Does having a partner make you happier or feel more fulfilled in life?

[Pinay_ako]

Do you need another person to make you happy? If being alone makes you lonely and feel meaningless?

[Smoke-n-Growls]

No.

If you depend on someone else for you to feel happiness or fulfiment, that's not healthy.

Those are things you need to be able to feel independently, because that puts a lot of pressure and stress on your partner if they're the ones ending up responsible for keeping you happy or fulfilled.

You're a whole person, not a pet.

To me, at least, someone who depends on me to feel happy or fulfilled is a huge drain. My past two partners have been that. They had no idea how to be happy on their own, or how to find purpose in their life or day. When I would go do things that made me happy or brought meaning, they'd end up staying home and playing video games.

I ultimately ended up growing out of the relationships (alongside having other more pressing reaaons) because of this.

It also put a huge strain on my own health and happiness. It felt like having to manage an employee or care for a child, not have an equitable partner in a romantic relationship.

The way I see it, it's best if we ourselves cultivate happiness (a transitory emotion, not a constant state - that is contentment) independent of things outside our control as much as possible. Find a hobby, create something, read a new book, learn a new skill. And find fulfiment likewise outside of someone else. Perhaps try volunteering or joining a sports league.

Instead of depending on your partner to find your happiness or fulfilment, go seek it out yourself. Then you can SHARE your happiness and fulfilment with your partner, and build them up as you help yourself do the same. Likewise, expect that of them, so you both contribute to a lively story.

It's totally great to experience more happy moments when you have a partner - you have twice the stories and experiences, and love is beautiful. But to need on to feel fulfilled or happy is unhealthy.

[PamelaRivers]

It can be fun, but I'm seeing more each day now that I don't need some else to be happy.

[rebeliouse]

@pamelarivers
u go girl nice to hear a girl thats happy in her own skin :D

[Lliam]

I always hated not having a girlfriend, mainly because sex with a woman who has a strong feminine libido, is into me, and gives herself completely to me and to her own appetites is the rapturous.

I never needed anyone to make me feel complete, but I do love women. I enjoy having a female partner to hang out and converse with, go places, do things and have fun with. It's joyful when my sex partner is my best friend.

I love the way women look, sound, and behave. I like to hug, kiss and touch them. I feel proud to have a girlfriend and like a loser when I don't.

When I finally got married, I learned what true partnership was. I love our home and our life together. We trust each other completely, strive to make each other happy, and work to build a good future together.

We've had so much fun and built so many memories over the past 25+ years. I can't imagine life without her. A happy home would be impossible. I'd be lonely and feel worthless. Not even good friends match having a partner who is my best friend for life, has pledged herself to me (and I to her), and wants my happiness (as much as I want hers) above all other things. It's also wonderful to have best friend that I can trust and confide in. She knows all my flaws, behaviors, habits, moods and attitudes, and still adores me.

I was 40 and she was 38 when we met. We got married two years later.

[Tinana]

Lliam this is beautiful 🥺

[Lliam]

Thanks, Tinana. 🤗

[qwert1234]

need? no.
But having a partner gives a different "happy vibe".
Well, depends on the partner.

[jennifer_bloom]

It would depend on the person, some guys are sweeter then peaches and some guys are more deadly than poison.

[Pinay_ako]

Love this

[Sonorous]

Nah. It would make me feel more stressed. I don't like there being so many responsibilities & limitations just for a lifetime membership to bOink someone.

[Sonorous]

They need to change my title to "de-influencer"

[AmandaYVR]

Fulfilled at times; suffocated at times.

[Pinay_ako]

Suffocated? How

[AmandaYVR]

Partners can be supportive or they can be critical, but most often it's a combination and ever-changing state. The longer you are together, the more they think they know you, and though some or many of their conclusions may be right, not all of them are. That situation of always being judged and critiqued can be suffocating. Over time, patterns develop, and it can be near impossible to change certain dynamics that get built between you. They believe they know you, and you are who you are, but they may not want to acknowledge their influence, their personality, and that their opinions of you are also just opinions, based on who they are themselves. Suddenly when you are around other people, you may be seen differently. Why? Because even if we are a fairly consistent person, not a chameleon, a different dynamic is created with a different person. Always being with one person can make you lose your sense of autonomy; even of the self.

[Pinay_ako]

I agree

[RedStealthOperative]

So there's two sides to this coin. On the one side, yes, it can definitely increase happiness and fulfillment overall. But on the other, do you need a partner to be happy? No. Do you need a partner to be fulfilled in life? No.

