/acquired.

[msmissydc]

He is often a reason to be happy. But he is not responsible for it. Of course he is by far the person I have the most contact with, because we life together. Even than happyness and sadness can have so many different reasons though.

[Abbycado]

Not dating, but when I was, it was not his “job” to make me happy. He did just by being with me. We had fun together.

[CriticalCatDad]

Shouldn't be. People should me making themselves happy not expecting their partners to do it for them.

[sheikalana]

Is not his responsibility to make me happy but his presence makes me so happy and brings so much joy into my life.

[worldscolide]

Just here for the ladies responses, so far pretty good. I agree lol it's not the man's job to be responsible for her happiness.

[Anonymous]

Ultimately, you are responsible for your own happiness. Noone can do this for you. But you can hinder or help. Better to help, don't you think.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Many have a breakup lol 😆🤣 they then either don't feel bad or they hate the ex lol even deleting old pornos and couples photos for all I know lol 😆

[Ms_Facesitter]

He's not responsible, but he brings me way more happiness than unhappiness.

[OddBeMe]

Good Q. I’d say like everything it’s a two way street. If she’s not happy, why and do I know?

[Charliefretz329]

Happiness comes from within

[msc545]

Should not be, but seems like it often is.