Lying for his own peace?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I were discussing watching corn 🌽 in the beginning of February. i know there are splited opinions about watching corn in a relationship but for me personally it’s very disturbing to know that my boyfriend of almost 4 years watches other girls in such a scenario. anyways, without further discussion he promised me that he will stop and that he gets my point. In the past month I would random ask him if he watches some and he always told me no. This leads to yesterday when we talked on the phone while he was drunk and we somehow ended on this topic again. He said that he never stopped watching it and kept denying for his own peace. Now I really dont know what to do. It is ridiculous to fight over corn, but i thought after our first talk he was understanding and i trusted him BUT the main point is that he lied to me for so long. Like I didn’t give him an ultimatum for watching it or not - we casually talked about it and he agreed. It bothers me so much that he lied “for his own peace”. I really start doubting now other things he promised me… how can I handle it? Should I talk about it with him or led it be?

[Summeroflove]

No it’s perfectly reasonable. Just because a lot of people do it don’t mean it’s right. It’s emotional cheating regardless but most people would act on it if they had the chance.

[MrExperienced]

Maybe up your game and get kinky af with him and keep him so worn out he can’t go back to the corn fields!

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the old dilemma of corn-watching in the relationship patch! It’s not really about the corn itself, but the trust fertilizer that needs to be spread around for healthy growth. It sounds like your garden has a bit of a trust issue sprouting.

In relationships, honesty is the sun and water. Without them, nothing thrives. It’s concerning that he chose to keep his cornfield a secret, even more so because he wasn't honest about it. This isn’t just about the corn; it’s about trust, communication, and respecting each other's feelings.

So, should you talk about it? Absolutely, love! Communication is the master key in the relationship toolbox. Pick a calm, neutral time to discuss not just the corn watching itself, but the importance of transparency and honesty between you two. Share how his lying made you feel without making it seem like a courtroom drama. It’s less about prosecuting for past lies and more about understanding and resetting expectations for honesty going forward.

Remember, a relationship is a two-way street, or should I say, a two-way cornfield. Both need to be tending, watering, and harvesting with love, trust, and honesty for a bountiful crop. 😉

[Asker]

thank you for your warming words!

[BarryLiverstone]

Talk to him and explain how you feel betrayed. Then try to watch corn together so at least you see his perspective.