If you think you need a partner to complete you, then that would be an issue. Making someone else, even your spouse responsible for your own happiness and fulfillment is placing too much on them. That doesn't mean that it's not healthy to find a sense of joy and fulfillment when you are with them. And no, it does not mean that this negatives any form of responsibility on your partner. But wanting a partner simply for the sake of fulfilling your needs is an indication that you are still too selfish to give of yourself in a relationship that requires two whole people to make things work. Using the word "whole" as in the sense of being complete and secure in who they are.

A relationship, they say, is about give-and-take. But if you want a long lasting one that defies statistical odds, you're gonna need one that's about give-and-give 100% on both ends!

[RavVid]

It ought to make you happier oughtn it? I am pretty happy with my own company and youtube.

Of course we all have sexual desires that we have to satisfy but putting that aside what else is the positive side of the ledger for me? It's a good question to ask myself I think so that is how I will interpret the Q.

1. Leaving aside as said satisfying sexual desire, I undoubtedly do sleep better with a girl lying beside me and wake more refreshed and ready to take on the world again.
2. Sharing food with some one reaches back to our tribal past and there is a satisfying aspect to it. We get a hit from a humble pizza and a shared hit is better than s solitary hit.
3. Watching a movie is in a similar category (but doesn't go back to our tribal past). A shared fav movie gives a buzz. I would be unlikely to watch a movie by myself.
4. There are undoubtedly economies of scale with a partner from house cleaning and cooking to groceries and utilities. Not that important.
5. We all will have bad days. I will never want to go into it but it does help to have some one you side.

They are the main ones I can think of off the top. Small things mostly. Then there is not having to out to get sex; that's a big time saver.

[sixofspades]

I'm not unhappy or unfulfilled alone, I can live alone my entire life like that if I really wanted to, that includes being completely Asexual too, but I'd feel more comfortable, less lonely, and happier to have someone to share my life with and to build with.

So yes, I would feel happier with my forever person - not someone who wants to date for one month, 7 months, a whole fuking year, then break up because it just wasn't working - like they didn't want to work on it - like the person that's my one and only, that wants to be with me and wants to work with me, and build; then and only then, will I be happier with someone then without.

[Rose_84]

A wrong person won't cure your loneliness, they'll temporarily numb it for few hours but when u wake up the next day, you'll feel empty again because deep down you know they don't really care or are being authentic with you.
In fact they'll make you feel even more meaningless and make you settle for cheap things they have to offer. Instead of curing you, they'll add more codependent traits, emptiness, irrational emotions, low self worth and will shape you into the perfect tool that will satisfy their inner greed.

[Tinana]

I’m with the greatest person ever 🥺 he’s sweet and isn’t afraid to show emotions. He makes me feel like the most important person ever. He always tells me I’ll always be his top priority. It’s easy to talk to the one you love, sexual activities are even more meaningful and exciting because you can try and express yourself and know he’ll always puts your interest first. I don’t need another person to be happy I love myself already if I ever felt sad I’d think of new ways to pamper myself. But what I can say is having someone love you so much is one of the greatest feelings. It’s add to the value you already have. So if you’re happy it makes you happier. 🥺 that’s exactly how I feel with him and I know I’d want to always feel this way hopefully I make him feel the same well.

[DaveJord]

No I do not feel I need to have another person to feel happy or satisfied with myself. Being a lone doesn't make me feel meaning less or depressed... but it does make me feel lonely from time to time. I mean I would not want just any women, just soto feel fulfilled or whole, because the wrong women can cause you a lot of stress and anexity... and thats far worse to me than being alone.

With all that said, I am currently dating an amazing women that makes me very happy. She treats me very well and I care about her very much. So does that make me feel better about myself and more satisfied with my life... yes on some level I guess it does.

I hope everyone could be so lucky.

[DrewJay]

Firts aline doesn't make me feel meaningless. There is a difference being lonely because you miss having human interaction. Not sex every one sex sex. I am talking about feeling them near hearing their voice. A touch her a hand hold there. Even watch tv while laying in ones arms or they lay in your lap. Little things like a kiss a hug thats all. I can tell you that not having any one can be better than a lot of things. Some times people on yhe web play make believe or wait and see some are trolls and some are secret. But when it comes yo dating online with no real time frame to see and lots of red tape then yes it is a hassle. Some hassles are worth doing in life. Some people are worth the hassles in life. I know my messages are long 🤣🤣

[HawkPerception]

I answered the same thing in your other post, but I much prefer having a partner than not. It's lonely and depressing being alone, especially when you have no one to talk to and understand you. Having a partner gives you the communication and connection you desire, the physical intimacy, and the experiences that you share with someone that makes life just that much more worth living.

[Pinay_ako]

This inspired me to ask this question. Thank youb

[HawkPerception]

I'm honored 😁

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 answers intrigue me and I use that content for my next question. 😜

[ChrisMaster69]

It’s not the having a partner, as not any partner would do.

it’s having that emotional connection, where it’s deep with you both.

for example in a D/s relationship with a deep emotional connection.

This really bonds both of you with a mutual fulfilment.

So much so you say say things at same time and know how the other is no matter the distance.

[Mia-Wallace]

Yeah ❤

So true.

There's no veil and dishonesty. You start knowing each other in ways that most other people don't. You also know yourself through your dom.

[ChrisMaster69]

@Mia-Wallace yes very much so.

As the sub looks up at her Dom and he looks down at his sub, both souls are laid bare and open, the real true selves are what each sees.

[Harleigh90]

@ChrisMaster69 So true 🥰

[ChrisMaster69]

@Harleigh90 yeah some understand it

[flipflopBD5]

When I met my wife she went to divorce about a year ago I have seen her before in the clubs and we've spoken and she said she was single I asked her oh you must be having a great time she said she hated it. I loved being single, but for some reason she did not. We got together and have been for the last 23 years. I guess because I was in my mid 30s when we got together and being a Marine I was in So many places. It's been so long now we've been together I can't imagine my life being single now. (But I did really enjoy, oh no, really really enjoy being single. But nothing absolutely nothing compared to I love my wife

[midnightmoon05]

Don’t need another person to make me happy. ideally… two people come together with a set of clear standards = love, joy to share.
it enhances the relationship. I m complete on my own ways… and he is in his own ways… we bring our complete self to share with the new partner. the goal is to bring joy to the other…
many, feel it’s important to find someone to avoid loneliness.

[Farzaneh22]

It is much better to be alone and life your life as you want. Being single/alone is better than being in a relationship or even a marriage that makes you feel lonely and like the absolute shit. Learn from my mistake and don’t get into a relationship with someone you’ve met for a short amount of time and never have kids with them. You have to take at least 1 or 2 years to know the other person and spend as much time as you can with them to know their personality and how they are with different situations. And NEVER EVER ruin yourself and have a baby with someone you don’t know 100%.

[GurlMaster40]

Having a partner should not be what gives you happiness. While, being with someone who promises to be there with you and love you no matter what, it shouldn’t be what fulfills us entirely because what if that relationship ends and you told yourself it made you feel complete, well, without that relationship then you would be incomplete, right? Just something to think about. 🙂

[melanieeeB]

I can thankfully be alone and yeah a partner can make me feel good but I find it really awful when they leave and everytime, even when it was just someone I was dating for a while, I wish it wouldn't happen again and rather stay alone... until I meet someone again lol oh boooy smh whatever

[shaysh87]

having a partner or being in love does not necessarily make you happier.

I know of many married men who are lonely in their marriages but still love their wives very much. Or men who are in abusive marriages but are too in love with their wives to leave.

Finding love is really not the secret to happiness. As many young naive people would believe.

[Ευδεμονια]

I sincerely think that a good relationship with myself is a fundamental basis for my life. I don’t mean I have to accept everything of myself or telling myself I’m better than il anyone, but simply I think I can spend time by myself without the need to be necessarily with another person.
So, to answer, no, I won’t feel meaningless by myself.
On other hand, I can feel alone, since sometimes some human warmth can be appreciable.

[domjervis]

I would absolutely LOVE to meet & be with a woman who makes me feel happy and complete.

I (comfortably) retired eight years ago (I will turn 64 next month), & am very lucky and blessed that I am "set" for the rest of my Life. I would LOVE to find a woman with whom I can share this absolutely wonderful phase of my Life. Sadly, I have only met two women who would even go on a date with me. One "gave me the pink slip" after our second date. The other broke up with me three months after our first date. Oh yeah, and she gave me the "I just don't see us making it long term" the day after I took her out to dinner for her birthday.

I keep hoping. But it does get tougher to stay hopeful.

[Bl0n6eguy]

"Don’t wait to love until you’re too old, and don’t wait to brake until you’re out of landing strip!" ~ War Thunder.

On a more serious note: Hope you find a good one soon man. The stats are in your favour if you want someone your age, since most men date younger than themselves after 30.